One Month Today

[JeanR]

It is so hard to believe that it is one month today that Terry went home to be with the Lord. Every day hurts so bad. We had gone away the weekend before to the shore with my cousin's family and we had such a wonderful, relaxing time. I am so grateful for that weekend. It's so hard to believe that the next evening he was dead. I am struggling with the fact that I never said goodbye. I wasn't home when he passed and our son found him on the family room floor.

A woman from our church gave me a book called, "The Tender Scar". If you have the opportunity to read this book, do so, it has been so helpful to me.

The verse that is getting me through this time is from 1Peter 1: In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.

 

[ComesoonmyLORD]

JeanR- Hang in there, one day at a time. There will be days when you feel like rejoicing and then there will be days that are dark and stormy. Just remember He is always in control of things and He is always with you. Praying for you dear friend! Press on!

 

[angels23]

It is so hard to believe that it is one month today that Terry went home to be with the Lord. Every day hurts so bad. We had gone away the weekend before to the shore with my cousin's family and we had such a wonderful, relaxing time. I am so grateful for that weekend. It's so hard to believe that the next evening he was dead. I am struggling with the fact that I never said goodbye. I wasn't home when he passed and our son found him on the family room floor.

A woman from our church gave me a book called, "The Tender Scar". If you have the opportunity to read this book, do so, it has been so helpful to me.

The verse that is getting me through this time is from 1Peter 1: In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.

Hey J, yeah thats hard, no doubt, But you can make it, You are a strong Lady or yu'd not be here, but you have made it everyday that has gone by. God understands your pain, I don't believe God is in the business of frustrating and hurting us by taking our Loved ones, Satan is the root of all evil, But God comes to sit with us and talk to us when we hurt.
GOD IS WITH YOU SIS

 

[faithgoeson]

We are praying for you. The reality of it all will probably really set in this month for you, and just know you've got a whole support team here for you any time. May the Lord bless you and wrap His loving arms around you through this valley.

 

[Ruth~]

It is so hard to believe that it is one month today that Terry went home to be with the Lord. Every day hurts so bad. We had gone away the weekend before to the shore with my cousin's family and we had such a wonderful, relaxing time. I am so grateful for that weekend. It's so hard to believe that the next evening he was dead. I am struggling with the fact that I never said goodbye. I wasn't home when he passed and our son found him on the family room floor.

A woman from our church gave me a book called, "The Tender Scar". If you have the opportunity to read this book, do so, it has been so helpful to me.

The verse that is getting me through this time is from 1Peter 1: In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.

I am sorry for your loss. If you ever need to talk to someone feel free to pm me. I have suffered some hard losses recently, too. Great verse there, glad it gets you through!

 

[raffster]

It is so hard to believe that it is one month today that Terry went home to be with the Lord. Every day hurts so bad. We had gone away the weekend before to the shore with my cousin's family and we had such a wonderful, relaxing time. I am so grateful for that weekend. It's so hard to believe that the next evening he was dead. I am struggling with the fact that I never said goodbye. I wasn't home when he passed and our son found him on the family room floor.

A woman from our church gave me a book called, "The Tender Scar". If you have the opportunity to read this book, do so, it has been so helpful to me.

The verse that is getting me through this time is from 1Peter 1: In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.

I'm terribly sorry for your loss. I don't know what it's like to have a partner in life die but I understand your pain only because I'm going through a separation right now. My wife told me today that there's no hope of getting back together, and that nothing I say or do will change her mind. After I heard that I wished I were dead.

We need to survive through this and by the grace of our merciful Lord we will be empowered to do so.

 

[JeanR]

Raffster, please don't despair. Five years ago my Terry wanted to leave. He said he had "put up" with me for over 20 years and he was tired of it. He was tired of our marriage. It was a very difficult time for us. Through God's help, I convinced him to go for counseling. We went for counseling for four years. It was difficult - no one likes to hear complaints about yourself. Those complaints went both ways. We never separated physically, but emotionally we were far apart. I had issues from childhood which came forth when my mother lived with us. My way of protecting myself was to withdraw. Terry had no idea the pain I was in--all he saw was that I withdrew and he took it personally. With counseling our marriage was restored and was stronger. I am grateful for the last year because it was like being newlyweds again.

The best thing you can do is concentrate on your relationship with the Lord and allow the Lord to lead you. It may not be to reconcile with your wife, but God will lead you. Just trust in Him!