Praying together....

[hugnluvable]

Hi there, just a thought.... do you feel that praying with your partner is a vital part of your relationship together?

Love and hugs and prayers
Erica
xxx

 

[DaveKerwin]

absolutely. It is another level of intimacy. As partners, we should approach things together, including a relationship with Christ. Of course we need our invididual journeys, but we also need to be on a path toward God together.

I will admit that we should pray more together, and I plan on doing that when we are not living so far from each other. Hopefully bible study will be included as well. Since the two become one in marriage, practicing the spiritual disciplines together will only serve to help that oneness remain.

 

[GodBoy809]

yes, i believe its very important, especially if you're wanting to be a couple for God! ME and Kristi have a prayer together everymorning. And once a week we have a devotional together, its greaT!

 

[toby]

YES! I believe that any relationship consists of 3 parties.. You, your gal and God. Put God in the center and you'll be fine. It's like having daddy's blessing over the relationship and letting him know everything about it. When you know that your daddy is watching, trust me.. you wont dare to do silly stuff Every couple should pray together!

 

[JahRawks]

Amen to everything everyone here has said, I only have to add that I agree, praying is a vital part of a relationship, it helps keep the relationship God-focused, and helps draw the two of you as a couple together, causing you to have a stronger relationship through God. May God's blessing be on you and yours.
Nathan

 

[John the Engineer]

I used to pray with my girlfriend every morning before she would leave for school. In fact I would leave super early to meet her before she left so we could pray together.

 

[Rols]

Yes my boyf and I still pray to ether, but now sometimes mostly over the phone. I think praying together is a great idea (where two or three agree...), it kinda draws each person closer to God and to each other. However a while ago, there was one problem I had with prayin with my boyf of 3 years, and that was the fact that i kept thinking about him in not so holy ways even during prayer , and at one point i decided that I wouldn't hold him (even his hands) while prayin' because my mind was wondering whilst it should have been focused on God. We came to a mutual understanding on this and now it's fine, though it can still be a struggle. All I would just say that when couples do pray together, they should let it be just that, a prayer time! dedicated solely to God, as it's very easy for the mind to wander, especially when you are praying together in a room alone.

 

[*Miau*]

I wish I could do that with my boyfriend - but we live so far apart, so it's not so easy to pray together. We are trying to bring God into our relationship, because He brought us together. But about the prayer and stuff, I think we're going to wait untill I've moved to his country in 5 months.
Or do you have any suggetions on how to pray together in an LDR?
God bless you.
- Anette

 

[DaveKerwin]

I wish I could do that with my boyfriend - but we live so far apart, so it's not so easy to pray together. We are trying to bring God into our relationship, because He brought us together. But about the prayer and stuff, I think we're going to wait untill I've moved to his country in 5 months.
Or do you have any suggetions on how to pray together in an LDR?
God bless you.
- Anette

pray over the phone

 

[*Miau*]

pray over the phone

Well - isn't that a bit unpersonal? We're talking about God over the internet and over the phone, but I still think it's a bit unpersonal - especially in the beginning when you start praying together. Also - I'm not used to pray in english, and he's not used to pray out loud (I think)
But thanks, DaveKerwin, I'll think about it

 

[SirKenin]

Hi there, just a thought.... do you feel that praying with your partner is a vital part of your relationship together?

Love and hugs and prayers
Erica
xxx

It is a vital part. All of the decisions in your household MUST be made together, with God's guidance, as God is the head of your relationship. To get God's guidance, you need to communicate with God, and that means through prayer and the reading of His Word.

 

[Koop]

Yes it's impersonal, but isn't it better than nothing? Him living a long way away isn't very "personal" either.....

I have a VERY diffrent stnace than everyon who seems to have posted so far. I think praying with a SO is totaly wrong! To a point! As has already been stated praying together brings in a HUGE new level of intimacy. If it's done before the relationship is stable and in good standing, that level of intamacy very often puts thoughts into couples heads that "it's meant to be" or "this has to be God's will, we pray together." I think it's awesome and a real great way to grow closer to God and together, however, only after the relationship is strong and has been around for a good amount of time.

 

[Stanfi]

Yes, I believe this would be very important in helping keep the perspective of the relationship on God. I firmly believe that we need to build our relationships upon the rock of Jesus, if we want them to last.

