Q: Why are people bi

[Ohioprof]

Most People are bi for sexual pleasure or lust to be with man and a woman. aside from sexual pleasure why would someone be bi?

I don't think that is why some people are bisexual. The people I know who are bisexual are attracted to people of both sexes and can form intimate partnerships with someone of either sex. It isn't about "lust." It's about attraction and love.

 

[Ohioprof]

That is true that so people choose. Those who choose are mostly out of curiosity, they don't know what they are as far as sexuality goes. Bisexuality is mostly among younger teenagers, though I have met and adult or two who claims to be bisexual. But I've never met a married person who claims it.

I know married people who are bisexual. I know quite a few.

 

[Ohioprof]

Same sex feelings sometimes develop during adolescence for whatever reason. As people mature they have a greater understanding of what they are attracted to and the feelings go away.

This is why it is common in teenagers and college students, while those who are older and married don't have those feelings. There are rare exceptions when those feelings are not let go.

This is not true. You don't know what you are talking about on this subject.

 

[Ohioprof]

I think that even more than gay people, bisexuals have negative stereotypes heaped on them and much misunderstanding. People often assume that bisexuals are unfaithful, obsessed with sex, swingers, people who are on the fence and cannot make up their minds, untrustworthy. Many heterosexuals dislike gay people, or the idea of gay people, but they often dislike the idea of bisexuals even more. Bisexuals often appear ambiguous to many people, and that often makes people uncomfortable.

I wish more bisexuals would post in these forums so we would hear more of their voices. I think the folks are right who said we have to ask bisexuals about bisexuality. Only they can talk about their experiences with real authority. The rest of us cannot.

 

[HaloHope]

People are bi-sexual as they are capable of not caring whats between a persons legs. I always thought that sounded pretty awesome.


But yeh, as Ohioprof says you need to ask a bi-sexual person about bi-sexuality.

 

[Horizonol]

This is not true. You don't know what you are talking about on this subject.

How is it not true?

There are a lot of people that suffered with those attractions and get over it as they mature.

 

[Horizonol]

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[Ohioprof]

How is it not true?

There are a lot of people that suffered with those attractions and get over it as they mature.

Attractions are not afflictions, and you don't need to "get over them." Your negative assumptions about gay and bisexual people are embedded in the language you use when you write about this topic.

What evidence do you have that people "get over" being bisexual? Your statement sounds like prejudice talking.

 

[Robbie_James_Francis]

There are a lot of people that suffered with those attractions and get over it as they mature.

Correction--There are a lot of Catholics who suffer attractions (and most things, for that matter). The rest of us enjoy them.

 

[Ohioprof]

Correction--There are a lot of Catholics who suffer attractions (and most things, for that matter). The rest of us enjoy them.

LOL!

 

[Horizonol]

Attractions are not afflictions, and you don't need to "get over them."

People 'get over' them regardless of whether or not someone thinks they need to.

Your negative assumptions about gay and bisexual people are embedded in the language you use when you write about this topic.

What negative assumptions would those be?

What evidence do you have that people "get over" being bisexual? Your statement sounds like prejudice talking.

"Experimenting" occurs in youth. People have mixed attractions, act on them and come to the conclusion that they're heterosexual. It's just a common occurrence as people try to sort out their (relatively) new sexual attractions, desires and needs.

 

[Ohioprof]

People 'get over' them regardless of whether or not someone thinks they need to.



What negative assumptions would those be?



"Experimenting" occurs in youth. People have mixed attractions, act on them and come to the conclusion that they're heterosexual. It's just a common occurrence as people try to sort out their (relatively) new sexual attractions, desires and needs.

And how do you know all this?

 

[Horizonol]

Correction--There are a lot of Catholics who suffer attractions (and most things, for that matter). The rest of us enjoy them.

I disagree- a lot of people do suffer from them, because society still looks down on homosexuality, as being emasculating. A lot of guys are ashamed of or confused by their attractions.

 

[Ohioprof]

I disagree- a lot of people do suffer from them, because society still looks down on homosexuality, as being emasculating. A lot of guys are ashamed of or confused by their attractions.

Gay people are not just "guys." Plenty of us are women.

 

[Horizonol]

And how do you know all this?

Psychological surveys.

"Bisexual" behavior and attractions are just part of youth that is grown out of by adulthood generally.

 

[Ohioprof]

People 'get over' them regardless of whether or not someone thinks they need to.



What negative assumptions would those be?



"Experimenting" occurs in youth. People have mixed attractions, act on them and come to the conclusion that they're heterosexual. It's just a common occurrence as people try to sort out their (relatively) new sexual attractions, desires and needs.

Horizonal, in looking at your post, I think you are mixing up people who are bisexual in orientation with people who experiment sexually in their youth. I think you are right that many young people do experiment sexually, in various ways. But people who are bisexual have a basic orientation that is bisexual. They are not people who just try out sex with people of both sexes.

Some people have argued that bisexuals don't really exist. But I know bisexuals, and so I know they exist.

 

[Ohioprof]

Psychological surveys.

"Bisexual" behavior and attractions are just part of youth that is grown out of by adulthood generally.

What surveys? Please cite them.

 

[Horizonol]

Horizonal, in looking at your post, I think you are mixing up people who are bisexual in orientation with people who experiment sexually in their youth. I think you are right that many young people do experiment sexually, in various ways. But people who are bisexual have a basic orientation that is bisexual. They are not people who just try out sex with people of both sexes.

Some people have argued that bisexuals don't really exist. But I know bisexuals, and so I know they exist.

Both are closely related- people experiment sexually in their youth because they have these feelings and attractions and choose to act on them in order to work them out. Some would be more inclined then others. Some have different inclinations.

The point is, they have some kind of inclination, they are acting on them and they release as they mature that's not really what they want.

 

[Ohioprof]

Both are closely related- people experiment sexually in their youth because they have these feelings and attractions and choose to act on them in order to work them out. Some would be more inclined then others. Some have different inclinations.

The point is, they have some kind of inclination, they are acting on them and they release as they mature that's not really what they want.

You still have provided no evidence. You claim there are surveys to support your argument, but you have cited none so far. I am waiting.

 

[Horizonol]

You still have provided no evidence. You claim there are surveys to support your argument, but you have cited none so far. I am waiting.

I'm really not interested in digging up old surveys, especially for someone that has already made up their mind.

I'm just presenting ideas. As yourself while there is confusion among youth. Why do people claim to have gotten over their homosexual feelings?

In puberty, all sorts of new feelings arise and as they mature, they simply get sorted out.