ok.... does she like me?

[SonicBOOM]

ok I met this girl 3 weeks ago at my young adults group I go to. She hasn't been going for long.... and she is super super cute!!!

Well being the somewhat assertive guy that I am, I kind of approached her on that night and introduced myself. Her and I actually talked for a good 20 minutes at least.... she told me where she grew up and her schooling situation and all that stuff. she seemed to share alot with me.

When I went home that night I looked for her on facebook [because, I was kind of crushing at this point lol!], and I added her. She accepted my friend request pretty shortly. She tends to "like" and comment on alot of my status updates on facebook....

I went to my young adults group again this Thursday and she actually approached me this time and said that she wanted to make sure I was ok. I asked her why.... and she said she saw how depressed I've been because of my facebook updates [which I do do that alot on facebook when I'm depressed]. I said I was doing pretty ok now but I admitted I wasn't doing so hot than. She than says to me that she can relate to me because she struggles alot with depression herself and she thanked me for opening up on facebook like that because she felt she was the only one in the world who dealt with that. She told me that she knows how it feels and she said that she really really hopes I feel better soon.


when I went home, I kind of felt bad because I didn't think I showed my gratitude enough for her kindness. So I sent her a PM on facebook thanking her.... she replied pretty quickly and told me that she is very glad that she helped and she thanked me again for opening up on facebook. She said that she's praying for me and hopes I get the strength I need when I fall down and get depressed.



and this leads to the present.

ok considering the facts.... do you think she likes me? I hope she does because she is REALLY cute lol!!!

Ummmm also if she does I wanna ask her out on a date but I don't wanna muck it up like I'm so famous for doing so how do you think I should go about asking her? Well if you do think she does like me.


Thanks guys!!

 

[Jacqulene]

Since she's new, she may be wanting to meet new people or she may just have taken an interest in you. I know I don't 'check up' on guys I don't fancy. My advice would be to play it cool. Take it slow and keep getting to know her before you ask her on a date. I would give it maybe 2-3 more weeks to feel her out and see if she'd respond well to a 1 on 1 date request. You could even go out with her and a couple of other folks just to observe her. This I would do sooner rather than later as it's more 'safe'. You don't want to risk coming on too strong or blowing her off if she likes you. Find a balance if you can. HTH

 

[SonicBOOM]

thanks thats advice I'm gonna take

I appreciate any feedback anyone would have because I have no wisdom when it comes to girls at all I'm a blind man who is trying to walk a tightrope....

 

[Oddish]

It is too early to tell I think.

 

[gzt]

Don't overanalyze, just ask her out, it'll be natural, she's probably interested.

 

[Intrepid99]

"Just because someone likes your facebook status doesn't mean they like you."

Thats cool dude. I would keep it friendly and get to know her before you ask her out. This doesn't mean you can't do this together as friends.

 

[TheOliveSeed]

Either she's just being friendly (and some people are just really nice like that) or she is interested. I think you should just try and get to know her more as a new friend (and not make assumptions just yet ), and keep an eye on how she is around you. If she starts dropping more substantial hints, then you can perhaps conclude that she's interested. But right now, I think it's too early to tell.

But you can also take that chance and ask her out. Really, you've nothing to lose, and that way you'll know for sure where she stands.

 

[Macx]

Sounds like how I met my ex-wife.

 

[Inkachu]

Sounds like she's just being friendly.

Please don't do the "guy" thing and assume that, because she talks to you, she's in love with you.

I think you should ask her out, FTR I hope she says yes, too.

 

[Tink]

Since she's new, she may be wanting to meet new people or she may just have taken an interest in you. I know I don't 'check up' on guys I don't fancy. My advice would be to play it cool. Take it slow and keep getting to know her before you ask her on a date. I would give it maybe 2-3 more weeks to feel her out and see if she'd respond well to a 1 on 1 date request. You could even go out with her and a couple of other folks just to observe her. This I would do sooner rather than later as it's more 'safe'. You don't want to risk coming on too strong or blowing her off if she likes you. Find a balance if you can. HTH

I agree with this advice.

Then in 2/3 weeks, ask her out.

