For those of you who may have seen my thread in the young adults forum on how far honoring your father and mother should go, you might think that because I was asking about it, that I might be the first one to be honoring them. Newsflash, I'm probably the last to do it. And I'm tired of the way things are going.
The relationship I have with my mom is less than acceptable. My relationship with my dad is better, but still rocky as most often he jumps on her defense (maybe that's the right thing maybe it's not, I'm not sure entirely), and when I try to seek counsel from him on an issue I have with her, well I by default am assumed to have caused the issue so am not worthy of his advice.
For the past 11 years or so, my mom has wondered off and on, by my behavior, if I may have some autistic tendencies but was brushed off so she didn't persue iit until a year ago. Unfortunately, now no expert in the field will examine me because I'm an adult, so it looks like if that's the issue I'll never know so I must go on like it's not the issue.
Rambling about possible issues affecting my behavior around my mom aside, here's a synopsis of the problem:
I'm 20 years old, but you wouldn't know there was a zero behind that two (did I already start a thread on this somewhere? The zero behind the two comment sounds familiar...). I want what I want when I want it. I won't back down. Often it leads to me behaving in ways I later regret. When I do try to talk to her politely about issues, 99% of the time, even a conversation that begins quite diplomatically will reach a point where all goes downhill fast. The discussion degenerates so fast I don't know which one of us triggered the demise of the conversation, as we both like to blame each other for said demise.
I am a Christian, and to the best of my knowledge my mom (well my dad too) is not fully. I'd like to talk about Christ but am afraid to because with our relationship I won't look too much like a Christian. Either that or Christianity will look less appealing.
Does somebody have any ideas???
The relationship I have with my mom is less than acceptable. My relationship with my dad is better, but still rocky as most often he jumps on her defense (maybe that's the right thing maybe it's not, I'm not sure entirely), and when I try to seek counsel from him on an issue I have with her, well I by default am assumed to have caused the issue so am not worthy of his advice.
For the past 11 years or so, my mom has wondered off and on, by my behavior, if I may have some autistic tendencies but was brushed off so she didn't persue iit until a year ago. Unfortunately, now no expert in the field will examine me because I'm an adult, so it looks like if that's the issue I'll never know so I must go on like it's not the issue.
Rambling about possible issues affecting my behavior around my mom aside, here's a synopsis of the problem:
I'm 20 years old, but you wouldn't know there was a zero behind that two (did I already start a thread on this somewhere? The zero behind the two comment sounds familiar...). I want what I want when I want it. I won't back down. Often it leads to me behaving in ways I later regret. When I do try to talk to her politely about issues, 99% of the time, even a conversation that begins quite diplomatically will reach a point where all goes downhill fast. The discussion degenerates so fast I don't know which one of us triggered the demise of the conversation, as we both like to blame each other for said demise.
I am a Christian, and to the best of my knowledge my mom (well my dad too) is not fully. I'd like to talk about Christ but am afraid to because with our relationship I won't look too much like a Christian. Either that or Christianity will look less appealing.
Does somebody have any ideas???
Fortunately for you,Jesus has a solution for your problem.He stated that those who leave their families to serve Him will receive special rewards in heaven.So by leaving home to join a ministry,you will be pleasing God and at the same time ending the hateful relationship with your mother.Of course you will need to give up your need for instant self-gratification or you'll repeatedly find yourself in trouble with anyone you try to relate to or work for,but that's necessary.Your needs met on demand philosophy is totally alien to Christianity.It's best to search the internet for Christian employment agencies.There also is an organization called Youth With A Mission that trains young people to become missionaries.But you really need to make some major changes in your attitude first.Try following this biblical teaching,"take up your cross daily and follow Christ".Christianity is a religion of unselfishness.Here is another verse you probably need to memorize,"he who loves the world is an enemy of God".
