Please. Need prayers...I am completely broken

[MaryATexasChristian]

Hello, I just registered tonight (I had a membership a few years ago but site states no record of enrollment) because I need help so badly. I am just completely heartsick and so very frightened.

I am a 76 year old female who has lived with an 89 year old man for over seven years. I love him more than anyone in the world, and I know he feels love for me.
I have cooked, cleaned and looked after him all these years until I got down fairly recently and cannot do what I used to do.

About a year ago this man's son, a rather mentally slow, never-married ex-alcoholic came to live with us. Recently, he has had to assume most of the things I used to do for his father. Although he has been mostly silent, I thought he understood my situation. I do let him borrow my car and pay him for the errands he runs.
Apparently, I was sadly naive.

The two grown children of the man I live with came in from San Antonio and Houston and presented me with an 'eviction' notice- that my 'lease' was not being renewed. The typed statement that stated I had 30 days to collect my belongings and vacate.
I was completley shocked, bewildered and humiliated.
(The presentation of the 'eviction' was made by the son who came to my room and was accompanied and witnessed by the daughter's 'boyfriend', a 60 year old stranger whom I had never seen before, and who stood back with the son as if waiting for a real show- just to add to the humiliation)

As I said, I love this man, and I know he loves me- even though he signed the 'eviction' notice.

There is nothing wrong with his mind. He is still sharp- just a semi-invalid.
I know that the son who moved in, reported things that were not true to the others. I know they just ganged up on him until they made him agree. His children always made it plain that they did not want me in their father's house, no matter how much I did for him.
It came down to the point that when I spoke to them, they would ignore me.
Many times I happened to walk by and heard the daughter on the phone (he keeps it on 'speaker phone') saying rude and untrue things about me.
I suspect they are afraid he will leave some of his money to me.
I am just so broken hearted. I don't want to leave this man, and I am weak and a partial invalid myself, with no money and nowhere to go.

Please offer your prayers for me.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I am so very frightened.


Mary

 

[plopster]

Praying!

 

[Fuegoviva]

Dear Sister,
You are going through such a difficult time, but I want to encourage you to remember that you are not alone. God is with you and He will never leave or forsake you. Do not fear. Trust in God. To fear is to doubt God's ability to get you through this crisis. Remember what the Lord has done for you in the past. Has He ever failed you before? No. He never will. He is faithful to complete what He started in you. Stay in prayer. Read God's word and seek God's counsel. He will guide you as to what you should do. It hurts, and it is painful, but God is here to heal your broken heart. Let forgiveness and peace and love flow through your heart and push out all the anger and bitterness that has resulted from this situation. Show them the love you feel towards their father by showing love towards them. Ask God to show you how. Pray for them. Ask God to change their heart. Talk to their father if possible. If you try and don't get results, wait on the Lord. Seek support from fellow christians. Talk to your pastor. Let them know your situation.
Perhaps they can help in mediating between you and the "children". Also, you can call the authorities. Seek legal aid to see what your rights are as a senior citizen. You have been with this man a long time. It doesn't seem right that they can just leave you out in the street like this. Maybe there is a senior citizen center you can go to in your area. Don't be afraid. You do have options. I pray everything works out fine. Remember, God has a reason for everything He permits or allows to happen. Learn to praise God even when you feel your heart is breaking. Read the psalms. Maybe psalm 49 will speak to your heart. I love you, Sister. Hang in there. God bless you.

 

[MaryATexasChristian]

Praying!

Thank you so much.

 

[teamor]

holding you in my prayers x

 

[MaryATexasChristian]

Thank you for your prayers and words of comfort.

 

[MaryATexasChristian]

holding you in my prayers x

Thank you.

 

[Fuegoviva]

Your welcome, I truly wish you the best. Everything I have said comes from my own experience with my own broken heart. My situation is different, but broken heartedness is the same for everyone. We all feel it at some time or another. We all feel despair, we feel loneliness, and we all get scared when we don't know what to do next; but I thank God for everything. I than God even in the bad times because He has shown me that He is with me through it all.

 

[MaryATexasChristian]

Fuegoviva, thank you. You are most kind.

I have prayed, but at this point I feel utterly broken and forsaken- even by God.
I've always tried to be a good person.
What have I done to deserve this at this stage in my life?
I have little money and no place to go.
I'm not even well enough to get out and look for a new place to live at this point- especially in this Texas heat of 100 degrees and up.

I have lost faith in other people, and I'm losing faith in God.
I just don't know if I can go on- and I don't know if I want to, if this is the payment one gets for trying to lead a decent life and trying to do the right thing.

 

[Grace51]

Hello, I just registered tonight (I had a membership a few years ago but site states no record of enrollment) because I need help so badly. I am just completely heartsick and so very frightened.

I am a 76 year old female who has lived with an 89 year old man for over seven years. I love him more than anyone in the world, and I know he feels love for me.
I have cooked, cleaned and looked after him all these years until I got down fairly recently and cannot do what I used to do.

