Question to singles

[justasinner]

I am very sad, and somedays I am mad about it! I see couples walk with God about 10 times as strong those I see that are single as myself. You may become close to God while being single but your walk is not completily fulfilling until your married. So, I do long to complete this being single part of God's plan for me, but I also want the RIGHT relationship with the right lady.

All of this stated when I realize what couples were meet to be! and that was back in my teenage years.

 

[lady_of_god]

I prefer the relationship

 

[Nico]

i'm feeling really ready to settle down. not just in a relationship, but the possibility of getting married as well. that said, i'm in no mood to rush it, or go out w/the first guy i meet. i want it to feel right in my soul, and so far, the guys i've met since my last b/f have not felt right in my soul. but i'm definitely longing for it. i'm excited about the possibility of starting a family, which is wierd for me since i used to be so anti-children, not long ago. but i think that was because i was not ready. i've also never dated a christian, for some reason, and i'm realizing that i'd like to. i'm excited about growing in my faith with someone else as well. but, as it is right now, i'm single. so i'm trying to take advantage of the benefits of singleness--like working on yourself, school, and even being a little selfish

 

[Lizzi4Christ]

I want a relationship.... however...

I don't just want a relationship. I want a life partner. I want a companion. I want a life long best friend that I can help, support, laugh with, cry with, play with. And I'm not willing to settle. I'm going to wait for that man. And if he doesn't come, that's okay.

At this point, I'm not ready for marriage. So I'm not going to try to look for him yet.

One of my professors once said that you can't be content being married until you're content being single. And I very much agree with it.

 

[waterbear]

Are you happy being single or do you long for a relationship?

If you answer the former, was it always like this, or did you go through a long period missing companionship?

I'm a bit both. On one side, I enjoy solitude and have more than enough personal development invest my time in - I could probably spend the rest of my life celibate working towards various personal goals. On the other side, I do enjoy relating to someone at a deep level (very rare) and the concept of sharing life would seem to make social events more meaningful.

 

[revelations12_12]

I'm a bit both. On one side, I enjoy solitude and have more than enough personal development invest my time in - I could probably spend the rest of my life celibate working towards various personal goals. On the other side, I do enjoy relating to someone at a deep level (very rare) and the concept of sharing life would seem to make social events more meaningful.

I totally understand where you are coming from on this one. There is no going out to the movies for me I just feel out of place, singledom certaily limites the social events.

 

[Kari8276]

Are you happy being single or do you long for a relationship?

If you answer the former, was it always like this, or did you go through a long period missing companionship?

I am OK with being single because it means I am free to serve the Lord. However, being human, I long for love, companionship, affection... all that a true loving relationship has to offer...

 

[joeman1]

I defenitly want a relationship.

 

[Darin77777]

For me it is not that I want to remain single but it maybe best that I do because I have never really completely healed from the way I was raised. I grew up in a very cold and violent home filled with hate. Since I became a christian at the age of 19, God is slowly changing me but I still struggle with depression and even anger sometimes. I try to put it off my mind but sometimes it comes out and it bothers some of my friends. As long as I am just friends with people, I'm just fine. It's when a girl wants to get to know me more that emotions I try to suppress comes out. I have tried professional counseling even christian counseling but it didn't really do much good. It's not that I have given up on marriage but I've decided to just take it one day at a time. If the Lord has a woman for me then I will just wait on Him to bring us together. In the meantime I want to make the best of each day for Him. And if God wants me to remain single for the rest of my life, so be it.

 

[hockeysistah12]

I do long for a relationship, however as I am reaching my 50's in four years, I believe I will not get my chance at love because and here what the young people do not understand and that is at my age, which is 40 something, the pickings get slimmer and slimmer or those of my age is not interested in relationship or they date younger people.

 

[Diane_Windsor]

I really want to be married. I've never even had one boyfriend in my life-I want to be kissed, cuddled, wined and dined, I need companionship, etc. Although Jesus is my all Jesus can't do tangible things with me-especially intimate things (see Song of Songs for details ).

DW

 

[fishstix]

I do long for a relationship, however as I am reaching my 50's in four years, I believe I will not get my chance at love because and here what the young people do not understand and that is at my age, which is 40 something, the pickings get slimmer and slimmer or those of my age is not interested in relationship or they date younger people.

You still have a chance. I know of never-married people who got married in their 40's. And they even have kids now The pickings may be slimmer - but you only need to find 1

 

[Jon-Marc]

I divorced an adulterous wife. I'm now single by choice and plan on staying that way.

 

[JPPT1974]

Single by choice and only by God's will.

 

[white dove]

Are you happy being single or do you long for a relationship?

If you answer the former, was it always like this, or did you go through a long period missing companionship?

The majority of the time, I'm pretty content with being single..it's not a huge, huge problem because I know that there is a reason why I'm single..and I have to take advantage of that...

It wasn't always so, though...and there are still days when it hurts, even more than your mother taking away your favorite teddy bear at night when you're 6 yrs old..and you're left clinging your sheets, asking, 'why, ma, why!?!?'..

haha..sorry, I'm abit tired right now...

but anyway, yeah..it's hard sometimes. But, I just have to focus on where God wants me to be...and by His wisdom & love, I am single... I have to thank Him for that.. even though, there still exists those days (and sheet-clinging nights) when I doubt...

 

[22smsbears]

My answer to that question would have to be yes to both. There are times when i am really happy to be single and free to do as i wish. Then there are times i long to be able to rely on someone and share my time with and have fun with. So whether i want to be single or in a relationship varies quite often.

 

[Fatolia]

Well, I'm not happy to be single, but I can still deal with it. And yes, I do long for a relationship, but am not desperate for one, if that makes any sense..

Hey Linda, I'm praying that you are able to embrace whatever plan God sets before you.