Question for guys

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

Does it make you angry that you can't get women as easily as women can get men? This was just on my mind and I don't know if it makes me angry but it is the reality is all I know. I'm in a situation where if I were female I could get at least someone. But being male theres expectations of me I can't fulfill due to being disabled and low on money. I really feel like if I just approached people in my neighborhood I could find someone but I just don't feel the pull to do so. I kinda have it good since all my needs are met and I don't have any responsibilities or anything to do but I do like being in a relationship.

 

[AlexB23]

Does it make you angry that you can't get women as easily as women can get men? This was just on my mind and I don't know if it makes me angry but it is the reality is all I know. I'm in a situation where if I were female I could get at least someone. But being male theres expectations of me I can't fulfill due to being disabled and low on money. I really feel like if I just approached people in my neighborhood I could find someone but I just don't feel the pull to do so. I kinda have it good since all my needs are met and I don't have any responsibilities or anything to do but I do like being in a relationship.

I am not into dating anyone, but we can sadly thank Epstein for ruining the reputation of guys with his crimes against women. Most guys are nice people, but Weinstein and Epstein are perverted, twisted demons who make guys seem way worse.

God has a special, extra toasty place for these creeps, unless they repent to Jesus and confess of their crimes, and hopefully get life in prison.

 

[Sketcher]

I'd settle for enough positive attention from attractive and eligible women to pick out a good spouse. I would like to not have unreciprocated feelings ever again.

 

[GospelS]

But being male theres expectations of me I can't fulfill due to being disabled and low on money.

Godly women look for spiritual health and fitness above all things. It is very attractive when a man is spiritually well nourished and exercising his spiritual muscles.

 

[timewerx]

But being male theres expectations of me I can't fulfill due to being disabled and low on money.

There are still places on Earth where women aren't looking to own expensive house and stuff.

Don't look for women who are hooked on the satanic "Hollywood culture".

Seriously, I'm now finding it too toxic to watch any big buck Hollywood movie. They always seem to pitch anything that makes you spend lots of money for no real purpose at all.

 

[ReesePiece23]

Does it make you angry that you can't get women as easily as women can get men?

I haven't really noticed it to tell you the truth.

In fact, even on these very forums there has been an uncountable amount of very beautiful women (and I mean beauty in all of its aspects) that couldn't find a man to even date, let alone get into a relationship with. One young lady in particular was stood up because the guy had something "better" to do - I was in shock.

Would it surprise you to know that a good friend of mine has cerebral palsy, and has never NOT had a girlfriend. I've known him for over ten years and he's always seeing someone.

It's all a mindset. Read the stats, listen to the status quo, expect to feel disheartened.

 

[DragonFox91]

I don't know about that, OP, but it seems the man is always perfect. Whenever you meet a couple, the woman can be very average but the man is always very charismatic, good-looking, good job, well-liked, an ambitious person, smart, very funny, & a born leader, a smooth talker, usually has had it easy - it's expected he's to be married & everyone knows he will. I don't have a lot of those in the traditional sense. It seems men who struggle w/ women don't have those in the traditional sense.

So to be more positive: we must accept it's like this b/c of God's good design

I'm in same boat as you, OP. I have it pretty well & God has met all my needs - so praise the Lord - except this one he never has. This is my 'curse.' They say everyone has one. Paul calls it a thorn in the flesh. It's meant to remind you you are not perfect & draw you near to God.

Seriously, I'm now finding it too toxic to watch any big buck Hollywood movie. They always seem to pitch anything that makes you spend lots of money for no real purpose at all.

Same. I've never been big into Hollywood productions b/c many seem to have messages contrary to God's truth - how many movies preach you need to have a girlfriend or be married for example - but lately I've been just wanting to swear them off entirely. I don't want to say it's wrong to watch movies but we need to be aware every movie is trying to push something

There are still places on Earth where women aren't looking to own expensive house and stuff.

That can be a problem too b/c then they settle w/ men who can't provide their material needs.

 

[trophy33]

Seriously, I'm now finding it too toxic to watch any big buck Hollywood movie. They always seem to pitch anything that makes you spend lots of money for no real purpose at all.

Interesting.

I was watching mostly the American movie production in the past, but I also got fed up with it. The standardized presentation of silliness, decadence, corruption and even ugliness is not even entertaining at all, anymore.

I began to pick up production from Korea, Japan, China, France, Iceland... simply more globalized, and I am much more satisfied.

 

[timewerx]

Same. I've never been big into Hollywood productions b/c many seem to have messages contrary to God's truth - how many movies preach you need to have a girlfriend or be married for example - but lately I've been just wanting to swear them off entirely. I don't want to say it's wrong to watch movies but we need to be aware every movie is trying to push something

I've been finding the more laid-back films from some countries in Europe like Norway, Sweden, and then Japan is more pleasing to my soul.

The consumerist agenda like in Hollywood films is one of the worst IMO. It makes people love, get obsessed with money and since the love of money is hatred of God, makes it one of the worst agendas.

That can be a problem too b/c then they settle w/ men who can't provide their material needs.

I know that is a problem. I can have a GF without difficulty but I also inherited a large debt from parents and my salary isn't enough to make the payments. I have brain damage from childhood accidents on top of that makes me too unstable to hold jobs/relationships so I choose not to have a GF and I also don't have friends. It would be unfair to have someone undergo the same problems I have.

