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Sorry your experience here hasn't been helpful to you. Just as in real life, people can have their moments, sometimes not for the best. When that happens, we need to remember all of us could be more understanding. If they are to the point of crossing a line. Then it's on them, whether their talked to about it, or further warned officially. After that, try your best to move from it.

Hopefully your time here gets better for you, same in real life for you and your daughter. :)
 
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Thank you Jesus' Follower. I am planning to stick around....but I will post mainly in the Mental Health Forums. Thank you for the compliment regarding my daughter. May our Lord be with you
It is my pleasure.
I will look out for your input in that forum. :)
 
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I don't report everything that breaks the rules, either. Just the stuff that really upsets me or fragrantly breaks them. It is the internet, after all.
I understand. I actually don't like to report at all, except for the worst violations, which I tend to see maybe 2-3 a year.

The flip side of that is that is how things can be officially regulated, for the sake of ones such as the OP.

Would be nice if everyone would just regulate themselves, wouldn't it? I try to remind myself we are all works in progress, and that I don't know what struggles the person on the other side of the screen is living through.
 
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I am INFJ also.

Ygrene, from your own experience...do you find that introverts and INFJ's like us have a difficult time with interpersonal relationships?
 
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*Snarky or rude comments....comments that tell me that I am arrogant or prideful....comments that try to quarrel or pick a fight will be reported. Thank you*

I have been a member of christianforums.com for about a week now. Unfortunately, my experience on christianforums.com has not been positive. I am surprised at all the condemning/judgmental comments and snarky or rude comments from people who are supposedly Christians....

The anonymity of the Internet does not give a person the right to be rude or hateful to other people.

Right now, I am feeling as if I want to give up on God....give up on faith in Jesus Christ....

I am a 37 year old Asian-American man.

I was diagnosed with depression in 2002 during my final year at university.

I was diagnosed with major depression and Generalized Anxiety Disorder/panic attacks in 2013.

Most of my depression/anxiety/panic attacks and most of my anger problems stem from my unhealthy relationship with my narcissistic father.

My 70 year old narcissistic Korean father is verbally abusive. My father has always been verbally abusive. He was physically abusive as well. Thankfully, the physical abuse ended during my second year at university.

My wife and I have been separated for almost 5 years. For all practical purposes, our marriage ended in 2012. I am unable to contact my 8 year old daughter (My wife and my daughter live in South Korea).
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Sorry to hear that.

I always advised people with anxiety or depression to access so cognitive behavioural therapy.

I can give you the title of some good CBT manuals that you can work on at home (I prescribe these books for some of my patients).

All the best.
 
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Ygrene, from your own experience...do you find that introverts and INFJ's like us have a difficult time with interpersonal relationships?

Absolutely - unless it is someone in our "inner circle of trust" - which for me tends to be countable on one hand.

But I think with the people we choose to have relationships with, we take it very seriously.
 
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I can give you the title of some good CBT manuals that you can work on at home (I prescribe these books for some of my patients).

I would appreciate that. Please give me the titles of some good CBT manuals that I can work on at home. Thank you!!
 
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If E = mc2 then we can divide and conclude that...

Mass (m) = Energy (E/c2)

And there are three varieties...

Natural E/c2 - All mass is basically cooled plasma
Mental E/c2 - Mentally, A mathematical formula, but this has chemical and spiritual properties as well.
Spiritual E/c2 - E (motivation, warmth, love) / c2 (faith, hope, charity, joy)

The true spiritual light is accompanied with a warmth, love, and good feeling. I believe there is also healing accompanied with such virtue. Along with my bible study I have studied men like Lao-Tzu and Confucius, who I believe were good teachers of such studies. The ways of light and darkness are displayed on the flag you have as your avatar. Lao-Tzu said...

"When a wise scholar hears the Tao, he practices it diligently. When a mediocre scholar hears the Tao, he wavers between belief and unbelief. When a worthless scholar hears the Tao, he laughs at loud at it. But if it such a one didn't laugh, the Tao would not be Tao. The way to greater light leads through darkness. The even path seems rugged." - Lao-Tzu

"Miss Manners meager arsenal consists only of the wither look, the insistent and repeated request, the cold voice, the report up the chain of command (in this case the reported post), and the tilted nose. Also the ability to dismiss inferior behavior from her mind as coming from inferior people." -Judith Martin

It is important to accept in our minds that inferior behavior comes from inferior people. And as long as we are in this world we will have our share of it.
 
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It is important to accept in our minds that inferior behavior comes from inferior people. And as long as we are in this world we will have our share of it.

I agree. Thank you.
 
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Sorry to hear you have received such a harsh welcome on CF. I've had a lot of problems as well and I think it shows us what is wrong within the religion that is Christianity - religion turns people into wolves hunting down the sheep instead of noble sheep seeking out the lost, a sad state of affairs. However not everyone is like that. Some of our brothers and sisters follow more than words on paper they follow a Holy Spirit in their hearts and that makes all the difference. As Paul teaches us so earnestly love is not proud rude, nor tends to remember wrongs, or delights in that, and isn't self seeking but religious people posing as brothers and sisters all across the world always are all of these things rolled into one.

I'm sorry to hear you have been bitten by some of them best stay on the depression forums no debating allowed here, though we do still get rude people at times, we also have some very loving and caring people visiting these forums regularly and I know they would love to welcome you in their midst.

I really hope you find some good friends and support here.
 
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best stay on the depression forums

I really hope you find some good friends and support here.

Jeshu, thank you for your excellent advice. I will stay on the depression forums
 
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God Bless you my dear brother. Praying for you and your daughter.

You are among friends who care here. Your friend, TF

TF, thank you so much for your prayers. May our Lord be with you always!!
 
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