When I was 14, my ex who was 13(was turning 14 however) got pregnant. (I was not Christian or religious at all at the time).
I wanted her to keep have the child, and at first she decided she was going to, not by my influence but by her choices, but her parents came in and invaded her mind telling her it was the right decision to abort. They used to lock her in her room and force her to watch episodes of Dr.Phil that talking about abusive boyfriends, and told her all i was doing in our relationship was manipulating her and told her that I was going to leave her and the baby abandoned. Unless she did things like this, she wasn't allowed going out with friends or anything, and they took her out of school for a bit so she couldn't see me. They used to bribe her for things she "did right" by letting her see me for an hour or so. She saw psychiatrists and "professionals" who would tell her it's all a choice, yet they definitely were laced with pro-abortion themes.
My parents, on the other hand, although obviously not happy, were going to be there for us and told us to make whatever decision seemed right. We were not a poor family, and we were very loving, and the child would have been just fine. My sister had actually just had a baby as well, so there would have been tons of hand-me-downs from that alone, not forgetting that my indirect family would have been very helpful.
She told me she was going to abort, and I told her then to at least give the child to me and have nothing to do with it after if that's what she wanted. She said she didn't want the child to live it's life without a mother, I argued it was better than not living at all. I believe I even told her that giving it up for an adoption was better than her choice, and that I'd be ok even with that although not happy.
I had no say and was helpless, I had to see my child aborted and it was the most emotionally wrenching time in both our lives. She had the abortion, and her mother tried to get me to come that morning to see me child destroyed with the promise that "she'd let me and my ex still be together afterwards and not stop us from seeing each other". I refused to go and she had the abortion.
My child would have been 9 now, and very loved.
Abortion is murder. If your heart doesn't tell you that, I don't know what to tell you. I just know and believe it is. I don't tell this story often, but thought it was right to share here.
I pray for my ex. I hope she knows God is loving and merciful, if she ever does come to believe what she did was wrong, and that I forgive her just by knowing who she was. I believe we'll both see our child in heaven, I believe it with all my heart.
