I'm sorry Niffer. The winters really used to get to me too come this time of year (fellow Canadian here), until I started supplementing with vitamin D. Have you tried that? Also, you could try a SAD light...I got one for a client for 70 bucks and his mood has been muh better since. It mimics natural sunlight and you just sit in front of it for 15 mins a day or so. Supposedly can help a lot with seasonal affective disorder. And of course, see a doctor/therapist if it isn't letting up. I also know how difficult it can be living with a spouse who is depressed. Sometimes I swear it's contagious!! (Hug)
I think I really should start supplementing with vitamin D, you're right.
And as for the contagious thing...yep, sometimes I feel like: "I was happy 'till you showed up and bummed me out." ..and then of course, I feel guilty about feeling that way....
On one hand, I want to say go and "curl into a ball and hide under my covers and have a pity party." But only do that if you put a time limit on it, like a day. On the other hand, I'm not sure how helpful that would be. I suppose it couldn't hurt if you plan ahead to do some things to lift your spirits after your pity party, like go out for a fun evening with your girlfriends, or have a comedy night with Remi or whatever other fun thing you can think of that is adult (I don't mean xxx, but rather not child-oriented) in nature. What kinds of things do you smile or laugh about? Oh...exercising is good for it - helps release endorphins, makes you feel better.
It really has been a long winter for most of the country. I've had a beautiful winter, but for the last couple of weeks we've been having snow storms. lol. We are having one right now, and it looks so pretty but makes me think today should be a pajama day.
I am one of those people who can't pity party for a day, I'm sorta an all-or-nothing kinda gal. If I let myself do that, I know it'd just make it harder for me to stop. Bizarrely that's why I don't take baths (unless I'm sick and have the chills) Baths make me feel melancholy. So I avoid those too. (lol!)
This winter HAS been beautiful, but frigid. I want to go out and run around so badly, that I've even thought of buying a gym membership so I can go and just move my body for an hour!
I've tried to take walks and such, but with a 2 year old, in -30 degree weather with 3 feet of snow, who refuses to use a stroller because she wants to walk, makes it pretty difficult.
So I feel like I've spent all winter indoors.
I think the body snatchers came and replaced NIffer. WHo is this?!? lol. Seriously though will be praying for you. I'm sure you will feel better in no time!
LOL! Thanks, I really appreciate it. Once spring hits, I'm really hoping that will help!
Prayers for you, Niffer. I think that HIJKLMNOP has some great suggestions. You had mentioned a while back about Remi supplementing with maca.....that may be another thing to try. You've been "the strong and 'happy' one" for so long now........it's bound to drain something out of you (physically even).
That's a really good idea too!
I should have been more prepared..Remi is in his own 'downswing' in his moods, and its made life...difficult, of late.
Like you said, I really try to be the "happy one" especially during these times, because I know that's what he needs.
That being said, I spent most of this past weekend crying.
Not because of any real tragedy, but when I feel THIS sad, I just let myself cry, knowing I'll feel better after.
Unfortunately that's not happening this time. I cry and I feel the same, which is why I'm worried. Crying almost always helps, at least for me.
Niffer...my sister...there are times when we, as women, give and give and give and eventually we run out of give. Sort of like a gas tank...you can only go so far before you have to go fill up again. Now, who's filling YOUR gas tank up?
Is there any way you could maybe explain to Remi that you NEED him to "fill your tank" and how to do it? Seeing a counselor definitely wouldn't hurt. Being depressed is not a sign of weakness...it's a sign you've been the strong one for just too long. Find ways to get your tank filled.
((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))), love and prayers from here! PM me if you'd like to talk. I'm a charter member of the "been there, done that" club!
Thanks ProudMomxmany. ((HUGS)) I can't rely on Remi to 'fill my tank' right now - he's having a hard time as it is.
Though he really IS trying, making sure we have time together and talking/cuddling, things to help me feel more 'connected'.
I feel a bit better today, but still kinda cruddy. I just need to get motivated again and rally.
~ Niffer
