have you done it? what were your experiences?
if you haven't, would you be open to it? why or why not?
if you haven't, would you be open to it? why or why not?
I wouldn't be able to do online dating. When and if I get a GF I wanna be able to hang out with her, take her out to eat, go to the movies, hold hands and all that.
I wouldn't be able to do online dating. When and if I get a GF I wanna be able to hang out with her, take her out to eat, go to the movies, hold hands and all that.
I would be open to it in the future (distant future), yes. I've gone back-and-forth with reasoning how much better it seems to be able to get to know someone's values and other important information before taking it to the next level, but I had long considered the stigma of online dating. Like, one would have to be desperate to do it. I have had my faulty vision corrected by people who've been placed in my life (not just about this; say, even about community/technical colleges for example), so I have had to take a step back and really consider why I thought the way that I did at the time... about many things I once looked down on.
I keep challenging God in this area. For a long time, I was just waiting for someone I was attracted to. Then, when I got that, I was waiting for someone who had a great personality. Okay, got that. Then, I realized after I had become closer to God with regard to my relationship with Him that I required someone who would spiritually and intellectually engage me, challenge and encourage me to grow. This has proven difficult... to have so many of these qualities I'm looking for. Add on top of that I'd also now be looking for someone who would be happy to date (and later marry) someone with a child. I keep challenging God to up the ante. And so, with this whole online dating shenanigans, I think it would really help someone like me to find those men who truly have those compatibilities going on. Who knows, it might fail. But, I would at least have to try it to know.
I can understand the back and forth on the whole online dating thing. I remember when i was younger I actually felt the same way, it wasn't until i actually surprised myself by falling for a friend of mine i knew online when i was about 18 that i started thinking, 'maybe there's something to this " nothing more than friendship came out of that instance but it did open me up to the idea for sure.
seems like God likes surprising us like that sometimes, sort of as if He's trying to remind us that ultimately He is in control
Wait, do you mean online dating just as in you met online or online dating as in you met specifically on an online dating site?
either one, i guess. If you meet online at a site like this or eharmony it all amounts to the same thing in the end. the only difference may be that in one case you may not necessarily be actively looking for a relationship online.
If I meet them online but they live in the same city as me then i don't mind. But like I posted in my first post, if its like just online and they don't live near me then no.