 

[radhead]

It sounds like she is being honest. At your age there are probably lots of people (if they are shy) who might not have met many people who they can identify with. It sounds like that's the main thing that's happened so far, and you should treat it as such for the time being.

 

[stephanieamber]

Why the big rush to date her? Spend time getting to know her beyond her being a cute girl and see if it's worth putting potential tension in your group.

It sucks because we really desire to move things forward but I personally think there is more harm in going too fast than taking things slow.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

I'm sure she has an interest in you. Seems pretty clear-cut to me from what you described. I'm not sure a girl would check up on a guy she had absolutely no interest in. When you ask her out, don't do the whole 'group date' or 'hangout with friends' deal, just ask her on a good, old-fashioned date.

From the male side of things, there is definitely (IMO) more harm in going too slow than going a little too quickly, though neither one is desirable. But if you do like her, don't wait so long that you get "friend zoned". You've known her for three weeks, which in my opinion is ample time to have built some rapport with her to make it more than just asking a stranger out on a date. Rejection doesn't necessarily mean future awkwardness, either - half of the equation (arguably, more than half), is how awkward you make it if she says "no".

 

[SonicBOOM]

thanks guys all of your words I'm finding very helpful

I'm sure she has an interest in you. Seems pretty clear-cut to me from what you described. I'm not sure a girl would check up on a guy she had absolutely no interest in. When you ask her out, don't do the whole 'group date' or 'hangout with friends' deal, just ask her on a good, old-fashioned date.

From the male side of things, there is definitely (IMO) more harm in going too slow than going a little too quickly, though neither one is desirable. But if you do like her, don't wait so long that you get "friend zoned". You've known her for three weeks, which in my opinion is ample time to have built some rapport with her to make it more than just asking a stranger out on a date. Rejection doesn't necessarily mean future awkwardness, either - half of the equation (arguably, more than half), is how awkward you make it if she says "no".

well I agree with you on the most part. The problem is I always do what you describe and always end up blowing it..... I'm obviously doing something wrong I'm just not sure what it is

however I when I do go slow I get freind-zoned like you said.... man I just wish I knew what I was doing wrong..... how come girls are so hard to figure out?

 

[SmileAndAHandshake]

All I can tell you is that if I were in her place, if it were me who had done all that you described from this girl? I would be showing an interest in you, and I'd probably be hoping you'd follow up on it. But that's just how I roll.. Whether or not that transcribes to anyone else is completely up in the air. That whole "Everyone is different" thing is a pain in the rear

 

[SonicBOOM]

That whole "Everyone is different" thing is a pain in the rear

yep

 

[JCFantasy23]

Since she's new, she may be wanting to meet new people or she may just have taken an interest in you. I know I don't 'check up' on guys I don't fancy. My advice would be to play it cool. Take it slow and keep getting to know her before you ask her on a date. I would give it maybe 2-3 more weeks to feel her out and see if she'd respond well to a 1 on 1 date request. You could even go out with her and a couple of other folks just to observe her. This I would do sooner rather than later as it's more 'safe'. You don't want to risk coming on too strong or blowing her off if she likes you. Find a balance if you can. HTH

blind post but I agree with the above. Sounds like she's interested but she's also new and play it cool, would be the best advice.

 

[Oddish]

I am not so sure. I have been friendly to guys before and that may have been misconstrued as flirting. Infact there was one guy I knew was having a very rough time, so I gave him advice and continually checked up on him to see if he was okay, and he ended up wanting more than friendship with me when I was not interested that way. I only saw him as a friend.

Take some time getting to know this girl before you ask her out.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

thanks guys all of your words I'm finding very helpful



well I agree with you on the most part. The problem is I always do what you describe and always end up blowing it..... I'm obviously doing something wrong I'm just not sure what it is

however I when I do go slow I get freind-zoned like you said.... man I just wish I knew what I was doing wrong..... how come girls are so hard to figure out?

Maybe you really don't. Maybe it's the old game us men know very well, the play by numbers. We deal with rejection because either "She's just not that into you" or "She really is that into you". And you just happened to hit the rejection. Almost every guy will tell you that you have to get 10 no's for every 1 yes.

 

[yam]

Naw, she is just being friendly. she is not intrested in you.