 

[katelyn]

I have a VERY diffrent stnace than everyon who seems to have posted so far. I think praying with a SO is totaly wrong! To a point! As has already been stated praying together brings in a HUGE new level of intimacy. If it's done before the relationship is stable and in good standing, that level of intamacy very often puts thoughts into couples heads that "it's meant to be" or "this has to be God's will, we pray together." I think it's awesome and a real great way to grow closer to God and together, however, only after the relationship is strong and has been around for a good amount of time.

Don't feel like you're alone, Koop...I do agree with this. So does the book The Ten Commandments of Dating, which I really like for its principles of keeping things light at first. I think the beginning stages of a relationship should just be about growing your friendship and getting to know more about each other. I think some Christians have a tendency to "jump the gun" in that respect (how many of my high school friends said, "The first boy I date is going to be the man I marry"??? I really dislike that statement because it doesn't leave any room for learning from your relationship experiences.)

I do think that dating should be about finding your lifetime partner, not just for fun or whatever, but still...that doesn't mean intimacy on any level (not just physical) should be rushed, because we are just as likely as anyone else to let our emotions rule us in that type of situation.

 

[christianactor]

AWESOME!!!!! I am not married but do plan to have bible study and prayer together daily. WHAT A WAY TO MAKE A MARRIAGE WORK. dittos to you

 

[msjones21]

I fail to see what is so wrong about two people praying together, regardless of what stage the relationship is in. At church, our pastor encourages us on Sunday mornings to partner up with someone we don't know and to pray together. It helps create bonds between brothers and sisters in Christ. Granted, you don't want to delve into a bunch of personal struggles with a new boyfriend or girlfriend, but if you can't pray together your relationship is going nowhere. A relationship must be built upon a love for Christ and prayer above all things. Also, a question I throw out to those who oppose a couple praying together until a certain point in the relationship...

What about sharing in saying grace before meals? Is all prayer unacceptable, in your opinion, or just devotionals? I'm just curious as to what extent you feel it is appropriate for a Christian couple to pray together.

I respectfully have to disagree that a couple should not pray together. I think it should be done from day one. I mean, I can see where a person could be mislead into thinking "this is the one" just because they pray together; however, in tight circles of believers (such as youth groups, singles groups, Sunday school classes, etc.) people don't seem to hesitate sharing their struggles in a coed environment and having people pray with and for them. Why should a relationship be any different?

 

[Koop]

I think praying in groups is fine, praying together silently is fine, encouraging one another to participate in spiritual acts, keeping one another acountable on things and doing other great things, such as going to serve at a homeles shelter for a day or whatever is great! Praying is something VERY intimate. At least it is to me. I will pray with my friends, female or not, but not a so until we've been together a while. I"m not saying 50 years, but at least a few months.

 

[katelyn]

I think the difference between praying together with friends and praying together with someone you're interested in has to do with your intent. When you are praying with friends, your sole motive is to pray. When you are praying with someone you are attracted to, it's easy to get distracted, thinking about how you like the person, maybe how praying with this person is impressing them (or impressing God and getting his approval for the relationship), you may get distracted by silly little things like how their voice sounds or maybe you're holding hands when you pray, which would be a major distraction... I'm not saying everyone would have this problem, but I know it's a real concern. I remember being in high school youth group and liking certain boys and getting paired up to pray with them...it was a little hard to concentrate on God at those times with all the emotions that were swirling around inside me.

The point is, there are a lot of emotions related to infatuation that don't just vanish when you pray together, and it may affect how you feel about the prayer...your good feelings may make you think it's some kind of sign from God that you would feel so good after praying with this person. I think it's important to pray about a relationship, but not necessarily to pray with the person until you are at a more serious stage.

 

[invisiblebabe]

i absolutely need a man i can pray with. otherwise, he has no chance of being with me.

 

[Pirch80]

I do think it does help when you're praying with your girlfriend, wife, or fiancee because you're both in deep prayer and plus there's a scripture that says "Whereever two or more gather in my name, and they shall be blessed." I think when it's you and your girlfriend or whoever it might mean more. Plus it's also a good way to relax and be with your woman.