Personalities

[blackribbon]

I think much of what we believe are problems in "dating" relationships are really a clash of personalities. We tend to approach the world in a certain way and assume that other people experience the same situations the same way we do.

In psychology class, our instructor had us take a well respected personality test online to learn more about ourselves. I did this at the time and promptly forgot about it. However, a nursing friend of mine mentioned it in a conversation and he was somewhat "embarassed" by his. I looked his up and it fit him very well, but because it is more emotion based, he doesn't see it as being "manly" even though there is nothing non-masculine about him. Reading it also helped me understand how he thinks and I was able to see things through different eyes. There are things that I have viewed as "weakness" in him that I was able to now see both as strengths. They are related to being a peacemaker and really caring about people enough not to want to cause strife.

After reading that, I took the test again and was both horrified and amazed by how accurate mine assessment was. Although I "feel" a lot of emotions, I don't act based on them. The explanation of my personality says that others often perceive me as being "unfeeling" because I do live by what I consider "logic" and don't follow my heart. As far as this forum goes, it explains why I could live in peace with someone killing my adult child if he was a psychopath.

Reading this made me rethink how I approach the world and a little less judgemental about the people around me. Just because they do things that I don't understand does not mean that they are "wrong" or less Godly. God just designed them differently. It has also changed how I interact with my emotional friend...and how I encourage him. Words that would encourage me often have the opposite response on him...now I can be a better friend.

Here is the site that has both the test and the explanations of the personalities. It is a safe site.

Personality Test - Keirsey.com *** Keirsey Temperament Sorter II

 

[blackribbon]

Oh, my personality falls in the group called the "Rationals" and my friend is an "Idealist". What a pair we make but we also help balance each other out.

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

I scored INTJ "mastermind" which makes sense. In my work my introversion shows. I might have a meeting with people, to find out exactly what they want for a project, then disappear in my office and write an app or whatever. I need to have everything well-planned. Some people like to talk a lot while they work, a lot of talking and commotion annoys me. I like projects where I can be creative. I like creativity but I am also very systematic about it.

A funny thing happened once when I was speaking at a conference. It was a technical, esoteric topic. When I started speaking, there were about 20 people in the room, every time I turned around there were fewer people. When I was done, there were only three or four people, but they were interested in what I was saying and they had a lot of questions. No one needed the room so the several of us continued talking about the topic for another half hour. I wasn't offended that so many people walked out on me - I figured the several people I had left were my real audience. I guess it is a good thing I never became a teacher.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I just did the test. It says I am an Artisan Performer (ESFP)

It's pretty accurate even though some of the questions I had a hard time choosing because both answers would fit.

It's says Artisans tend to be fun loving, optimistic, realistic and focused on the the here and now.
Artisans pride themselves on being unconventional, bold, and spontaneous (yep that's me)
Artisans make playful mates, creative parents and troubleshooting leaders.
Artisans are excitable, trust their impulses, want to make a splash, seek stimulation, prize freedom (yep) and dream of mastering action skills (yep)

Oh and 30 to 35 percent of the population are Artisans !

Thanks for sharing the link!

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I scored INTJ "mastermind" which makes sense. In my work my introversion shows. I might have a meeting with people, to find out exactly what they want for a project, then disappear in my office and write an app or whatever. I need to have everything well-planned. Some people like to talk a lot while they work, a lot of talking and commotion annoys me. I like projects where I can be creative. I like creativity but I am also very systematic about it.

A funny thing happened once when I was speaking at a conference. It was a technical, esoteric topic. When I started speaking, there were about 20 people in the room, every time I turned around there were fewer people. When I was done, there were only three or four people, but they were interested in what I was saying and they had a lot of questions. No one needed the room so the several of us continued talking about the topic for another half hour. I wasn't offended that so many people walked out on me - I figured the several people I had left were my real audience. I guess it is a good thing I never became a teacher.

You are a rare breed too! Only 2 percent of the population are masterminds.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

reading some of the articles, it says that I would be best paired with a Guardian ISTJ.

I don't know what the initials are for though.

