Pursuing a Man vs. Waiting to be Pursued

[Hadassah_]

It's sad these days. Gals on FB are always all the good Godly hard working men are all taken! I'm always like, Uh I'm not.

So would you date all those girls who are looking for someone?

 

[pressingon17]

So would you date all those girls who are looking for someone?

No. I just think the extremes on both sides are silly. All the good gals are taken, not. All the good guys are taken, not. It's just silly.

 

[TheyCallMeDave]

This topic's been on here before, I'm sure. But I'd really like to discuss it again.

I've always been in the "waiting for a man to pursue me" camp. But lately, I'm wondering if I've been doing it wrong all these years. My roommate met a guy at school last fall that she really, really liked. Whereas I would have talked to him, gotten to know him, been sweet and nice to him, and hoped for the best, she went hardcore chasing after him. She basically did everything short of actually asking him out herself. She flirted with him A LOT at every party and event, made it EXTREMELY OBVIOUS that she liked him, and had his friends repeatedly tell him that she was super into him. She did this for MONTHS. What happened? At first, he seemed disinterested, then he warmed up some, and now...apparently he really likes her now. He asked her out, then asked her to my school's Barrister's Ball, publicly exclaims his joy of being with her, and now pursues HER.

Have I been doing it wrong all these years? Maybe it is better to just go after a guy myself when I meet a great one that I really, really like. What do you all think? Is my roommate's approach the better way? Ladies, do you prefer going after a man you like or letting him do all of the pursuing? And gentlemen, how do you feel about this? Would you like a woman going after you the way my roommate went after her crush/new boyfriend? Would that make her more attractive to you or would that turn you off?

Given the times we live in, it is much more permissible now to definetly show your interest in a man if you are a woman. You can do this without going hog-wild and thus coming across as a Predator which turns guys off (Christian guys anyway who take their Walk seriously) . You can implement some flirting techniques to give the guy a clear idea that you are interested in him , but see if you can do it quasi-sutley so as not to appear desperate . I assure you that a Man likes to be found favored to a Gal who is appropriately dressed, nicely groomed, and who is a genuine Christian. If it happened to me and i found the woman to at least satisfy my initial qualifications, I would respond favorably and strike up a conversation most likely culiminating in making plans to meet again.

Did that help ?

 

[Strider1002]

Given the times we live in, it is much more permissible now to definetly show your interest in a man if you are a woman. You can do this without going hog-wild and thus coming across as a Predator which turns guys off (Christian guys anyway who take their Walk seriously) .

Agreed. Predators definitely turn me off.

Although the dreadlocks are nice...

 

[ninzae]

Given the times we live in, it is much more permissible now to definetly show your interest in a man if you are a woman. You can do this without going hog-wild and thus coming across as a Predator which turns guys off (Christian guys anyway who take their Walk seriously) . You can implement some flirting techniques to give the guy a clear idea that you are interested in him , but see if you can do it quasi-sutley so as not to appear desperate . I assure you that a Man likes to be found favored to a Gal who is appropriately dressed, nicely groomed, and who is a genuine Christian. If it happened to me and i found the woman to at least satisfy my initial qualifications, I would respond favorably and strike up a conversation most likely culiminating in making plans to meet again.

Did that help ?

A big yes

 

[astein]

All the good gals are taken, not. All the good guys are taken, not. It's just silly.

Ah, come on, don't you want to sound like a married person.

 

[TheZealousOne]

But...it's reasonable. Be a good provider and all that...

 

[Blank123]

Yes. Just hand that nice big wad of cash to the next girl you're interested in and say, "hey, here's $200 for you to go out with me tonight. Since I know you're really only interested in my money, I thought I'd give it to you upfront. So.... interested?"

Guaranteed to work every time. And if she slaps you and starts cussing you out and turning all her friends and family against you for being so horribly disrespectful, it just means its working. Don't let the restraining order or the father with the shotgun fool you. She's just playing hard to get.

 

[Toro]

Agreed. Predators definitely turn me off.

Although the dreadlocks are nice...

 

[anewday]

But...it's reasonable. Be a good provider and all that...

True, but I keep meeting guys who either try to buy my love with their money or aren't even looking for a job...it would be nice to find someone with a happy medium...

 

[Toro]

guys try to buy my love with their money.

You date young Patrick Dempseys?

can't buy me love - YouTube

Leave it to the 80's to make a movie with a premiss of PG rated prostitution and it makes you laugh not go

 

[anewday]

I love that movie . And I dated somebody who looked like Patrick Dempsey. And yes ladies, sometimes I wonder why I didn't take him back with those good looks .

 

[Toro]

I love that movie . And I dated somebody who looked like Patrick Dempsey. And yes ladies, sometimes I wonder why I didn't take him back with those good looks .

I still remember watching that movie, The Princess Bride, R.A.D., Dirt bike kid..... flught of the navigator.... ......oh so many more.

 

[anewday]

I still remember watching that movie, The Princess Bride, R.A.D., Dirt bike kid..... flught of the navigator.... ......oh so many more.

Oh yeah !

 

[darktipper]

In my experience it is better for the woman to pursue me..... The relationship just last longer because she is into me until she pursues another guy lol.

It does not pay off for a guy to pursue this day and age. I know some traditionalists can not fathom this but it just works.

I have turned down a couple of women recently.... There is no time for her in between saving the work in a video game or going to a gym/working out... I see the disappointment on some of their faces but hey, I don't string people along.

 

[Maryland Girl]

I still remember watching that movie, The Princess Bride, R.A.D., Dirt bike kid..... flught of the navigator.... ......oh so many more.

Woah. Did you say Flight of the Navigator? Man, you took waaay back.

 

[Toro]

Woah. Did you say Flight of the Navigator? Man, you took waaay back.

Well as it happens, I am old.

 

[astein]

Guys need to make that chedda if they want the "good gals".

"Good gals" prefer God instead of lusts.

 

[MehGuy]

"Good gals" prefer God instead of lusts.

I think what he means by "good gals" is physically attractive women. He's right, many of them want the "chedda". He's just telling it like it is.

 

[astein]

I think what he means by "good gals" is physically attractive women. He's right, many of them want the "chedda". He's just telling it like it is.

God is the only good. So a "good gal" is of God. Physical features perish.