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When consented to by both parties is it moral? This is including sex as part of the realtionship, but not as the only objective.
I think this comes down to an issue of trust and mutual understading of each others needs.
Overall I'm ok with it, I've been in a couple, and every one I've come out fine and unharmed, we've enjoyed ourselves and that was that.
Okay I figure it is what I thought. I'm sure this idea isn't going to float your boat but anyway...
Firstly let me make two foundations for my view:
Now the thing we must ask ourselves is, how does God treat his relationship with the Church?
- We are supposed to live our Christian lives in reference to Christ "Therefore, as you received Christ Jesus so walk in him, rooted and built up in him and established in the faith..." (Colossians 2:6-7a, ESV). So what I'm going to say is in reference to someone trying to live a life in reference to him.
- The Bible expects a relationship between a man and a woman to model that between Christ and the church (Eph 5:22-33).
Is it an open relationship?
Therefore, we must say that open relationships are not God's plan for relationships. He is a God that makes everlasting covenants and that is why it is appropriate for us to make an everlasting covenant.
- From God's perspective no! He never leaves his people for a new and better model. No matter how bad his people are he loves them to the end.
- From our perspective? God expects that we will not run off with other gods. Just like WhatThe, God is a jealous type: "You shall not make for yourself a carved image...You shall not bow down to them and serve them, for I the LORD your God am a jealous God" (Exodus 20:4-5).
Adultery is clearly against God's plan for marriage and thus it must be for relationships too.
I know that's not the answer you want to hear but I'm convinced it's true, feel free to say anything you wish in response.
All the best as you grown in understanding of Jesus and his plan for you.
Tim
It is quite possible to be an ethical s!ut.
Okay I figure it is what I thought. I'm sure this idea isn't going to float your boat but anyway...
Firstly let me make two foundations for my view:
Now the thing we must ask ourselves is, how does God treat his relationship with the Church?
- We are supposed to live our Christian lives in reference to Christ "Therefore, as you received Christ Jesus so walk in him, rooted and built up in him and established in the faith..." (Colossians 2:6-7a, ESV). So what I'm going to say is in reference to someone trying to live a life in reference to him.
- The Bible expects a relationship between a man and a woman to model that between Christ and the church (Eph 5:22-33).
Is it an open relationship?
Therefore, we must say that open relationships are not God's plan for relationships. He is a God that makes everlasting covenants and that is why it is appropriate for us to make an everlasting covenant.
- From God's perspective no! He never leaves his people for a new and better model. No matter how bad his people are he loves them to the end.
- From our perspective? God expects that we will not run off with other gods. Just like WhatThe, God is a jealous type: "You shall not make for yourself a carved image...You shall not bow down to them and serve them, for I the LORD your God am a jealous God" (Exodus 20:4-5).
Adultery is clearly against God's plan for marriage and thus it must be for relationships too.
I know that's not the answer you want to hear but I'm convinced it's true, feel free to say anything you wish in response.
All the best as you grown in understanding of Jesus and his plan for you.
Tim
Hey Bombila,
I apologise for my misunderstanding. Nevertheless, I'm sure you agree that this doesn't fit God's character.
I am not surprised by anything you have said, I love the God who has revealed himself in Scripture not the made up God of many people. He is greater than you can imagine. If you will grant me the opportunity to defend him on a few matters I will be grateful.
God is totally justified to have left Israel's temple. They committed adultery by worshipping other gods. They themselves agreed to the terms of their marriage contract and so it is the own fault.
Yet it can hardly be called a divorce as they got back together in a very short time. God loves his people.
Moreover, Romans 9 makes clear there was an elect with Israel, i.e. there were people in the nation that weren't part of the wife. They were not loved because they are not the wife.
Let's put it this way. God wasn't in an open relationship. He agreed to have a one wife, the specific group within Israel. The wife rejected that and ran off with other men. How awful is that! Yet we find out in Hosea (where God uses this exact metaphor) that God has the adulteress back! This is not a God who is a monomaniac. It is a God who deeply loves his people.
Also on the topic of polygamy, the Bible never says it is right it just happens. Indeed in the new testament in reference to elders it is said that they should be husbands of one wife (Titus 1:6). It is clearly the ideal of Christianity.
Whether the partakers accept an open relationship or not it is not the ideal of Christianity. Sex is a beautiful thing between two persons who love each other very much. So there you go.
Anyway thank you for taking the time to respond, I hope I have made myself clear, even if I haven't convinced you.
No need to apologize - i just noticed that you seemed to have misunderstood the nature of the relationship being discussed.
But I was not directly referring to God's relationship with Israel, but to the archaeological and various documented and even Biblical evidence that Yahweh in the earliest days had a wife, who was called Asherah (among others), and may have been El's consort before then. There is a lot of interesting research about this ancient couple, some of it quite convincing - I find massive stones set up as clearly male-female couples persuasive in context. Too much to discuss here, and it's just something I've recently been looking at.
The kernel of the story is that eventually Yahweh demanded that all reference to Asherah must be removed, even to the wooden pole that represented her (as a tree) in the temple. So in a sense, God put aside his first wife and took up with Israel. I have added a few references, but really, most of what is online and accessible (not in journals that need to be subscribed to) is New Age/Pagan gloss that doesn't do much justice to the archaeological evidence and mixes in a dozen other goddesses on the basis of their being female.
http://instruct1.cit.cornell.edu/courses/nes275/studentproj/fall05/kmr38/page2.html
http://www.classicalhebrewblog.com/...herah-and-yahweh-in-early-israelite-religion/
http://www.jewishencyclopedia.com/view.jsp?letter=A&artid=1942
http://prophetess.lstc.edu/~rklein/Documents/Stones.htm
Is this the same as having "friends with benefits"?
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