People who use God as a reason to show they aren't interested

[Handmaid for Jesus]

Because he's not what she finds attractive.

It may be for this reason. But it could be for some other reason, like she is into someone else.

 

[Hieronymus]

It may be for this reason. But it could be for some other reason, like she is into someone else.

I guess the conclusion would be that men should take a hint and women should be more clear.

 

[Handmaid for Jesus]

I guess the conclusion would be that men should take a hint and women should be more clear.

It would seem so. But it does not work out that way.

 

[Elliewaves]

Yes, connected, but since you replied to me, i thought i'd point out it was besides the point i made.Oh, okay. No doubt.
Well, if wounded, first attend to the wounds.
Then look further, if you're motivated to do so.

Yes, I replied to you because you used the gif I use in my signature. I had already replied in this thread, so I just assumed it was a reference to me instead of being direct and quoting me. If not, then I apologize, but people are allowed to address the words you post in the thread and it was part of the topic. *shrug* I just don't understand getting hung up on someone that is not interested in you. They may have been rude indirectly or directly in their rejection of you or made some lame excuse that you don't care for, but all it means is they aren't the one for you.

 

[( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)]

Then on the other hand, citing God is a legitimate reason to turn people down in the dating world if it is in fact Him who is telling you to not pursue somebody. I've been going thru that recently myself. In my case, personally, I am very interested. But for reasons I don't need to discuss, God has been saying no.

Do yourself and any potential partners a favor..Only go after the ones that you know you have a green light from the Lord to pursue. You'll save yourself a lot of unwanted heartache later if you end up getting the wrong one.

 

[Hieronymus]

Yes, I replied to you because you used the gif I use in my signature. I had already replied in this thread, so I just assumed it was a reference to me instead of being direct and quoting me. If not, then I apologize,

No need to apologize, but indeed, it was only a reference to the look of the lady in your GIF.

but people are allowed to address the words you post in the thread and it was part of the topic. *shrug* I just don't understand getting hung up on someone that is not interested in you.

I don't think anyone is hung up here. I assume you mean the OP.
I take it as him just not understanding the lady with the God excuse.

They may have been rude indirectly or directly in their rejection of you or made some lame excuse that you don't care for, but all it means is they aren't the one for you.

Well, as i summarized, i think men should take a hint and women should be clearer.
(in general, in this case too).
And for the rest, if he chooses to further pursue dating the lady, he's free to do so.
Not sure if it's wise though.
But who knows?

 

[Handmaid for Jesus]

(in general, in this case too).
And for the rest, if he chooses to further pursue dating the lady, he's free to do so.
Not sure if it's wise though.

It is not wise if she has said no. That is stalking and is illegal.

 

[Hieronymus]

It is not wise if she has said no. That is stalking and is illegal.

It's not immediately "stalking", obviously.
Especially when you ask someone else to forward a question or something like that.

 

[Handmaid for Jesus]

It's not immediately "stalking", obviously.
Especially when you ask someone else to forward a question or something like that.

Well no means no.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

Yeah but this topic is about using "God excuses".Yes, women can be condescending too.Apparently it's not always clear.

Yeah, we got side tracked as the focus is on "using God as an excuse". There's just something UN-Christian about that.

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

rejection is tough..

 

[exitstageright]

Yeah, we got side tracked as the focus is on "using God as an excuse". There's just something UN-Christian about that.

Yes, it is called lying, which God hates.
Proverbs 6:16-19 New International Version (NIV)
16 There are six things the Lord hates,
seven that are detestable to him:
17 haughty eyes,
a lying tongue,
hands that shed innocent blood,
18 a heart that devises wicked schemes,
feet that are quick to rush into evil,
19 a false witness who pours out lies,
and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.

 

[exitstageright]

rejection is tough..

Actually, when someone is rejecting you, that person is redirecting you to someone else, who cares about you.

 

[exitstageright]

It is not wise if she has said no. That is stalking and is illegal.

