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Pursuing a Man vs. Waiting to be Pursued

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Psshh, you two need to go old school if you're truly scared of rejection.

No, it's just that being direct never seems to work. So what choice do I have but to be all subtle and mysterious and hide my feelings? Cause if I make any sudden movements, I'll scare them off :p
 
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No, it's just that being direct never seems to work. So what choice do I have but to be all subtle and mysterious and hide my feelings? Cause if I make any sudden movements, I'll scare them off :p

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Well, I guess if it works, it works.
 
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There's a balance between popping out of nowhere and saying "I LEIK YOU!", and refusing to say or do anything to make it known that there is interest :p

I don't think popping out of the box saying "I like you" is the issue as much as popping out of the box and being like:

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oh dear Lord... no. Stay out of marrieds! That`ll destroy any and all interest in ever getting hitched.

And here comes Shari, ruining my plan to help all these suffering singles...

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And here comes Shari, ruining my plan to help all these suffering singles...

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Its what I do. My mommy always said, if you have a gift: nurture it :satisfied:

But..but..there have to be SOME...we'll say encouraging threads in there :p

Sure. You keep telling yourself that. The Easter Bunny also exists...
 
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oh dear Lord... no. Stay out of marrieds! That`ll destroy any and all interest in ever getting hitched.

Srsly. Sometimes, reading their threads help me feel better about being single. :sorry: Then again, I like to think that the happy couples are somewhere else doing happy couple things, rather than posting on CF. Not that it's all bleak, of course. A few of them seem to have healthy marriages, and the topics can be interesting.
 
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Psshh, you two need to go old school if you're truly scared of rejection.

I'm not scared of rejection. I just happen to be sane enough not to keep on trying the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Even if that sanity has only come lately to me.

Get a friend to find out from the girl directly or one of the girl's friends if she likes you back. Not as simple as just doing it yourself but much less painful as far as the jitters and nerves go :p
This has had the same result—the alienation of the girl I was interested in—only in those cases I'd also involved a third party in the fiasco.
 
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Funny thing—I'd wonder exactly the same thing if I pursued a girl and "got" her.

How about this. Forget about "pursuit". If there's mutual interest we meet face to face on level ground with nobody acting coy. If there isn't mutual interest, then we are honest about it, and nobody has to chase anyone down to figure it out. I swear all this crap could be so easily avoided if people hadn't imbibed the player culture's attitude that you shouldn't date your friends. If you have a good friendship with someone (which includes openness and honesty) then you'll come to know the intentions of the other person and the whole notion of pursuit with its attendant rituals and plumage will seem very silly.

I AGREE A ZILLION.

I'm like two weeks away from getting a notebook,making plans to hang out with my awesome dude friends and saying "so tell me why you won't date me."

because they think I'm cool and that's great but seriously just agree to put up with me for my whole life. Please.
 
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