About a year ago this man's son, a rather mentally slow, never-married ex-alcoholic came to live with us. Recently, he has had to assume most of the things I used to do for his father. Although he has been mostly silent, I thought he understood my situation. I do let him borrow my car and pay him for the errands he runs.
Apparently, I was sadly naive.

The two grown children of the man I live with came in from San Antonio and Houston and presented me with an 'eviction' notice- that my 'lease' was not being renewed. The typed statement that stated I had 30 days to collect my belongings and vacate.
I was completley shocked, bewildered and humiliated.
(The presentation of the 'eviction' was made by the son who came to my room and was accompanied and witnessed by the daughter's 'boyfriend', a 60 year old stranger whom I had never seen before, and who stood back with the son as if waiting for a real show- just to add to the humiliation)

As I said, I love this man, and I know he loves me- even though he signed the 'eviction' notice.

There is nothing wrong with his mind. He is still sharp- just a semi-invalid.
I know that the son who moved in, reported things that were not true to the others. I know they just ganged up on him until they made him agree. His children always made it plain that they did not want me in their father's house, no matter how much I did for him.
It came down to the point that when I spoke to them, they would ignore me.
Many times I happened to walk by and heard the daughter on the phone (he keeps it on 'speaker phone') saying rude and untrue things about me.
I suspect they are afraid he will leave some of his money to me.
I am just so broken hearted. I don't want to leave this man, and I am weak and a partial invalid myself, with no money and nowhere to go.

Please offer your prayers for me.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I am so very frightened.


Mary

God i pray you will be with this woman at this very moment in time. be with her and let you feel your presence and know that You are in control.

God i pray that your will bring conviction to all those who are involved to set them and others free if necessary.

God i pray that you will take this lady under your wings right now because she really need You at the moment and appears to have nobody else to turn to but her Heavenly father.

God please be with her during her time of confusion and let her exp your love in a way so that she knows doesnt matter what is happening to her at moment is no reflection of Your love for her.

Amen

 

[MaryATexasChristian]

Thank you, Grace.

 

[7angels]

sister you are in a time of trial. God never said we would have an easy time in this world but said the exact opposite that we will be persecuted. but it is when things look the worse for wear that God shows us his power. God wants us to know that by waiting til the last instance that there is nothing that the world can do to save us and when our situation is just about to be consumed is when God works his miracle working power for us to show us that none but God himself could of done what had just happened. the only sadthing is that so many lose their faith in God before the appointed time God has set for us and thus lose out on what God had planned. so do not lose heart but keep the faith in God that everything works out for our God.

remember that God will not let us be tested by anything we cannot handle so know that God sees strength in you to overcome your situation and you need to believe that you have that strength too so you can use it to become victorious. for never fear the word teaches that God always leaves us a way out of every situation so you need never worry that you will hit a dead end because God will make a way if we only believe. it is when the times get tough that the tough get going. i hope this helps. i will be praying for you also

God bless

 

[MaryATexasChristian]

7Angels,

Thank you for your prayers

 

[ThyLovingkindness]

Hi Mary, I'm very sorry that you are in such a predicament. May I ask, is there a Living Trust with regard to the man you've lived with? Could this be a motivator behind the adult children's decision to have you removed from the premises? Not to mention this man you've helped... you say he's sharp, and that he did sign a document to your detriment.

Another thing, there are always two sides to the story. All in all, it does seem cruel to put you out considering your age... do you have a place that you can go? Do you have children of your own? Is there a Bible-believing church you might seek out, with a pastor there who can help to direct you? Just bouncing off ideas here... please keep us posted, and feel free to message me at CF if you'd like. God bless you, praying for you!

 

[brinny]

Hello, I just registered tonight (I had a membership a few years ago but site states no record of enrollment) because I need help so badly. I am just completely heartsick and so very frightened.

I am a 76 year old female who has lived with an 89 year old man for over seven years. I love him more than anyone in the world, and I know he feels love for me.
I have cooked, cleaned and looked after him all these years until I got down fairly recently and cannot do what I used to do.

About a year ago this man's son, a rather mentally slow, never-married ex-alcoholic came to live with us. Recently, he has had to assume most of the things I used to do for his father. Although he has been mostly silent, I thought he understood my situation. I do let him borrow my car and pay him for the errands he runs.
Apparently, I was sadly naive.

The two grown children of the man I live with came in from San Antonio and Houston and presented me with an 'eviction' notice- that my 'lease' was not being renewed. The typed statement that stated I had 30 days to collect my belongings and vacate.
I was completley shocked, bewildered and humiliated.
(The presentation of the 'eviction' was made by the son who came to my room and was accompanied and witnessed by the daughter's 'boyfriend', a 60 year old stranger whom I had never seen before, and who stood back with the son as if waiting for a real show- just to add to the humiliation)

As I said, I love this man, and I know he loves me- even though he signed the 'eviction' notice.

