I'm not suggesting that it can be "steam-rolled," but that any barriers arising due to free decisions could probably be overcome by an agent possessing the properties of omniscience and omnipotence. If mere mortals like us can overcome such barriers (through persuasion, for example) without violating someone's free will, then I don't see why this would present as an intractable problem for a deity whose power and foresight far surpasses our own. If anything, such a being would have an incomparable advantage in forming relationships because, as I mentioned previously, it would know the best way to reach any individual, regardless of their initial disposition.
Are some individuals "unreachable"? Potentially. But then who is to blame for this? You seem to want to assign blame to the individual for freely rejecting the offer of a relationship. Given the unfathomable power differential, I'm more inclined to attribute it to the one who created such an individual knowing that they would forever remain "unreachable" and therefore in a wretched state of damnation.
In my view, this serves to expose the problems that inevitably arise when one inserts a deity into a social situation. The power differential is so immense that it becomes impossible for this not to be an issue.
In any case, he remains entirely certain of the outcome of his creation: he either creates Sue to freely accept him or to freely reject him. In other words, he either creates her to be saved or to be damned. I'll leave open the question of whether this means free will is even possible in these circumstances. What seems clear enough is that, being omniscient, he cannot be ignorant of the ultimate outcome either way. So he is left with a choice: to either create Sue knowing what she will do (accept/reject) or to not create her.
I think you've touched on something that is almost universal in human relationships, but which is absent once omniscience and omnipotence enter the picture - risk. In forming relationships with others, we each face the
risk of rejection because we remain uncertain of the other person's intentions and disposition. We risk wasting our limited resources in trying to persuade them to willingly accept us. We risk opportunities to form better relationships with more willing partners. We take risks in forming alliances that may upset others in the social situation, and so on. When we make a decision not knowing exactly what the outcome will be, we experience some of level risk. An omniscient being faces no such limitation; he knows exactly what the outcome will be in any given situation. Being omnipotent, his resources are also limitless, so there is no risk that he will squander them in trying to form relationships.
There is already a huge asymmetry in the nature of the relationship, so I don't see why this particular asymmetry would be problematic. It may be problematic for notions for free will, but that seems to me a consequence of proposing an omniscient/omnipotent agent anyway.
Yes, Sue would still be free to decide. I'm inclined to agree with that conclusion tentatively, ignoring questions about free will, at least for the moment. But it does reflect poorly on the character of her creator, does it not? He created her knowing that she would never be united with him, and then also instituted the punishment for
not being united with him.
In my view, I simply don't think you can reconcile this with omniscience. If, at any point, he
does not know what will ultimately become of Sue, then he cannot be considered omniscient. Ignorance of any kind is incompatible with omniscience.
I don't think one can say that she has "intrinsic worth" if her value is ultimately conferred by some other being who created her for the specific purpose of forming a relationship with him.
I'm conscious of the fact that this is an area of significant debate among Christians. I thank you for your response though, since you've addressed my comments thoughtfully, as well as prompting me to think!