Good Day, DOF
The characterization is just yours, based upon your fallible understanding of God's will and his purpose. Hey but do not wain in heart live and learn!
I think that if you read Augustine's view of predesination that may help. Better yet read Thomas Aquinas and his view of the Muslum's the conclusion drawn by him may shock you.
After all is said and done here these two men could be mistaken, as could you or I. One thing for sure God is never wrong and the things we may see as some what unloving or unfair, are only based on a view and understanding we all lack the side of heaven.
I see the cross as the most unfair thing ever to happen in the history of the planet. It is unfair in my mind that Christ HAD TO suffer and die for a crud like me. Thank God he loved me so some times love in and of it's self can be viewed as being unfair.
Peace to u,
BBAS