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Praying together....

SirFei

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Hey all,
Let me say that prayer is most definitely needed in a relationship. I have been with my girlfriend, now fiance, for a year and a quarter... We used to not pray together for a long time, but since we did our relationship has grown 10 fold. Prayer helps us keep on track with the Lord and making sure He is first. I have personally felt much better knowing he's in control.

For those who may not get direct contact all the time with their significant other, do it over the phone! It helps so much to hear the others' voice as your both praying together. I see my fiance all day, and we pray on and off then, but at night we pray when she goes to bed. Now, I work a nightshift job, so I'm up all night, and she's going to bed at 11pm.. She will call me, I will go off to a quiet place, and then one of us will pray. Truly, it has helped us out greatly. I find it necessary for any Christian relationship to grow.
God bless,

~Marc
 
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seekingsomething

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As a new christian the idea of praying with someone is awesome but soo scary. My almost boyf and i prayed about whether we should be together or not it ended up with him praying outloud and me in my head. I just found it a bit too much. The next day i spoke with my accountability friend and we prayed together. I think it is just something i have to get used to and practice, is this normal...or should i be ok with it straight off???
 
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KristiXP

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seekingsomething said:
As a new christian the idea of praying with someone is awesome but soo scary. My almost boyf and i prayed about whether we should be together or not it ended up with him praying outloud and me in my head. I just found it a bit too much. The next day i spoke with my accountability friend and we prayed together. I think it is just something i have to get used to and practice, is this normal...or should i be ok with it straight off???
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and we've just started praying together. Well, he's trying to get me to pray outloud with him atleast during dinner. He dosn't ask every day, just once in a while and when his mom and her husband aren't home so I don't feel so uncomfortable.

I have a hard time praying outloud, I've been a Christian for as long as I've been with my boyfriend so it's all still a little new to some sometimes. He's asking me to pray so that I can get over my fear of praying outloud. I have such a hard time, I even cry because I feel so uncomfortable. I know that is satan trying to keep me from praying and when I realize this, I put all my heart into praying so satan will leave me alone. (so to speak).

So...my point is....no, praying with your SO is not something you should be ok with right off, if you are a new Christian. You may feel intimidated that you won't have the right words to say or you think that your SO will think you are weird for what you said during prayer, but that's not true. That's just satan working against you. My boyfriend tells me that nothing I say is wrong, he's not going to think I'm dumb for what I say when I pray and that really helps me.

Being nervous and uncomfortable when praying outloud with someone so special in your life is most definatly normal. You are right, it will come to you through practice and patience.
 
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Thank you SOOOOO much Kristi. I cant tell you how much that helps!! Just to know im not alone, kinda makes me wana try a bit more. lol. Its scary though isnt it? I just cant wait for the day that i am comfortable with it. Hope that you too find yourself comfortable with praying out loud. Good bless you for sharing this with me. I REALLY appreciate it :) x x x
 
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A son of God said:
My question is how can me and my girlfriends relationship grow stronger with God first and then ourselves.
If you put God first in your relationship, God will bless your relationship greatly! I'm not saying if you don't put Him first He's going to make you breakup or something, but it won't be as truely blessed as when you put Him first.

It takes 3 to make a relationship, you your SO and God. God wants to be a part of your relationship, don't exclude Him and put Him last.
 
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