But having said that, you can still achieve financial stability / independence with cheap house and cheap used cars. In fact, you can achieve financial independence sooner if you started cheap and became debt free a lot sooner so that you can easily compound your investments. It would be challenging trying to hold on to investments if you have huge bills and mortgages and loans to pay.

I knew many personally who started cheap and made an early retirement. They still drive old, used cars. Old habits die hard. But they've achieved financial freedom with a lot less. This is way better than someone living like kings and queens in an expensive neighborhood driving brand new luxury vehicles but holding on to their jobs like their life depended on it because of huge debt to pay.

 

[timewerx]

Interesting.

I was watching mostly the American movie production in the past, but I also got fed up with it. The standardized presentation of silliness, decadence, corruption and even ugliness is not even entertaining at all, anymore.

I began to pick up production from Korea, Japan, China, France, Iceland... simply more globalized, and I am much more satisfied.

Japan definitely. Not yet with Iceland but been watching films from Sweden, Norway, Germany, France, Spain, etc via Cine Europa which is free cinema.

What I don't like about Hollywood films is the consumerist agenda where you need to be portrayed living in expensive neighborhoods and driving brand new luxury vehicles and maybe hopping on a plane going somewhere exotic.

The last thing this world needs is getting people even more obsessed with money. Because the love of money is hatred of God. It's anti-God, anti-Christ and the fact, not everyone drives a late model luxury vehicle or live in an expensive suburb, there's fewer who does. It's not relatable, not realistic.

I also watch some films from Korea but carefully choose what to watch because many of their films also have consumerist agenda like Hollywood. K-pop I definitely avoid due to heavy consumerist agenda.

 

[exitstageright]

Does it make you angry that you can't get women as easily as women can get men? This was just on my mind and I don't know if it makes me angry but it is the reality is all I know. I'm in a situation where if I were female I could get at least someone. But being male theres expectations of me I can't fulfill due to being disabled and low on money. I really feel like if I just approached people in my neighborhood I could find someone but I just don't feel the pull to do so. I kinda have it good since all my needs are met and I don't have any responsibilities or anything to do but I do like being in a relationship.

There is a saying that goes like this."A man would accept a fat,a broke,a poor,or non-ambitious woman. But NO woman would accept a fat, broke,poor,or non-ambitious man"

 

[Lost4words]

Only one issue i had that the opposite sex didnt like and that was fleas! Once i got that sorted out i had no problems ever again!!

 

[LoveDivine]

I haven't really noticed it to tell you the truth.

In fact, even on these very forums there has been an uncountable amount of very beautiful women (and I mean beauty in all of its aspects) that couldn't find a man to even date, let alone get into a relationship with. One young lady in particular was stood up because the guy had something "better" to do - I was in shock.

Would it surprise you to know that a good friend of mine has cerebral palsy, and has never NOT had a girlfriend. I've known him for over ten years and he's always seeing someone.

It's all a mindset. Read the stats, listen to the status quo, expect to feel disheartened.

I think Scottie Barnes sums it up perfectly: https://www.reddit.com/r/nba/s/WDsFTXp5vO

 

[LoveDivine]

There is a saying that goes like this."A man would accept a fat,a broke,a poor,or non-ambitious woman. But NO woman would accept a fat, broke,poor,or non-ambitious man"

All I can say to that is maybe he shouldn't lol.

 

[ReluctantInquisitor]

I think Scottie Barnes sums it up perfectly: https://www.reddit.com/r/nba/s/WDsFTXp5vO

I understand why the ordinary man would be hesitant to accept that kind of advice. They'd look at his net worth, physical attributes, and fame, and come to the kind of conclusions you'd expect. But even so, the advice he offered is preferable to the certainty of failure that comes with doing nothing.

 

[dzheremi]

Does it make you angry that you can't get women as easily as women can get men?

No, because a big reason most women can get men more easily than the other way around is that many men do not have standards. It does not anger me that women have standards. I also have standards.

 

[timewerx]

There is a saying that goes like this."A man would accept a fat,a broke,a poor,or non-ambitious woman. But NO woman would accept a fat, broke,poor,or non-ambitious man"

Whenever a fine-looking, pretty young lady looks at me, I wonder if there's a large spider on my shirt that's about to crawl up my neck!

 

[penNpaper]

Does it make you angry that you can't get women as easily as women can get men? This was just on my mind and I don't know if it makes me angry but it is the reality is all I know. I'm in a situation where if I were female I could get at least someone. But being male theres expectations of me I can't fulfill due to being disabled and low on money. I really feel like if I just approached people in my neighborhood I could find someone but I just don't feel the pull to do so. I kinda have it good since all my needs are met and I don't have any responsibilities or anything to do but I do like being in a relationship.

This is the dating world. Being that I am male, divorced, and turned 40. It's been rough to get back out there. I have a female best friend that can get a date without much effort - which it perfectly fine. It all depends on the situation, who you meet, and God's timing. It is hard, yes but nothing is impossible with Him.

God Bless,
penNpaper.

 

[DragonFox91]

If singles were devoting more time to God we wouldn't be so upset

 

[venksta]

If singles were devoting more time to God we wouldn't be so upset

In the state of being single, even if we are waiting on God to reveal the person our heart desires, there is much work we can do, when it comes to serving Him now. That free time we have to focus on God, will be cut in half, when the other person enters our lives, and will lessen even more once we begin to have a family. However, this is something only one who has a servant's heart can see.