Tropical Wilds
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I totally agree with you. Completely.
My ex-husband started dating, ended up getting married, having kids... I was thrilled. I truly, truly was. He'd moved on, which is a beautiful thing. The fact that he had kids with somebody, which was such a bone of contention with us, just went to show to me that, yes, right decisions were made all the way around. I was thrilled because it meant that we agreed that we were no longer each others problem in a way that was almost more concrete then the divorce. Everybody has moved on, everybody is happy. Fantasmic.
For my husband and his ex, however... See above. Even to this day, we've moved on, we have kids, and it's been years... But I know for a fact that if he were to say to her what this guy said to the OP, it'd be like the divorce never happened. As it is, we know every nuance is carefully dissected to mean something it doesn't and it's just mind boggling to both of us. For example, when she dated some bonehead and they broke up, it somehow became our issue... My email was broken into by her idiot ex and forwarded to her, and the screaming match my husband and I got into with the idiot in a parking lot was not his rage over this guy bothering me and stealing my personal information, it was an obvious sign of some sort of residual feelings towards her. Obviously. :smack:
Like I said before, he wants a postmortem on the relationship, fine. But any belief that means a new relationship with a different end result is just asking for trouble. He's moved on and given all indication of as much.
My ex-husband started dating, ended up getting married, having kids... I was thrilled. I truly, truly was. He'd moved on, which is a beautiful thing. The fact that he had kids with somebody, which was such a bone of contention with us, just went to show to me that, yes, right decisions were made all the way around. I was thrilled because it meant that we agreed that we were no longer each others problem in a way that was almost more concrete then the divorce. Everybody has moved on, everybody is happy. Fantasmic.
For my husband and his ex, however... See above. Even to this day, we've moved on, we have kids, and it's been years... But I know for a fact that if he were to say to her what this guy said to the OP, it'd be like the divorce never happened. As it is, we know every nuance is carefully dissected to mean something it doesn't and it's just mind boggling to both of us. For example, when she dated some bonehead and they broke up, it somehow became our issue... My email was broken into by her idiot ex and forwarded to her, and the screaming match my husband and I got into with the idiot in a parking lot was not his rage over this guy bothering me and stealing my personal information, it was an obvious sign of some sort of residual feelings towards her. Obviously. :smack:
Like I said before, he wants a postmortem on the relationship, fine. But any belief that means a new relationship with a different end result is just asking for trouble. He's moved on and given all indication of as much.
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