Questions and thoughts on rings

[gsmithcat]

I was reading the thread on How many of you pray about it first before initiating?? and saw this quote:

I'd check their ring finger first.

This got me thinking about rings. Here's my questions:

1. How do you know if a ring has any significance?

I never know if it should be left hand or right hand or if it has to be a certain type of ring or if you can use a different finger besides the ring finger.

2. Do you ever wear a ring to hide your singleness?

I know a lot of girls who wear rings to keep guys from approaching them. Which I think is fine except for when they complain about their singleness. The thing for me is, I think it makes them basically unaproachable.

3. Is an expensive ring important to you?

If I ever get married, I do want to express how much I love the person, but it still freaks me out to think about how much money I'm expected to spend on a ring (I've had a lot of friends get married recently and between rings, wedding costs, and honey moon, I'm like ).

 

[JoJoButterfly]

I was reading the thread on How many of you pray about it first before initiating?? and saw this quote:
This got me thinking about rings. Here's my questions:

1. How do you know if a ring has any significance?

I never know if it should be left hand or right hand or if it has to be a certain type of ring or if you can use a different finger besides the ring finger.

2. Do you ever wear a ring to hide your singleness?

I know a lot of girls who wear rings to keep guys from approaching them. Which I think is fine except for when they complain about their singleness. The thing for me is, I think it makes them basically unaproachable.

3. Is an expensive ring important to you?

If I ever get married, I do want to express how much I love the person, but it still freaks me out to think about how much money I'm expected to spend on a ring (I've had a lot of friends get married recently and between rings, wedding costs, and honey moon, I'm like ).

1. Ask Everyone has different views on this. I know some girls that have a ring on their left hand ring finger- while single to indicate that they are saving themselves for marriage, then I know others who don't care, and others say to save that finger for engagement/ wedding ring. It can't hurt to ask

2. I've never heard of anyone doing it for this purpose. I'm sure it happens.

3. I'm different from most girls i think in that I want a very small ring. I think big ones are too showy.. But like i said i think I'm in the minority in that..

Hope I was helpful

 

[Xen_Antares]

Ahh yes the ring. If they wear a ring then they are off limits, except as a friend of course.

 

[Out of the Flames]

Ahh yes the ring. If they wear a ring then they are off limits, except as a friend of course.

Not necessarily. I wear rings on multiple fingers and depending on how much my fingers swell or shrink during the day, I may change fingers sporadically. None of the rings I wear look even remotely like engagement rings, but if you're ever unsure, it wouldn't hurt to say something like, "That's an interesting ring. Does it have a story?" I'd answer something like, "No, I just think it's nice and it happens to fit this finger." Now if I get engaged, I'd stop wearing my other rings altogether and then it may be a little more obvious, but you can never be so sure about things like that.

And no, an expensive ring is not important to me. I have small fingers, so I have a problem with rings more than about 1/2 a carat. I always end up scratching myself or others, so small and compact is good. It's all about the love anyway.

 

[Living4Him03]

I wear a ring on my "ring finger" on the left hand...it's because it's the only finger (seriously) that it will fit on. It's a ring my parents got for me in Colorado and it's an oval with all kinds of stone in it...turquiose and a red, green, black stone, and then pearl. It's really pretty and I like to wear it. If I were engaged I'd have a diamond ring on the finger

 

[remy]

I've been put on the spot! True, a ring may be just a ring. Sometimes I'll even a silver tribal ring. I've known women with the promise rings, and some that hide their singleness.

My view is that if she's wearing a ring, there's a good chance that she's already married, especially if you're where I am living. To me, it's a red flag that says, "find out before you get your hopes up."

 

[Xen_Antares]

I've been put on the spot! True, a ring may be just a ring. Sometimes I'll even a silver tribal ring. I've known women with the promise rings, and some that hide their singleness.

My view is that if she's wearing a ring, there's a good chance that she's already married, especially if you're where I am living. To me, it's a red flag that says, "find out before you get your hopes up."

Its bad around here too. It seems almost all girls in West Virginia get married right out of High School, and for the ones that didnt I apparently missed my "Golden Window" when I joined the military. Talking to several women and my few remaing single friends Ive come to the conclusion women are nuts. It seems being between the ages 23-27 and single are a guarantee to remain single until you move out of those ages.