This reminds me of that song, sung by Aretha Franklin.
"
Although your phone you ignore
Somehow I must explain
I'm gonna rap on your door
Tap on your window pane
I'm gonna camp on your step
Until I get through to you
I've got to change your view baby
'Til you come back to me
That's what I'm gonna do
Yeah 'til you come back to me
That's what I'll do
'Til you come back to me
That's what I'm gonna do"

Songwriters: Morris Broadnax, Clarence O. Paul, Stevie Wonder

 

[exitstageright]

There's this Christian woman I know via Meetup. The extend of her church involvement is Sundays mostly. Her circle of friends are a variety of beliefs and so on. Some are Christian, some agnostic, some spiritual. Etc. They go out dining together and dancing after. Sometimes movies.

But when I talk to her, she does express her passion for God and Jesus Christ.

She's single, over 50, never married, no children. Very smart, etc.

I tried to ask her out or asked if she had any interest in dating and she said "To be honest, <my name>,....it's not a priority at this point as ever since her recent cancer scare (she's recovered), she's found solace in her friends, family, and interested in building her relationship with Christ." (sorry for the change up in the tenses).

Basically, she's not interested in finding anyone and just recited the aforementioned.

I didn't want to push anymore on that.

Anyways, I caught up with one of her friends at a Meetup event. Dining out, he and his friends said that she might be at that venue watching live music. I mentioned I liked her and was interested, but told him what she told me.

He said, "Um...nope...she's is indeed looking"

I was like, "really? She told me otherwise"

He goes, 'I dunno, some women just say things to be nice or let you down easily...you know how it is"

But that could have changed...big maybe though. He said he'd find out for me if she'd be interested in me though.

But yeah, I tend to get this from Christian women a lot. They use some "Godly" reason to blow you off...where as secular women, all they have to go with are the " I gotta wash my hair"

But\, personally...there's some kind bad karma attached to doing this. Yes? (Of course, that's a word that may not be appropriate for these forums. So it was written to form a context and get the point across.

Once,I was attending a single's Bible Study. I asked this one lady out. Instead of her telling me that she was interested in going out with me,and I would have respected that,she told me that she would rather spend time with Jesus.
Well,a couple of meetings after that,I saw her with a man that I knew. I sure was tempted to go up to the man,shake his hand,and say,"Hi,I am glad to meet you....Jesus!"

 

[Handmaid for Jesus]

This reminds me of that song, sung by Aretha Franklin.
"
Although your phone you ignore
Somehow I must explain
I'm gonna rap on your door
Tap on your window pane
I'm gonna camp on your step
Until I get through to you
I've got to change your view baby
'Til you come back to me
That's what I'm gonna do
Yeah 'til you come back to me
That's what I'll do
'Til you come back to me
That's what I'm gonna do"

Songwriters: Morris Broadnax, Clarence O. Paul, Stevie Wonder
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Yep, trying to do this song can end a person in handcuffs.

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

Actually, when someone is rejecting you, that person is redirecting you to someone else, who cares about you.

So we hope..

 

[blackribbon]

She is nicely saying she is not interested. It does not matter why.

And "interested" men seldom take "no thank you" and just let it be. We have to try to come up with a reason that won't hurt the man's feelings and to make sure he doesn't believe she is playing a game so he keeps pursuing her.

She is saying "no thank you" to the guy the same way a guy says "no thank you" to a woman by looking at her and deciding that she isn't someone that he wants to ask out. Except that he usually gets to say "no thank you" by saying nothing.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

She is nicely saying she is not interested. It does not matter why.

And "interested" men seldom take "no thank you" and just let it be. We have to try to come up with a reason that won't hurt the man's feelings and to make sure he doesn't believe she is playing a game so he keeps pursuing her.

She is saying "no thank you" to the guy the same way a guy says "no thank you" to a woman by looking at her and deciding that she isn't someone that he wants to ask out. Except that he usually gets to say "no thank you" by saying nothing.

This post was more about using God as an excuse to say you're not interested. Nothing "nice" about that. In fact, it's rather un-Christian of her.

When you want a good Christian woman, then you get this thrown in your face...as a Christian man seeking a Christian woman, you tend to lump them into the rest of the secular world of singles and dating.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

I think this confirms why religion is lower on the totem pole of traits you seek in a partner, because there are much more important things than just "being Christian"...you know, like character, value system, ethics, kindness, humility, etc. All those things that comes with being Christian, but at the same time...this is how Christians get together, but outside of a Church environment. So it's become more of "you're Christian? Oh that's nice, but what else do you bring to the table?"