Purity Rings

[sampa]

In conversation I talked about guys that were virgins and the other person looked at me wierd, and said "Ok, that's kind of personal". This was coming from someone not of the faith, but was revealing nonetheless.
For myself I've decided I'd rather disclose to others I know could understand and encourage me in my faith and commitment to stay pure before marriage.

 

[Amber.ly]

I wore a purity ring for about 1.5 years as a teen until I lost it... at church

It then got replaced with various cross rings that I wore out and now I currently have a shamrock ring.

I see no issues with wearing a purity ring. Some people are sentimental and want to have it until they can replace it with a wedding ring. Others perhaps need the reminder to help them thought the temptations and others were given them as gifts and just like it because.

I bought my purity ring myself when I was a teen and loved it. When it got lost I decided that I wasn't going to replace it and instead chose to move on to a cross ring. Much like a wedding band, they aren't there to prove the faithfulness of the wearer but are used as an outward symbol of a personal choice you are committed too.

I think its a lovely idea but only if the choice comes from the person wearing it. I have a hard time wrapping my head around the idea of parents presenting ones to their kids because then it more about the concept of the commitment rather than the actual commitment.

 

[ashley13]

I have one. I've had two actually. The first one was a three stone (to represent the Trinity), but one of the stones must have been loose because it fell out! I now have a small ring with two little butterflies on it.

I just like it to remind myself, not of my commitment to stay pure, but just of my relationship with Christ. Life can get really hectic, and sometimes I'll be so busy and rushed, and frustrated, and having an awful day, and I'll catch a glimpse of my ring and it just reminds me that God is with me and I need not to worry.

I also had a girl in my old youth group say that her purity ring made her "feel like she was married to Jesus in a way." So for everyone it's different.

 

[SnowyMacie]

My sister had one (got married) and she wore it was as a necklace. I know more girls that have one then guys, I was asked at one point if I wanted one, but declined for the sole reason of knowing how easily I lose small things.

 

[TheUnforeseen]

What is the purpose of a purity ring? Is it to keep reminding you or something?

I don't wear one and wouldn't. I think one should set God's commandments in their hearts and minds. No physical objects are needed.

 

[ashley13]

I don't find it so much as a reminder, as it is a symbol of my commitment.
To each their own!

 

[Saucy]

I think it's a great reminder. If you're with the person you love, before you're married and things get hot and heavy, it's not a bad idea to have a physical reminder. I think in that moment, it would be very hard to say "no", you know?? Even for the best of us. Sometimes we need reminders of our commitments.

 

[Somber]

What is the purpose of a purity ring? Is it to keep reminding you or something?

I don't wear one and wouldn't. I think one should set God's commandments in their hearts and minds. No physical objects are needed.

This is what I think as well.

 

[Amber.ly]

What is the purpose of a purity ring? Is it to keep reminding you or something?

I don't wear one and wouldn't. I think one should set God's commandments in their hearts and minds. No physical objects are needed.

This is what I think as well.

So neither of you would wear a wedding band or a religious necklace?

I'm of the same mindset that you don't need a physical object but its a personal choice if you choose to want one.

 

[Nanopants]

I'm pretty sure I would never wear one. But I am curious, who should and should not wear them?

Should married or divorced people?

How about gay and lesbian Christians?

What about ex-prostitutes?

 

[white dove]

I'm pretty sure I would never wear one. But I am curious, who should and should not wear them?

Should married or divorced people?

How about gay and lesbian Christians?

What about ex-prostitutes?

Anybody who commits themselves to purity should be welcome to wear one without scoff. It's a falsehood to think that all virgins are pure and that non-virgins cannot ever be pure.

 

[Nanopants]

Anybody who commits themselves to purity should be welcome to wear one without scoff. It's a falsehood to think that all virgins are pure and that non-virgins cannot ever be pure.

If that's the case then I don't see anything wrong with it ;]

 

[KingCrimson250]

Purity rings exist for one reason and that is the jokes that happen when you lose it.

"Guys! Guys! Oh no! I think I lost my purity in the shower/movie theatre/on the roller coaster/in the car/etc"


I don't wear one, though. I don't need a ring to tell me I value purity. That's like wearing a cross so I can know I'm a Christian.

 

[yam]

No, never had one and never will. Don't see the importance of it but attention. I don't need to wear ring o keep a promise to God

 

[white dove]

I have never worn one and can't imagine myself ever doing so, but I respect that other people have a different opinion on it. It sounds like a nice idea for the reasons given, but certainly not for everyone. As an outsider, I think people choose to wear them to symbolize their commitment to wait on all things sexual until they are married - the physical symbol of remaining pure in mind and body and to remain as upstanding as possible, demonstrating that their future spouse is respected even now in that sense. Just as married couples or engaged couples don't need a tangible reminder of their commitment, it's just the symbolism of that. The only difference is that with purity rings, it's prior to actually being in that relationship. And that requires faith.

 

[redblue22]

The ring of power from Mordor.

 

[TheUnforeseen]

So neither of you would wear a wedding band or a religious necklace?

I'm of the same mindset that you don't need a physical object but its a personal choice if you choose to want one.

I do have a Religious necklace (Star of David) but I never wear it and it has no effect on my faith or commitment. I see it rather more so as letting others know your faith. Just as a wedding band allows others to see you're married. I personally don't like the idea of a wedding band. I don't like wearing jewellry, especially on my fingers like rings.

 

[redblue22]

Or maybe some sort of microdevice under the skin that could be scanned from a distance.

 

[leothelioness]

I wouldn't want to advertise my "purity" (don't really like that word). I'm embarrassed enough about it as it is - being my age and all.

 

[episkopos]

Well I could have said whether or not that is right or even helpful depends on the basis of wearing the purity ring. But the truth is the fear of God being the most convincing basis one can have , does not require a purity ring but is in the spirit He has given us.
Isaiah 11:2
"And the spirit of the Lord shall rest upon him,
the spirit of wisdom and understanding,
the spirit of counsel and might,
the spirit of knowledge and of the fear of the Lord;"
Even if it was meant to represent a covenant between yourself and God, remember all things are lawful but not all things are necessary. Remember you've been given the power to become a child of God according to John 1:12 and the presence or absence of a purity was never meant to be a determinant of your ability to overcome fornication. I don't mean to downplay how strong the lusts of the flesh could be ..just trying to say it's high time we actually lived the victory we have[not had or will have ] in Jesus Christ.

Marriage in itself is also an alternative.

Marriage is an institution ordained and ordered by God.1 It is the only institution that was established before sin came into the world......
Biblical Reasons for Marriage ..3.To avoid fornication

Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
1 Corinthians 7:1,2[/I]

Excerpt From: Dag Heward-Mills. “Model Marriage.” Dag Heward-Mills,iBooks.
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Although not in all cases , not being committed to any relationship somewhat licenses all sorts of sexual immorality and ironically the purity ring has a way of labeling you as "handicapped" [so flaws should be expected] apart from the fact that people bluntly disrespect their "vows".
Would you rather fall into sin than enjoy the grace in marriage which God himself instituted understanding us? It is not mysterious that on the average, peaks of sexual drive are in ages capable of marriage to varying degrees.
Not only does marriage help us escape fornication, to mention but the least, but duties and responsibilities of married people make them more intimate and indeed faithful to each other. There are many other blessings of marriage all included in the package when God instituted it.