Women who are between 18-22 seem to want guys in that age range, they really dont seem to want a guy whose older than 22. Once they move past that age, they seem to "mature" I guess would be the word to use and feel burned by the guys their age so they look to the guys who are 28 to the early 30's. Then when they hit 28 they are again intrested in men their own age as the men their age have finally matured. So by averages a good woman probably wont move into my life until 2006 when I turn 28, the only way to have one my age is if I make more than 30k a year, but the ones between 23-27 seem more intrested in establishment.

 

[Living4Him03]

I'm 22 and I will NOT date a guy who is 22 unless God says this is the guy for you. Yuck. Lol I gotta have an older man.

 

[TriptychR]

Its bad around here too. It seems almost all girls in West Virginia get married right out of High School, and for the ones that didnt I apparently missed my "Golden Window" when I joined the military. Talking to several women and my few remaing single friends Ive come to the conclusion women are nuts. It seems being between the ages 23-27 and single are a guarantee to remain single until you move out of those ages.

Women who are between 18-22 seem to want guys in that age range, they really dont seem to want a guy whose older than 22. Once they move past that age, they seem to "mature" I guess would be the word to use and feel burned by the guys their age so they look to the guys who are 28 to the early 30's. Then when they hit 28 they are again intrested in men their own age as the men their age have finally matured. So by averages a good woman probably wont move into my life until 2006 when I turn 28, the only way to have one my age is if I make more than 30k a year, but the ones between 23-27 seem more intrested in establishment.

Are these all your theories or did you find some sources on this? I'd be very interested in reading them if you have any. Either way, they sound thought out.

 

[KeilCoppes]

Well, theories or not, statistics are only statistics. In the end, being 36 after having been well established for six years hasn't made a lot of difference. Why? Because there's much more involved. :^)

Even though I've echoed this before - as a trivia note, do you know why the ring is worn on the fourth finger?

Because once upon a time the marriage vows concluded as a true vow before God Himself - "With this ring I thee wed - In the name of the Father, of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, Amen". Starting with "Father", and continuing with each person of the Trinity, the ring was walked along each finger, starting with the thumb. At 'Amen' the ring came home to rest on the ring finger.

Would that all christian couples realized that their marriage vows were made directly with God as witness.

 

[JoJoButterfly]

Even though I've echoed this before - as a trivia note, do you know why the ring is worn on the fourth finger?

Because once upon a time the marriage vows concluded as a true vow before God Himself - "With this ring I thee wed - In the name of the Father, of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, Amen". Starting with "Father", and continuing with each person of the Trinity, the ring was walked along each finger, starting with the thumb. At 'Amen' the ring came home to rest on the ring finger.

Would that all christian couples realized that their marriage vows were made directly with God as witness.

I heard that it had something to do with the thought that the ring finger lead to the heart..

Anyways.. my personal view on that theory.. I think it could be fairly accurate... but again I'm a strange girl as I've been told many times- I don't really look at age persoally.. If God puts me with a guy thats 15 yrs older than me fine, or a guy 5 yr younger than me or whatever.. the only reason I'd turn a guy down is if he's not Christian.

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

3. I'm different from most girls i think in that I want a very small ring. I think big ones are too showy.. But like i said i think I'm in the minority in that..

I only want a small, simple ring myself. But I would like a ring.

I look for a ring if I see someone. It's not a 100% accurate as a lot of men don't wear their ring. I'm not if too many guys would wear a ring to keep women at bay. Although, it may have the opposite effect and a ring may attract some people to you.

 

[~WildRoseCowgirl~]

Ahh yes the ring. If they wear a ring then they are off limits, except as a friend of course.

Not really, I wear my purity ring where my wedding ring/engagement ring will someday go.

 

[~WildRoseCowgirl~]

1. How do you know if a ring has any significance?
I don't really know on that one...

2. Do you ever wear a ring to hide your singleness?
No, but I do wear my purity ring.

3. Is an expensive ring important to you?
No, just as long as it is given to me with love and promise, I don't care if he got it out of a cracker jack box!

 

[fishstix]

I was reading the thread on How many of you pray about it first before initiating?? and saw this quote:
This got me thinking about rings. Here's my questions:

1. How do you know if a ring has any significance?

I never know if it should be left hand or right hand or if it has to be a certain type of ring or if you can use a different finger besides the ring finger.

Ask. Different cultures use different fingers and different types of rings. And sometimes people decide to adopt customs from other cultures.

