It's not easy to responed kindly to people calling you Satan, blasphemer, heretic, or making other false allegations.
You are 100% correct. It is not easy to stand up to namecalling.
I have been called all these things, and a few others. At one point, I had put together a post with a few of the best quotes against me that I had ever seen.
But some of the harshest words said on these boards, I'm sad to say, come from you Michael.
Now, before you get angry with me, let me add a few things. I am not trying to distance myself from you. Lord knows that I have been incredibly rude to people here before. And I'm not saying that you have never been provoked. I've read what has been said to you in the past. Much of it was below the belt. You certainly could make a strong case for defending yourself.
But, as an outside observer, I also notice one other thing. You are (sometimes) being baited into fights, and you never back down, so we have big fights here. Check my signature to see how I get baited (this past week).
What can you do? Well, for me, I try to assess whether a poster may be trying to bait me into a fight. Sometimes they are, sometimes they aren't. Dunno if you ever looked at it like that or not. I still have a few folks that try to bait me from time to time.
I used to tangle with folks that I thought deserved it. Now I really try not to. Like you said "it's not easy."
You are very correct. It's not easy.
And even if you try to stop fighting, there will always be somebody who still has a bone to pick with you. There always will be. But some of the more caring folks will come around, and in time, treat you with civility again.
I have learned that nothing devalues a point of view as much as some berating put-downs tagged onto it.
I'm not chastising you, Michael, as I was once perhaps even more acid tongued than anyone you've ever met here. I'm not happy about it, but it is my own fault, and I continue to pay the price, even now.
But there is a benefit to toning down. I have actually made a friend or two that I have literaly nothing in common with in terms of beliefs.
You have a fire and a drive that I respect, Michael. Your strength comes from your faith in God. That is noble. And you and I are in the same boat, as we are about to be cast away over one single doctrinal word.
It's not easy. No-sir-ee. But what if you were to be on the lookout for people baiting you into fights? What if you let your beliefs stand on their own merit and did not couple them with put-downs? It's not easy. I'd love to tell you that if I can do it, anybody can, but that would be a lie. I try to let my words stand on their own merit. Sometimes i want to jump through the computer and give somebody a piece of my mind. I haven't really pulled it (pacifism) off yet, but I'm still trying. I think that's all you can do; try.
But you're right. It's not easy. But is it worth a try?