Question for the men

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

When you notice an attractive woman and she is wearing a low cut shirt, do your eyes instantly go to her bosom?

 

[ChildOfGod20]

i'm not a guy but i would have to say yes bc even i notice women with low cut shirts. except i'm thinking "put some clothes on" instead of "wow she's hot"

 

[CuriousInIL]

When you notice an attractive woman and she is wearing a low cut shirt, do your eyes instantly go to her bosom?

In a word, Yes.

 

[leturlifewitness]

recently, when i see a girl with a low cut shirt, i have been making it a point to not only look away, but to also walk in the other direction. like at work (wal-mart) if i see i am about to pass a girl with a low cut shirt i will find a different way to get to where i need to go. or in the back, if the magazine guy has left the magazines with girls on the front cover on top of his cart i will turn them over. So i guess technically i do look but only long enough to notice and look the other way.

 

[ChildOfGod20]

i wish more guys were like you. you are such a good example. this question is also in the young adults thread and i can't believe some of the responses the guys are giving. they just think it's "natural." it may be natural to want to look but you can make yourself look away

 

[daveprez]

As a 19 year old guy... yes my eyes do look at that low cut shirt... but my mind isnt ooogling over it... im thinking, "why are you wearing that?" I think its rediculous when girls show off their bodies in low cut shirts and dresses as well as short skirts.

Modesty is where its at.

 

[superfly]

i look away, and i have this funny feeling of dread, almost like i'm dreading that her top is gonna fall off or something...

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

Wow. You are right ChildofGod20...the other forum has men saying sexual thoughts of another person while married is ok, that it is basically "women's fault" because of what some women wear it makes it ok.

 

[superfly]

the other forum has men saying sexual thoughts of another person while married is ok,

that's definitely wrong!! doesn't take a genius christian to know that... they obviously haven't read matthew 5:28, "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."

that it is basically "women's fault" because of what some women wear it makes it ok.

that's only PARTIALLY right... it's the men's fault too. see the above scripture again...

 

[superfly]

for interest's sake, if you're reading this thread, have a look at the other thread in the other forum, and read my reply on page 6...

 

[KristianJ]

I couldn't be bothered reading anything after page one of that other thread...there are some responses that worry me a bit.

I personally won't let my eyes linger when I see a woman dressed immodestly. It's an open invitation for the viewer to start mentally undressing who they're seeing - and it's an unwholesome distraction that could potentially cause a sidewalk accident, outlandish as it may seem. (I have the cartoon type thought of someone walking into a light pole or something because their eyes are otherwise occupied, but I guess it's something that could potentially happen in real life). it's not helpful for a woman to dress that way, but it doesn't remove any responsibility from the guy to not go for that second or third look.

 

[JVD]

I don't think it is possible for most men not to notice when a woman is wearing a low cut outfit. It then forces us to control our thoughts and our eyes.

I have a real problem with christian women advertising themselves this way. I really respect a women who dresses modestly and appropriately.

 

[MN John]

When you notice an attractive woman and she is wearing a low cut shirt, do your eyes instantly go to her bosom?

They once did. But after a lot of practice it is now pretty much an automatic response that my eyes go instantly to the ceiling.

Yes, it is human nature to look at her cleavage, but with Christ's help human nature can be overcome. [BIBLE]2 Corinthians 5:16-18[/BIBLE]

 

[manuni]

Hi,
For all it's words, YES.
and i am not gettng into a debate of whether it is good or bad! being an architect and a great appreciater of art, i just love any piece of art and in all due respect a woman is the Creator's masterpiece.(well i know that this concept has got far reaching impact on various isses, still..)
i am rt now not so concerned abt the feelings it arouse! but i hate doing things which i naturally won't be doing! acts like deleberatly looking away and stuff.
maybe many won't agree with me but i feel fooling urself is not that a good idea.
...regards
...manu

 

[Ryokeen]

When I see that, the first thing that goes through my mind is, "Wow put some clothes on you make me sick." Then I notice that it probably looks wrong, and I make the comment to my girlfriend quietly so she knows that's what I was thinking. Just know that a guy can do that and not have perverted thoughts in his mind, if you notice it, point it out and ask him what's up. My suggestion.

 

[eyeliv4God]

It's human nature for a man's eyes to wander to a woman's cleavage if it's being shown, but as men after God's own heart, you must fight human nature. As superfly mentioned, guys who do this should take a look at Matthew 5:28.

As far as the women go...

If what you're showin' ain't on the menu, COVER IT UP!

 

[SopranoCapo2006]

When you notice an attractive woman and she is wearing a low cut shirt, do your eyes instantly go to her bosom?

The Truth?


Yes

 

[Chaan Stines]

Yes. It's extremely difficult not to at least glance at a woman's exposed cleavage. Yet, even though my eyes seem to have a mind of their own, the fact that she's advertising herself like that isn't very attractive at all. In other words, I'd look at her at least momentarily, but I wouldn't want to date her.

 

[Exegete12]

I think it is up to the woman not to show her cleavage. She may, however, not really know what she is doing and could be just following fashion blindly. As women are not so much concerned with seeing flesh on a man, they probably think it goes the other way too. You'd be surprised how different men and women are in these issues.

 

[AceHero]

Yeah, sometimes my eyes (and mind, unfortunately) wanders, but then deep down inside I think, modesty is so much hotter. It doesn't give as much away. Females who wear really suggestive clothing are basically putting a "For Sale" sign on their chest. Well, a transparent "For Sale" sign, or else that would pretty much defeat the whole purpose...