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I know some of you have heard me going on about the marriage contract or agreement thing, and I'm sure some of you think that it is my sense of caution about being hurt again, and there is an element of truth in that.
As I'm thinking about it I'm not so sure that being more thoughtful about marriage is a bad thing. We talk about how young people should be when they get married, the conditions under which divorce should be acceptable, how to conduct yourself in a second marriage and so on.
I think that having stuff written down mutually would help me, anyway. I like the idea of knowing what I might expect from a future spouse and what she would expect of me.I like the idea that it could suit our particular marriage and have within it the possibility of adaptation to future concerns.
But I also think it could help others, from people of different faiths, people who marry very young, people reconsidering what marriage has come to mean after years of marriage, to people who didn't think sex would be a big issue to people who didn't think that they needed a mutual agreement on whether to have children.
As I'm thinking about it I'm not so sure that being more thoughtful about marriage is a bad thing. We talk about how young people should be when they get married, the conditions under which divorce should be acceptable, how to conduct yourself in a second marriage and so on.
I think that having stuff written down mutually would help me, anyway. I like the idea of knowing what I might expect from a future spouse and what she would expect of me.I like the idea that it could suit our particular marriage and have within it the possibility of adaptation to future concerns.
But I also think it could help others, from people of different faiths, people who marry very young, people reconsidering what marriage has come to mean after years of marriage, to people who didn't think sex would be a big issue to people who didn't think that they needed a mutual agreement on whether to have children.