once a cheat always a cheat???

[~Lynz~]

so what do i think...

a guy goes out with a girl... cheats on her...
do u think he is likly to cheat again?

or how bout another situation

a guy goes out with a girl, cheats on her.. then starts going out with the new girl (after he has broken up with the first) how likely do u think it would be that he would cheat on the new girl?

 

[MyEverything]

I firmly believe "once a cheat, always a cheat".

 

[Luther073082]

It depends on a lot of things. Why did he cheat? Does he view it as wrong, is he sorry that he cheated?

Overall someone who's already cheated once is probably more likely to do it again over someone who's never done it before. But there is nothing for certain.

I'm a firm beliver that the idea of Once a cheater, always a cheater is completly incompatable with the Christian faith.

Someone may be more likely to be a cheater again if they have before. But to presume that they absolutly must is to presume that people can not change. Which is not compatable with the Christian faith.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

I believe people can change, but that doesn't mean I would take a chance with someone who cheated.

 

[~Lynz~]

why he cheated... doesnt really like the girl that much. its more a relationship of convenience.
he is a christian but compleatly lost at the moment through greif of a sudden death of his father.

 

[Schneiderman]

For me personally, I have to regard a one time cheater as a cheater always. That is to say, I can recognize that someone who has cheated may have changed their ways, it's certainly possible for someone to cheat once and never do it again, but it's not going to be me that takes that chance. If I'm aware of someone having cheated in the past then that is definitely a dealbreaker for me.

 

[xDenax]

It's not true for everyone but I believe it's often true.

 

[broken_one]

It's not true for everyone but I believe it's often true.

This.

 

[~Lynz~]

i am aware of that ghost hunter. women can be just as bad some time worse.

 

[Inkachu]

As the saying goes, "The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior". We don't like to hear that, but it's still the truth. I'd steer clear of any admitted cheaters, UNLESS the cheating was in the distant (yes, DISTANT) past and I could tell, after spending time with them, that they were a different person.

 

[Oddish]

Sin is a trap. Once you fall into it, it is difficult to get out.

 

[~Lynz~]

ghost hunter i understand that but to do mind staying on topic for my post. thank you.

 

[~Lynz~]

i dono how thats wise words... but fair enough.

 

[Scorponok]

It would depend on how the person is now. Are they aware and understand the consequences of what they did? Do they truly view it as something that was wrong to do and have regret for it?

If they are someone that attempts to give out reasons for why they did it, I would run. There are no reasons at all that justify cheating. Period.

 

[Blank123]

I think its true in many cases, but not all. God can change someone, and even outside of God a person can change and decide its not worth it to cheat anymore and to hurt others that way.

 

[NoodlesNoodlesNoodles]

But every human alive is a cheat. We cheat on Christ, our heavenly groom, daily. He forgives and retains fellowship with us. Even when we commit sins we're unaware of, he remains faithful and loving to us. Spouses who do less in the face of infidelity are backwards and a poor representation of Christ.

So, "once a cheat always a cheat"? How about, once conceived always desperately wicked until instated in heaven.

 

[Sketcher]

Once a cheater, always a cheater. God can change people, but do you really want to be the guinea pig?

 

[Sketcher]

Tell that to Hosea.

No reason to believe he didn't get sick after taking his wife back. Scripture is silent on that matter, and there's no "happily ever after" in that story. God selected Hosea for some very bad duty, and he's getting paid back in Heaven very richly for going through what no one should have to go through.

 

[NoodlesNoodlesNoodles]

No reason to believe he didn't get sick after taking his wife back. Scripture is silent on that matter, and there's no "happily ever after" in that story. God selected Hosea for some very bad duty, and he's getting paid back in Heaven very richly for going through what no one should have to go through.

I absolutely agree that he may very well have gotten some kind of STD. But my point is: why does that matter? How does that change anything? And unless I'm missing something in the narrative, the story did end well when Hosea went and re-purchased his wife (for some barley, I think?). God's account of how he will restore his people in the future might indicate that Hosea's marriage had a happy ending as well. But nonetheless, I suppose that's irrelevant too.

Marriage's intent isn't "happily ever after" but rather "holier thereafter". Fortunately, marriage seems to have statistically more benefits than negatives, but still... if you find yourself in a marriage with a person who's a massive burden: "Oh well." We're called to holiness, not comfort. And yet, living holier seems to create it's own comfort that is inestimably more soothing than mere "ease" is.

And as to the topic of discounting someone who's cheated in the past, I'm glad Christ didn't discount me before and after salvation. I'm sure everyone else here who has a relationship with Him is as well. 25 years of rampaging around intentionally blaspheming his name and looking for new and more ingenious ways of defying him? Once being seriously mad that I had used all the words and thoughts and acts that I could think of to blaspheme Him and couldn't find anything new? And he still chose me? Seriously?! And after that "wedding moment" of salvation, I still have failed and had times of choosing sin over Him and there's been no anullment? Really?! And everyone else who has a relationship with him is in the same boat? Almost too good to be true.

And humans will quibble over the possibility that another human might cheat on us? Romans 2:3 comes to mind.

 

[mina]

While "Once a cheater always a cheater" may seem like an unfair statement; I do believe that if someone (either gender) HAS cheated, they are more likely to cheat again. Unless they have truly made a conscious change. I would never get involved with a known cheater though.