Dorothea
One of God's handmaidens
- Jul 10, 2007
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I see what you're saying. I guess I'd never really thought that much about the subject of what words to use and such.Hahahaha, it COULD mean that but it's not the primary meaning since it's an umbrella term here. It's the romantic partner of whoever you're talking to - whether boyfriend, girlfriend, fiance, husband, wife....or yes, same-sex partner. It's a useful word especially for me since at my age I have friends whose 'significant others' fall into every one of those categories.
Rus has issues with its necessity but really in the world we live in, there isn't the nice old-fashioned process of boy meets girl/has known her all his life/they get engaged/they get married all in the space of 6 months. I know plenty of people who have been in long term relationships for whatever reason against their own wishes, myself included. Money is a big one - you need a lot more money to get started in this world than we did 100 years ago, and you want at least one degree or a trade certificate between you if you want a good job that gives enough money to live within reasonable means. I don't like that aspect of modern culture but is true. If you meet when you're both in your late 20s or older that's fine but not if you're in your early 20s...Andrew is 28 and I'm 22, and after a year and a half of 'dating' (I think maybe we've been out on 'dates' once a month average for that time, we act more or less in the same way as an engaged couple in Greek culture) we're finally in a position where finances and practical issues (like me not being so sick I can't get out of bed 3/7 days in a week) make it possible to get engaged and married. So I disagree that umbrella terms are necessarily 'evil' - they're very useful in certain circumstances. I'd use the actual appropriate term if I was addressing one of my friends on their own though.
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