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True.fishstix said:
It violates some people's beliefs that we are unclassifiable, but the truth remains that connections resound between our temperaments and our behaviors. Read Dr. Keirsey's Please Understand Me II if you haven't already done so and judge for yourself the model's accuracy.
Yes and no. Isabel Myers illustrated how different aspects of our personality mature at different stages in our life. However, your actual type is fixed for life. I will forever be an INFJ. You will forever be an NT. etc.
I just wanted to say...If your read more of what Keirsey says, you will read about NTs also being very sensitive and generous people. He does not portray NTs as vulcans! NTs simply do not value the general social dating/mating and relationship customs that other types do. They also do not see relationships as arbitrary so if they get into one it's going to more often than not be based on a careful thought process, evaluation, etc. It's a tedious and difficult process for them! Not because they want it to be difficult, but they just simply won't base a decision on feelings alone. I hope that makes sense!fishstix said:Because, like I said, even NTs need friends and get lonely. We can't be expected to spend all of our time with only computers/machines. Thus, we need social skills in order to make and keep friends.
It helps if the emphasis is on the word excessive rather than the word time. Anything excessive isn't good.
As an NT, I think that fact is incorrect or too general/extreme. NTs may be more logical than most, but we are not robots or vulcans. Like I said before, it seems that in analyzing the personality, the person has been forgotten. We don't do whatever is necessary to avoid clingy/submissive relationships, as sometimes there are other factors to consider such as how much we care about the person we have such a relationship with.
After all, a logical person can't leave out key data in making a decision
My boyfriend is an NT and he's not a vulcan at all
You do know that Keirsey says that NTs and NFs make ideal partners, right?Living4Him03 said:I just wanted to say...If your read more of what Keirsey says, you will read about NTs also being very sensitive and generous people. He does not portray NTs as vulcans! NTs simply do not value the general social dating/mating and relationship customs that other types do. They also do not see relationships as arbitrary so if they get into one it's going to more often than not be based on a careful thought process, evaluation, etc. It's a tedious and difficult process for them! Not because they want it to be difficult, but they just simply won't base a decision on feelings alone. I hope that makes sense!
As crazy as our relationship is at times! hehe. It's not crazy, just that although we are good together, we really do think differently in some major ways that sometimes make us frustrated with each other. However, it works out well somehow and we really enjoy one anothe'rs company
Sounds right to me! I'm an INFJ and my husband's an INTJ.Rising Tree said:You do know that Keirsey says that NTs and NFs make ideal partners, right?
As Keirsey says, you share abstract word use (SJs and SPs have concrete word use), but you have different tool use: NFs (as are SJs) are cooperative; NTs (as are SPs) are utilitarian. In other words, you speak the same language but do different things with it. This gives you the common ground on communication without making you too much alike.Living4Him03 said:Yes
Now if someone will just answer my other question in these forums!!!!!! grr i just wanted to know one simple thing and no one has even bothered to answer! 
Living4Him03 said:
That just means you were in a different mood each time. Your type is fixed for life. Now, it is possible that in real life, you're a hybrid on the I/E and S/N trait.Wide-eyedWithWonder said:Dude, this is weird. I changed quite a bit over winter break. Before, I was an ISFJ, and now I'm an ENFJ. However, I have quite a few things in common with other combinations, too (including whole other categories). Whatever's going on, God is definitely awesome. (It seems it's getting harder to characterize my "personality"...LOL).