2. Do you ever wear a ring to hide your singleness?

I know a lot of girls who wear rings to keep guys from approaching them. Which I think is fine except for when they complain about their singleness. The thing for me is, I think it makes them basically unaproachable.

I agree that complaining about singleness if one is trying to keep the opposite gender away would be rather annoying. At the same time, I could see how it may keep away the guys who are only interested in girls who they see as potential romantic partners and not interested in getting to know girls as friends. After all, once a guy actually gets to know the girl as a friend he will know whether or not she is engaged/married. So if the girl wants to take things slow and be friends first I could see why she might not be worried about having guys she doesn't know think that she is taken. Personally I think that people should be friends before even considering a romantic relationship with each other. I also think that anyone who would drop their friendship with someone or not bother getting to know someone as friends if that someone doesn't want more than friendship isn't ready for a romantic relationship. Getting to know someone as a person and as a friend should be valuable in and of itself even if nothing more ever comes of it.

3. Is an expensive ring important to you?

If I ever get married, I do want to express how much I love the person, but it still freaks me out to think about how much money I'm expected to spend on a ring (I've had a lot of friends get married recently and between rings, wedding costs, and honey moon, I'm like ).

I know of couples who have used the rings that you get in vending machines for $1 as an engagement ring. Of course some people may be insulted by that. I think it's really a personal thing - people have different opinions on it.

 

[Glamgoddess]

You know, I was thinking about buying a gold ring (real or fake gold) with a CZ stone in it... just to keep the men away.

I'm tired of having men come onto me, and having them hurt me when I get close enough. I think a ring will bring my personal love life to an almost compleate halt. Good idea!!

I only ever wear silver jewellry (and lots of it) but it it'd make the males steer clear of me, I'll wear gold.

 

[fishstix]

You know, I was thinking about buying a gold ring (real or fake gold) with a CZ stone in it... just to keep the men away.

I'm tired of having men come onto me, and having them hurt me when I get close enough. I think a ring will bring my personal love life to an almost compleate halt. Good idea!!

I only ever wear silver jewellry (and lots of it) but it it'd make the males steer clear of me, I'll wear gold.

Not all wedding and engagement rings are gold. Some people use platinum and some use "white gold", both of which don't look too terribly different from silver.

 

[jdkearns]

I have many friends who put a ring on their ring finger, mainly women of course. Some wear it while at work to avoid the continual nagging, or in other places where they DON'T want to be recognized as unclaimed. Being in a church atmosphere / college, etc. is a different story, which any woman can determine it is safe and is willing to say "Hey, I'm available and might be interested in you..." For myself, I don't ever wear a ring on my ring finger because I'm never concerned with whomever is interested in me and letting them know I am not interested in them. To me it would just seem awkward having a ring there when I am not married. See, with men, you can never really tell the difference between a wedding band or general piece of jewelry. For example, people ask me if I'm married all the time, just seeing a ring on my right hand - case and point. Whereas, with women you can usually be a good judge as to the value and splendor of the ring. Some girls wear a sentimental ring on that finger, as seen above, because that is the only finger it will fit on. My advice would be to have it resized, as one of my friends had done recently -- she can still switch it to that finger if necessary.

 

[invisiblebabe]

I wear a 10K mystic fire topaz ring on my left ring finger... it's somewhat of a purity ring... and guys have told me that no, it does not look remotely like any sort of promise or engagement ring.

I have worn some sort of ring (either purity or pre-engagement, back before the latter fell apart) on that finger since I was seventeen and I like the look.

Rings are my favorite piece of jewelry, so yes a ring is important to me. I don't particularly care how big the ring is, so long as it is real. My pre-engagement ring was not, so it would mean a lot to me if the real engagement ring were

 

[fishstix]

I wear a 10K mystic fire topaz ring on my left ring finger... it's somewhat of a purity ring... and guys have told me that no, it does not look remotely like any sort of promise or engagement ring.

I have worn some sort of ring (either purity or pre-engagement, back before the latter fell apart) on that finger since I was seventeen and I like the look.

Rings are my favorite piece of jewelry, so yes a ring is important to me. I don't particularly care how big the ring is, so long as it is real. My pre-engagement ring was not, so it would mean a lot to me if the real engagement ring were

Real as in not an imaginary ring that you have to pretend exists?