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

I have made a living out of this trait. Some people find me annoying because I can find potential flaws in a plan and I am not shy to point them out.
"As a Mastermind, you seem to have an innate ability to grasp a project's necessary progression and understand how each step leads to the next. You can also be first-rate when it comes to anticipating potential difficulties and preparing alternatives. By trying to imagine every contingency, you'll almost never set off on a project without more than one plan in mind. If Plan A fails, you'll move directly along to Plan B."
I am always thinking of contingency plans. I am good at solving technical problems. I'm not sure I would want to be a manager and have to deal with people problems. I was a supervisor once years ago and hated it.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I hear ya on being the boss lol. NO thanks! Been there done that, and while it may have perks at times, it's not all it's cracked up to be IMO and it's much easier to be the employee. I might like to be my own boss someday, but I have to work on my discipline first, which is what I now realize that God is preparing me for. To be more disciplined. And even if I'm wrong and it's not God preparing me, it's not a bad thing to be disciplined so it can't hurt.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

So now how do I find this Guardian ISTJ? Maybe any potential dates I get I could ask them to take the test first? naw...I don't think that would go over well. LOL

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

Michelle, it sounds like you would be happy being self-employed, being an Artisan and all. Maybe something with photography? Have you ever thought about nature photography? There is a lot of nice scenery in Arizona.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Michelle, it sounds like you would be happy being self-employed, being an Artisan and all. Maybe something with photography? Have you ever thought about nature photography? There is a lot of nice scenery in Arizona.

A photographer is exactly what I want to be when I grow up! Seriously though it's always been my dream to be a photographer. I like photographing people though. I never seem to capture the scenery the way I see it and plus I don't have the greatest camera right now for either.
The other thing is that I don't want to depend on me to make my ends meet IYKWIM? So I am looking to do it in retirement if I ever get there LOL. I was thinking maybe I could do some photography for God in heaven. You know the scenery there is spectacular I hear!

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I found it! ESFP is Extraverted Sensing Feeling Perceiving Woot! I'm so happy I found this!

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

I found it! ESFP is Extraverted Sensing Feeling Perceiving Woot! I'm so happy I found this!

Michelle, I am your opposite! INTJ= Introverted, iNtuitive, Thinking, Judging.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Michelle, I am your opposite! INTJ= Introverted, iNtuitive, Thinking, Judging.

I'm supposed to be best paired with an ISTJ Introverted Sensing Thinking Judging

 

[TheyCallMeDavid]

I think much of what we believe are problems in "dating" relationships are really a clash of personalities. We tend to approach the world in a certain way and assume that other people experience the same situations the same way we do.

In psychology class, our instructor had us take a well respected personality test online to learn more about ourselves. I did this at the time and promptly forgot about it. However, a nursing friend of mine mentioned it in a conversation and he was somewhat "embarassed" by his. I looked his up and it fit him very well, but because it is more emotion based, he doesn't see it as being "manly" even though there is nothing non-masculine about him. Reading it also helped me understand how he thinks and I was able to see things through different eyes. There are things that I have viewed as "weakness" in him that I was able to now see both as strengths. They are related to being a peacemaker and really caring about people enough not to want to cause strife.

After reading that, I took the test again and was both horrified and amazed by how accurate mine assessment was. Although I "feel" a lot of emotions, I don't act based on them. The explanation of my personality says that others often perceive me as being "unfeeling" because I do live by what I consider "logic" and don't follow my heart. As far as this forum goes, it explains why I could live in peace with someone killing my adult child if he was a psychopath.

Reading this made me rethink how I approach the world and a little less judgemental about the people around me. Just because they do things that I don't understand does not mean that they are "wrong" or less Godly. God just designed them differently. It has also changed how I interact with my emotional friend...and how I encourage him. Words that would encourage me often have the opposite response on him...now I can be a better friend.

Here is the site that has both the test and the explanations of the personalities. It is a safe site.

