Hi
I might be wrong but I think that there are ways to approach the scriptures (the stories and theology you quote). I don't think you must take it literally or if you need to dwell on these topics to enjoy a relationship with God, a church and Jesus. Others may step in here, but I have seen mixed messages from a wide range of Christians.
Firstly I think it is not possible to pick up an idea and believe in it. What I would suggest is finding a personal relationship with God then deciding on how the Chruch/Scripture and so on help to enhance that relationship and enjoy it.
God isn't only in the Church or the book, they help us, but it sounds like they are not what you may need right now. Firstly look inwards, question your very own beingness. Walk in the countryside or by the coast and feel a part of living life. There are options we, as mortals, can look into without loosing out on what may be a good relationship with God. Following that, it may be easier to go to Church and enjoy what you wife feels she enjoys and wants to share. Likewise it would be very hard to go to Church or study the scripture if you feel there is no tangible personal value or relationship in it for you. I have been there too.
If I obliged you to come to my office and sit whilst I worked, without feeling there is something in it for you, you may also feel bored, frustrated or leave looking for a reason to be there again. What I mean to reiterate is that first look for a relationship for you personally, where you feel you might get support or even companionship with an omnipresent God, then look to the scriptures and church. I am not here to persuade anyone of God or Church, but you sound like someone who is searching. What do you think?