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Please. Need prayers...I am completely broken

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Is there an Elder Abuse number? If so, call it. Let them know how long you've lived with your friend. Seven years is a long time. Also report any incidents of any kinds of abuse to you or your friend by his son or any of his grown children.


Thank you brinny. I think I will do that.
I shall have to stop writing now and try to get some sleep.
I am so exhausted. I just cried all night and could not sleep.
 
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Well, since you asked for advice I will give it. Perhaps Messiah is allowing you to move out of what is a situation He does not approve of, namely living outside of marriage with a man.

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Thank you. I was waiting for that.
You are wrong. At our ages, we are friends only.
I love him more than anyone in the world, but as a friend.
 
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can you talk to a human services professional in your local area? also, is there a compassionate church in your area? if so, call and set up a meeting with one of the pastors of their caring ministry. if you need a ride to go and see them, they might be able to arrange for someone to pick you up. or they may be able to come out to see you.
 
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Dear Mary,

I am still young. I don't know what advice I can offer but I really wish to help you. The only thing I can do is pray for you. May Holy Spirit guide you and may God give you comfort and peace.

Lord is always here with you.

With love,
DCBell

Thank you so much.
 
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can you talk to a human services professional in your local area? also, is there a compassionate church in your area? if so, call and set up a meeting with one of the pastors of their caring ministry. if you need a ride to go and see them, they might be able to arrange for someone to pick you up. or they may be able to come out to see you.

Thank you. I will certainly take that under consideration.
 
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ThyLovingKindness:


" May I ask, is there a Living Trust with regard to the man you've lived with? Could this be a motivator behind the adult children's decision to have you removed from the premises?"
I refreshed my memory of 'living trust'- and yes he does have a living trust.



"Not to mention this man you've helped... you say he's sharp, and that he did sign a document to your detriment."
He signed the 'eviction' notice. They had to have ganged up on him and pressured him into it. He feels love for me. I have no doubt of that.
This is not something he wanted to do. I saw tears in his eyes.

"Another thing, there are always two sides to the story."
Without a doubt, I am sure this sounds too cruel and cold to be real.
I am not perfect. I have my faults as does everyone else, but everything I have said here is the truth as God is my witness.


".. feel free to message me at CF if you'd like. God bless you, praying for you!"
I don't think I can PM you. I think I read that you have to have a certain number of posts first before this is permitted.

Thanks again
 
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I am sorry for your predicament. But I am confused.

You say that they "had to have ganged up on him." But what does HE say when you ask him? Does he want you out? Does he want you to stay?

Do you have a rental agreement with him? As a room mate, you have no rights. What if you were to marry?

Praying for you.
 
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ThyLovingKindness:


" May I ask, is there a Living Trust with regard to the man you've lived with? Could this be a motivator behind the adult children's decision to have you removed from the premises?"
I refreshed my memory of 'living trust'- and yes he does have a living trust.



"Not to mention this man you've helped... you say he's sharp, and that he did sign a document to your detriment."
He signed the 'eviction' notice. They had to have ganged up on him and pressured him into it. He feels love for me. I have no doubt of that.
This is not something he wanted to do. I saw tears in his eyes.

"Another thing, there are always two sides to the story."
Without a doubt, I am sure this sounds too cruel and cold to be real.
I am not perfect. I have my faults as does everyone else, but everything I have said here is the truth as God is my witness.


".. feel free to message me at CF if you'd like. God bless you, praying for you!"
I don't think I can PM you. I think I read that you have to have a certain number of posts first before this is permitted.

Thanks again

Still praying...
 
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I would try and get some legal help - I think in Texas if you live as man and wife for a time you are entitled to the same as if you were married. I don't think they can just kick you out - I think you would fall under common-law marriage. Get some advice from someone who knows.
 
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I am sorry for your predicament. But I am confused.

You say that they "had to have ganged up on him." But what does HE say when you ask him? Does he want you out? Does he want you to stay?
He says what THEY have instructed him to say.
He does not want me to go. He feels love for me. I could always tell this. He had tears in his eyes when I talked to him.


Do you have a rental agreement with him? As a room mate, you have no rights. What if you were to marry?

His son (the 'smart' one) has a piece of paper he typed out stated that I agreed to pay him something per month rental..something silly like $1.00 (I think)

Even if he would agree to marry at his age, he would not because of his offspring. How would I get this 89 year old semi-invalid to the courthouse and the judge, pray tell? Impossible. LOL

Praying for you.


Thank you

 
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Mary, I agree that you should check out your legal options. Maybe there is a senior counselor who deals with these issues routinely. There are tenant laws that help prevent unreasonable eviction. Legal aid might be a recourse.

If this man's mind is still sharp, I believe you need to go to him and ask why he has done this. I would think he owes you an explanation at the least.

Lastly, on the spiritual side my prayer is that the Lord gives you comfort and wisdom, to know how to proceed. That he renews the vigor of your youth, so that you can move forward, however is necessary. And that He works this situation for good, as He is able to do.

do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.
And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. -Phil 4:6-7
 
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