Personality Test - Keirsey.com *** Keirsey Temperament Sorter II

We must be careful not to let our feelings, our past personal experiences, etc.. cloud the ultimate truth source for us to acquire sound teaching (and then to faithfully implement it) : Gods Word. There is a good amount of instruction in the Bible relating to Single Dating Relationships and Marriage Relationships ; its just a matter of whether we want them to have authority in our life or if we want to be our own 'god' to do what we feel like doing regardless.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

We must be careful not to let our feelings, our past personal experiences, etc.. cloud the ultimate truth source for us to acquire sound teaching (and then to faithfully implement it) : Gods Word. There is a good amount of instruction in the Bible relating to Single Dating Relationships and Marriage Relationships ; its just a matter of whether we want them to have authority in our life or if we want to be our own 'god' to do what we feel like doing regardless.

I've never read about Single Dating in the Bible. Where is that?
Also it is quite difficult or impossible to not let our feelings or our past personal experiences influence our decisions. It is in fact the very fiber of who we are. We are formed by our personal experiences and feelings that went with them. And alot of people in the Bible went thru alot of bad circumstances and even made mistakes when they were trying to follow God but in the end they were blessed by God.
I didn't read in anyone's posts that we want to be our own "god". I found this personality test to peg me pretty good. I don't see anything wrong with it.

 

[dayhiker]

I got this for the 1st time talking this test.

Artisan Performer (ESFP)

I used to get:

Rational (INTP)

 

[exitstageright]

I've never read about Single Dating in the Bible. Where is that?
Also it is quite difficult or impossible to not let our feelings or our past personal experiences influence our decisions. It is in fact the very fiber of who we are. We are formed by our personal experiences and feelings that went with them. And alot of people in the Bible went thru alot of bad circumstances and even made mistakes when they were trying to follow God but in the end they were blessed by God.
I didn't read in anyone's posts that we want to be our own "god". I found this personality test to peg me pretty good. I don't see anything wrong with it.

Could it be that the reason David is single is because he seems to lack a sense of humor,and that he is sooooooo darn serious?

David reminds me sooo much of myself when I was a teenager.I did have have a girlfriend back then,because I was too serious thinking about my future,while neglecting my present.

 

[blackribbon]

We must be careful not to let our feelings, our past personal experiences, etc.. cloud the ultimate truth source for us to acquire sound teaching (and then to faithfully implement it) : Gods Word. There is a good amount of instruction in the Bible relating to Single Dating Relationships and Marriage Relationships ; its just a matter of whether we want them to have authority in our life or if we want to be our own 'god' to do what we feel like doing regardless.

First of all, the fact that you discount feeling means that if you took the test, you would have a "T" instead of a "F" in there. And considering God made all personalities and feelings too, I suspect that there is a place in his creation for making decisions based on feelings.

Next, I have no idea of what you are saying here. I have looked and looked and looked, and I do not see "dating" direction in the Bible. There are limitations to whom we are supposed to marry but they are not "rules"...unless you also want to consider the dress code that most of us do not follow also rules. I have not worn a head covering in church since I wore Easter bonnets as a little girl...and my hair is now short because as a nurse, I don't want to have it fall into other people's bodily fluid as I care for them (can you say "eewww"?)

According to the Bible, as a "young widow", I am supposed to remarry so that I don't get into trouble via "idleness"...but I haven't had a single family member volunteer to help with the family finances and my kids are too young to support me since I am still supporting them. If God would send me a new husband, I'd be more than willing to reconsider marriage. I was very happy in that state before my husband died. However, I haven't had one knock on the door yet... I wish the Bible and the world was as black and white as you want it to be, but God actually made it with a lot of variations and colors.

There are the ideals that we are supposed to strive for, but luckily the Bible isn't quite as clear on relationships as it appears to be. In Jesus' human lineage alone, we have Rehab, the prostitute...David and Bathsheba whom their relationship started as an affair...Ruth who was not even Jewish or Hebrew...and a lot of other flawed human beings...and yet, they are still part of the lineage of the greatest miracle this world has ever known.

Roman 14:14 I am convinced, being fully persuaded in the Lord Jesus, that nothing is unclean in itself. But if anyone regards something as unclean, then for that person it is unclean.

1 Cor 10:23 “I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive.

 

[blackribbon]

I am a INTJ like you Dr S. I am even more unique in that I am female.

Exit...there is someone for everyone...just because he is so serious does not mean that there isn't a woman who values that in man...and last I looked around here, we are ALL STILL single...be careful about throwing those stones...