There is nothing wrong with his mind. He is still sharp- just a semi-invalid.
I know that the son who moved in, reported things that were not true to the others. I know they just ganged up on him until they made him agree. His children always made it plain that they did not want me in their father's house, no matter how much I did for him.
It came down to the point that when I spoke to them, they would ignore me.
Many times I happened to walk by and heard the daughter on the phone (he keeps it on 'speaker phone') saying rude and untrue things about me.
I suspect they are afraid he will leave some of his money to me.
I am just so broken hearted. I don't want to leave this man, and I am weak and a partial invalid myself, with no money and nowhere to go.

Please offer your prayers for me.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I am so very frightened.


Mary

Find out if there's free legal advice in your city or state. In the meantime, i'm lifting you to our Abba with our brothers and sisters. Father intervene, protect, defend, and minister as only You can, in the name of Jesus, amen.

 

[MaryATexasChristian]

Do you mean is there a living trust like no resusitation?

He signed the 'eviction' notice. I know they had to gang up and keep pressuring. He does have love for me- and yes, his mind is still sharp.

As I stated in my OP; I have very little money and nowhere to go.
No children to help.

I don't belong to a church, I'm ashamed to say I have been very few times in my life. I do believe in God.
I've lived a respectable life and always try to do the right thing.

Thank you for your input

 

[ThyLovingkindness]

Do you mean is there a living trust like no resusitation?

He signed the 'eviction' notice. I know they had to gang up and keep pressuring. He does have love for me- and yes, his mind is still sharp.

As I stated in my OP; I have very little money and nowhere to go.
No children to help.

I don't belong to a church, I'm ashamed to say I have been very few times in my life. I do believe in God.
I've lived a respectable life and always try to do the right thing.

Thank you for your input

Hi Mary, as I said, you can write me here if inclined, blessings!

 

[LoricaLady]

Hello, I just registered tonight (I had a membership a few years ago but site states no record of enrollment) because I need help so badly. I am just completely heartsick and so very frightened.

I am a 76 year old female who has lived with an 89 year old man for over seven years. I love him more than anyone in the world, and I know he feels love for me.
I have cooked, cleaned and looked after him all these years until I got down fairly recently and cannot do what I used to do.

About a year ago this man's son, a rather mentally slow, never-married ex-alcoholic came to live with us. Recently, he has had to assume most of the things I used to do for his father. Although he has been mostly silent, I thought he understood my situation. I do let him borrow my car and pay him for the errands he runs.
Apparently, I was sadly naive.

The two grown children of the man I live with came in from San Antonio and Houston and presented me with an 'eviction' notice- that my 'lease' was not being renewed. The typed statement that stated I had 30 days to collect my belongings and vacate.
I was completley shocked, bewildered and humiliated.
(The presentation of the 'eviction' was made by the son who came to my room and was accompanied and witnessed by the daughter's 'boyfriend', a 60 year old stranger whom I had never seen before, and who stood back with the son as if waiting for a real show- just to add to the humiliation)

As I said, I love this man, and I know he loves me- even though he signed the 'eviction' notice.

There is nothing wrong with his mind. He is still sharp- just a semi-invalid.
I know that the son who moved in, reported things that were not true to the others. I know they just ganged up on him until they made him agree. His children always made it plain that they did not want me in their father's house, no matter how much I did for him.
It came down to the point that when I spoke to them, they would ignore me.
Many times I happened to walk by and heard the daughter on the phone (he keeps it on 'speaker phone') saying rude and untrue things about me.
I suspect they are afraid he will leave some of his money to me.
I am just so broken hearted. I don't want to leave this man, and I am weak and a partial invalid myself, with no money and nowhere to go.

Please offer your prayers for me.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I am so very frightened.


Mary

Well, since you asked for advice I will give it. Perhaps Messiah is allowing you to move out of what is a situation He does not approve of, namely living outside of marriage with a man.

However, He is very merciful to us. I pray you will have a good place to stay and will be healed of the wounds to your heart and to your dignity and make a new and better, more Bible centered life.

 

[MaryATexasChristian]

Find out if there's free legal advice in your city or state. In the meantime, i'm lifting you to our Abba with our brothers and sisters. Father intervene, protect, defend, and minister as only You can, in the name of Jesus, amen.

Thank you brinny. I don't know if there is free legal aid..I will look into it.
I don't see what legal rights I would have.

I've thought about reporting the son who lives with us to Texas Elder Abuse
He has tampered with the food I eat. He has put water in the milk container, and some things I have eaten have an odd, off taste.
He has called me vulgar names (yes, the F bomb) under his breath when he thought I couldn't hear him.
I have seen him looking in my bedroom window.
But I can prove none of this.
Any thoughts?

 

[brinny]

Thank you brinny. I don't know if there is free legal aid..I will look into it.
I don't see what legal rights I would have.

I've thought about reporting the son who lives with us to Texas Elder Abuse
He has tampered with the food I eat. He has put water in the milk container, and some things I have eaten have an odd, off taste.
He has called me vulgar names (yes, the F bomb) under his breath when he thought I couldn't hear him.
I have seen him looking in my bedroom window.
But I can prove none of this.
Any thoughts?

Is there an Elder Abuse number? If so, call it. Let them know how long you've lived with your friend. Seven years is a long time. Also report any incidents of any kinds of abuse to you or your friend by his son or any of his grown children.