- Jun 16, 2016
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Hello everyone,
I am in a somewhat new relationship and I have disabilities. He also has disabilities as well and we both struggle with anxiety. Due to my anxiety and how bad it gets I have a very poor memory and I think me having ADHD also affects us. He is very sensitive when it comes to topics about race or about our differences. I see these two topics very differently in a much more optimistic celebratory way. While he gets defensive or uncomfortable when talking about these things. I try to remember this the best that I can. I have made a list a few times but ended up deleting it a couple times thinking I was improving. But then this week has been very rough, because I've discovered again that I have not memorized or have fully changed to be more respectful to his sensitivities when it comes to these topics. I try not to talk about them at all but, this week I honestly forgot again and I wrote myself a note again for probably the third time. I put a note on that note that even if things are looking good or better to not delete it and for me to read it daily. So that I remember not to talk about these things. My boyfriend did say that he's a very patient person but, human patience can only go for so long. And I'm really starting to panic because, when I am about to have that time of the month that's when things really get bad with my anxiety and my memory and depression as well. Him and I have discussed these things before that I have a bad memory and that me remembering to not talk about these things with him is going to take a while and it's going to take a lot of patience and at times forgiveness because, I forget. And I frequently forget. I just keep praying to God that our Lord will continue to give him patience and forgiveness and for me to remember not to talk about these topics with him because, I really don't want to upset him or his family. Which I have had talks with them about this, too.
I am in a somewhat new relationship and I have disabilities. He also has disabilities as well and we both struggle with anxiety. Due to my anxiety and how bad it gets I have a very poor memory and I think me having ADHD also affects us. He is very sensitive when it comes to topics about race or about our differences. I see these two topics very differently in a much more optimistic celebratory way. While he gets defensive or uncomfortable when talking about these things. I try to remember this the best that I can. I have made a list a few times but ended up deleting it a couple times thinking I was improving. But then this week has been very rough, because I've discovered again that I have not memorized or have fully changed to be more respectful to his sensitivities when it comes to these topics. I try not to talk about them at all but, this week I honestly forgot again and I wrote myself a note again for probably the third time. I put a note on that note that even if things are looking good or better to not delete it and for me to read it daily. So that I remember not to talk about these things. My boyfriend did say that he's a very patient person but, human patience can only go for so long. And I'm really starting to panic because, when I am about to have that time of the month that's when things really get bad with my anxiety and my memory and depression as well. Him and I have discussed these things before that I have a bad memory and that me remembering to not talk about these things with him is going to take a while and it's going to take a lot of patience and at times forgiveness because, I forget. And I frequently forget. I just keep praying to God that our Lord will continue to give him patience and forgiveness and for me to remember not to talk about these topics with him because, I really don't want to upset him or his family. Which I have had talks with them about this, too.
