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Yes, I know that I am asking an unanswerable question and will likely paint with an unfairly broad brush that will offend some here; but I will do my best to simply vent my frustrations and not impugn the character or sensibilities of the ladies here.
I know a woman with whom I went to high school with. She has/had a successful career in the medical field. Her husband of 22 years was also successful in the same field. They had a beautiful home, two older children that were normal, nice stuff, etc, etc. Living the American Dream.
Then her husband starts getting a mid-life crisis. Starts drinking heavily and ends up cheating on her with a co-worker and decides to leave her. She immediately files for divorce, throws him out of the house and gets a good lawyer. Then she calls me and asks for advice since I had also gone through a divorce in which my spouse cheated on me.
We texted and talked nearly constantly for weeks. We met for coffee and I told her that one of her first instincts would be to go out and party and try to find comfort in either a bottle or a bed and that both things would be harmful to her mentally, physically, and spiritually. I encouraged her to start going to church again and invited her to mine. She declined.
I started noticing on her FB account that she was going out with the girls from work and partying. Then she started getting a lot of new FB friends that were male. Our texts and calls dwindled and stopped. I saw the path she was taking and removed myself from the impending train wreck. This was over a year ago.
I was speaking to a mutual friend the other day and she told me that our friend had indeed hooked up with a guy that was not particularly good-looking or in good shape, but was "rough". Lots of tattoos, worked as a logger, drove a big lifted pickup, heavy drinker, lived in a trailer, had a couple of kids with different women, etc.
I also found out that my friend had isolated herself from her family after they wouldn't give her money(they wanted to go over her bills with her and help get everything caught up and she refused), got fired from her job, traded in her Honda Accord for a Hummer, and had gotten a couple of new tattoos...
I've seen this same pattern happen multiple times to female friends of mine; they are inexplicably attracted to men that are bad for them. It's maddening to see them go for guys that end up just using them for physical pleasure and sometimes a punching bag and leaving them with a couple of kids, an STD, and basically used up.
Okay, rant off...
Any ladies want to explain why so many of you choose this??
I know a woman with whom I went to high school with. She has/had a successful career in the medical field. Her husband of 22 years was also successful in the same field. They had a beautiful home, two older children that were normal, nice stuff, etc, etc. Living the American Dream.
Then her husband starts getting a mid-life crisis. Starts drinking heavily and ends up cheating on her with a co-worker and decides to leave her. She immediately files for divorce, throws him out of the house and gets a good lawyer. Then she calls me and asks for advice since I had also gone through a divorce in which my spouse cheated on me.
We texted and talked nearly constantly for weeks. We met for coffee and I told her that one of her first instincts would be to go out and party and try to find comfort in either a bottle or a bed and that both things would be harmful to her mentally, physically, and spiritually. I encouraged her to start going to church again and invited her to mine. She declined.
I started noticing on her FB account that she was going out with the girls from work and partying. Then she started getting a lot of new FB friends that were male. Our texts and calls dwindled and stopped. I saw the path she was taking and removed myself from the impending train wreck. This was over a year ago.
I was speaking to a mutual friend the other day and she told me that our friend had indeed hooked up with a guy that was not particularly good-looking or in good shape, but was "rough". Lots of tattoos, worked as a logger, drove a big lifted pickup, heavy drinker, lived in a trailer, had a couple of kids with different women, etc.
I also found out that my friend had isolated herself from her family after they wouldn't give her money(they wanted to go over her bills with her and help get everything caught up and she refused), got fired from her job, traded in her Honda Accord for a Hummer, and had gotten a couple of new tattoos...
I've seen this same pattern happen multiple times to female friends of mine; they are inexplicably attracted to men that are bad for them. It's maddening to see them go for guys that end up just using them for physical pleasure and sometimes a punching bag and leaving them with a couple of kids, an STD, and basically used up.
Okay, rant off...
Any ladies want to explain why so many of you choose this??