Platonic bed sharing while married.

[Sectio Aurea]

Is it morally ok for a married man (with permission from his wife) to share a bed platonically with a friend of the opposite sex?

 

[Nickybobby]

Is it morally ok for a married man (with permission from his wife) to share a bed platonically with a friend of the opposite sex?

Why would you?

 

[earningmywings]

As long as she can share a bed with a platonic friend of the opposite sex too...mmmmm
I think the post above said it perfectly, 'Why would you?"

 

[Ana the Ist]

Is it morally ok for a married man (with permission from his wife) to share a bed platonically with a friend of the opposite sex?

I would say no...but it's really up to the man's wife.

 

[Sayre]

No.

 

[Sectio Aurea]

Why would you?

I had a platonic girl friend whom I have known for over 30 years, we have slept together on numerous occasions since we were teenagers, when I mean slept I mean literally sleep, when I got married I stopped sleeping with my friend so often and eventually we stopped when she moved out of town. I still saw her from time to time but missed the closeness we once had for one another. My wife still allowed me to stay with her but she is married now and her husband gets jealous of our friendship so I dont stay with them as often as I would like anymore.

I guess to answer your question, I really missed that special quality of intimate platonic friendship that you can only get from opposite sex friends. The conversation, advice, differing perspectives and emotional and spiritual support. It is an experience I find very very special hence the new girl friend.

 

[Sayre]

Why do you need to share a bed with her to have that kind of friendship? Things have changed; both of you are married now. Sounds like you are grieving the end of how things were. But things HAVE changed and there is no going back.

 

[Autumnleaf]

Sure, if you are stranded in the cold and need warmth to survive or you will die.

 

[Paradoxum]

I suppose it's okay if your wife is okay with it. I don't know how great an idea it is though.

 

[PersephonesTear]

Is it morally ok for a married man (with permission from his wife) to share a bed platonically with a friend of the opposite sex?

Uuum... Okay, well I've shared a bed with my brother, who is married, when our family was piled up in a single hotel room with only two beds. I guess some people would label that kind of on the "creepy" side, but no one wanted to sleep on the floor or pay double for an extra hotel room.

 

[Sectio Aurea]

As long as she can share a bed with a platonic friend of the opposite sex too...mmmmm

My wife is free to share a bed with a platonic friend (that I trust) of the opposite sex, but she has never had the desire to do so.

My friend can share a bed with who ever she wants whether I trust him/her or not.

 

[Gadarene]

Well, it'd be a pretty bad idea for me if I were in an exclusive relationship, given that that kind of closeness for me usually leads to me wanting to be even closer to that person, if you catch my drift.

(and by drift I mean )

If that honestly isn't a problem for you, then ok, though if anyone else's feelings are being hurt in this (and it sounds like they are with your friend's husband) then it needs to stop.

 

[Nithavela]

Only if he uses a condom.

 

[TravelerFarAwayFromHome]

Is it morally ok for a married man (with permission from his wife) to share a bed platonically with a friend of the opposite sex?

there is nothing wrong with this technically. any Christians who say other wise have serious issues.

It is not a sin. But however, is it a good idea, no

we suppose to run away from temptations.

 

[Sectio Aurea]

Why do you need to share a bed with her to have that kind of friendship?

I think that kind of friendship resulted from the bed sharing, once the trust between you is gained, the friendship (and marraige) moves to a whole new level, a special level, so I don't think bed sharing is necessary anymore to have or maintain that kind of friendship.

 

[Sectio Aurea]

there is nothing wrong with this technically. any Christians who say other wise have serious issues.

It is not a sin. But however, is it a good idea, no

we suppose to run away from temptations.

If I thought for one moment that a female friend was sexually attracted to me I would never share a bed with her. If I was sexually attracted to a female friend I would never share a bed with her. I have always been faithful to my wife. There are no temptations to run from.

 

[Sectio Aurea]

Well, it'd be a pretty bad idea for me if I were in an exclusive relationship, given that that kind of closeness for me usually leads to me wanting to be even closer to that person, if you catch my drift.

(and by drift I mean )

I catch your drift, but honestly, I couldn't even imagine doing the wild thing with my platonic female friends no matter how close I got to them. My wife more than satisfies me sexually.

If that honestly isn't a problem for you, then ok, though if anyone else's feelings are being hurt in this (and it sounds like they are with your friend's husband) then it needs to stop.

I wouldnt want to hurt anyone especially my wife, I stopped sleeping with my friend a long time before she got married.

 

[Gadarene]

I catch your drift, but honestly, I couldn't even imagine doing the wild thing with my platonic female friends no matter how close I got to them. My marital sex life is very satisfactory.

As I said, it's a personal thing. When I get that close to a girl as friends, the wild thing seems like a natural next step to me. Definitely not true for everyone though, not least my female friends

I wouldnt want to hurt anyone especially my wife, I stopped sleeping with my friend a long time before she got married.

Derp, I did actually read that and then promptly forgot about it. Fair enough then!

 

[Sectio Aurea]

No.

Why?

 

[Sectio Aurea]

Sure, if you are stranded in the cold and need warmth to survive or you will die.

Why would it be immoral if it was not a survival situation?