From the National Center for Victims of Crime:
Sexual assault takes many forms including attacks such as rape or attempted rape, as well as any unwanted sexual contact or threats. Usually a sexual assault occurs when someone touches any part of another person's body in a sexual way, even through clothes, without that person's consent. Some types of sexual acts which fall under the category of sexual assault include forced sexual intercourse (rape), sodomy (oral or anal sexual acts), child molestation, incest, fondling and attempted rape. Sexual assault in any form is often a devastating crime. Assailants can be strangers, acquaintances, friends, or family members. Assailants commit sexual assault by way of violence, threats, coercion, manipulation, pressure or tricks. Whatever the circumstances, no one asks or deserves to be sexually assaulted.
This was pretty much the same definition I found everywhere.
In the novel Les Miserables Jean Valjean goes to the galleys as a slave for stealing a loaf of bread. I think that we can all see how enslaving a man with a starving family for stealing bread is excessive.
What is Christian at all in admiring the letter of the law so much? I mean do we really believe in Christianity when that's what we prefer to considering another way of handling something? Is this what some of you want...that the police never let you off with a warning? Speeding is way more dangerous than what the boys did. Shoplifters have sometimes been warned, and not done it again. They were sexually harrassed but they were not assaulted.
Properly speaking God should punish all of us for a million actions with unseen consequences that are sinful, that harm and ruin. God forgives us, has our forgiveness waiting for us the moment we repent.
So when the possibility that something else could be done is brought up, I think we should leap at it.
Articles exist for all kinds of things. Nobody said that there was no such thing as a sexually aggressive female. Nobody! Just that these girls were not the aggressors, and that many girls, like many boys, are quite innocent and pure at that age.On my home computer, I have an article bookmarked that discusses how to help our sons fend off aggressive girls (it's Christian based, btw). If female aggressors did not exist in the tween/teen demographic, why on earth would articles like that exist, right?
Criminal Code of Canada:From the ERA website:
Hostile environment sexual harassment occurs when unwanted sexual touching, comments, and/or gestures are so bad or occur so often that it interferes with your schoolwork, makes you feel uncomfortable or unsafe at school, or prevents you from participating in or benefiting from a school program or activity. This type of harassment does not have to involve a threat or promise of benefit in exchange for a sexual favor. The harassment can be from your teacher, school officials, or other students.
Articles exist for all kinds of things. Nobody said that there was no such thing as a sexually aggressive female. Nobody! Just that these girls were not the aggressors, and that many girls, like many boys, are quite innocent and pure at that age.
Criminal Code of Canada:
SEXUAL ASSAULT (Basic Summaries)
Section 271 – Sexual Assault:
Somebody touches you in a sexual way on purpose,directly or indirectly, without your consent.
They were sexually harrassed but they were not assaulted.
I am going to say it again b/c my other post got ignored. But, to me, the real issue is the parents and their lack of involvement in teaching the correct values and morals to their kids. Between modern parenting (or, more accurately stated - lack of parenting) and the disconnect between parents/kids due to technology, kids are not getting enough face time with their parents and are pretty much raising themselves.
The education system should not be accountable for teaching our kids proper manners, values, and morals. That's our job or we have no business having children.
So, the stink needs to be raised at a more basic level. More pressure needs to be put on parents to raise their children properly. Not on the education system or our government or "society in general". The focus needs to be much more narrow.
From middle school all through HS, I dealt with boys being sexually inappropriate - thanks to being a large-chested girl. I got "humped" by a boy in Art class in middle school, had boys oogle and make jokes about my breasts, had a boy that sat behind me in 11th grade history class constantly grab my hand and try to get me to touch his privates.
Yes, it was unpleasant and made me uncomfortable. But, I hardly would say that it caused long term damage. Mostly, I just rolled my eyes in disgust at their immature behavior.
Was the behavior I was subjected to inappropriate? Absolutely.
Is it "normal" given the age and the drive of hormones that these boys don't know how to control? I think it is.
Does it mean it should be tolerated? Absolutely not.
Should their parents be teaching them better self-control, values, and morals? Most definitely.
It never even occurred to me, though, that they were sexually assaulting me. I still wouldn't classify it as assault, tbh. Though I wasn't a willing participant, I wasn't a victim, either, IMO. It is, unfortunately, a natural part of hormonal surges combined with a lack of proper self control.
Which is why I'm such a huge proponent of parents being more involved with their kids and drilling self control, morals, and values into their kids - boys and girls alike.
BTW, this behavior didn't stop when I reached adulthood. I had a co-worker who did cross the line into sexual harrassment. My father knew him well and put an end to it quickly. I also had another man stalk me for a short time - again, Daddy to the rescue. So, I did address behaviors that were truly harmful or dangerous swiftly and without fear b/c I wasn't going to tolerate being violated by someone who was doing what they were doing intentionally and at an age where they should have known better.
Criminal Code of Canada:
SEXUAL ASSAULT (Basic Summaries)
Section 271 Sexual Assault:
Somebody touches you in a sexual way on purpose,directly or indirectly, without your consent.
It's a CRIME.
Oh but you'll just giggle Dallas - that's what girls do - they giggle. Or, it's more likely that you will grab his bits.Its unbelievable..If I as an adult..go to the store today..and a strange man grabs my breast and walks off..according to some here thats not an assault..It must be so often I suppose (by the same person too it sounds) that it litterally interferes with my abiltiy to get mys shopping done for it to be a crime..Unbelievable...
And by the way..look up the defination of MOLEST..
Dallas
Oh but you'll just giggle Dallas - that's what girls do - they giggle. Or, it's more likely that you will grab his bits.
Oh but you'll just giggle Dallas - that's what girls do - they giggle. Or, it's more likely that you will grab his bits.
But McScribe -- you can't be outside the law of the land! You can't. The boys couldn't, and you can't. Do you think that if I went right now and started getting all over my boss (ugh) and then said "but I'm a Christian, so you must forgive me" that would work? Of course not. He would call HR, and get me hauled out of here, and off to the funny farm (where I would need to go for sure.) There just is the law, and the law doesn't care which church you attend if you break it. You just broke it.Who cares anyway. It doesn't matter. All that matters is the law. Why we even bother with Christianity is beyond me. I mean you can't even talk about it without being accused of approving of sexual assault. It makes me sick.