Oh Yuck!

[fluffy_rainbow]

Seriously, why are some men just so...yucky? There is a guy who works in the office next door to mine and he and I chat sometimes during smoke breaks. They refurbish laser medical devices. Anyway, today he said "hey, gorgeous." Yeah, the compliment made me feel good, but I took it with a grain of salt. I later got to talking with his business partner about the work they do and I candidly asked him if Dave was married. He grinned and said "yep." I said, "gee, they always trick me when they don't wear the wedding ring". He laughed and said, "well, working with lasers he has to take his ring off. But then again, I don't think he's happily married." and then winked.

Good grief! The man flirts with me relentlessly and he's married and here is his business partner practically advocating him having an affair because he's not "happily" married. Ick. Now I feel gross.

 

[OhhJim]

Yeah, I feel the same way whenever I hear about a woman having an affair with a married man. Yuck.

And there sure seem to be a lot of them doing it.

 

[Lia]

I think it's so sad that a lot of couple are not happy with their marriage and have affairs (emotionally and physically) somewhere else. This kind of thing about marriage scares me sometimes.... Sigh.

 

[jepvc4]

You know, when you buy a new car, or a new computer, or a new outfit, or move to a new neighborhood, or get/do anything new, there's quite an excitement and rush to the newness of it all. Over time though, that excitement over the newness fades, and you have to either be content and happy in what you have, or let greed take hold and start coveting something else that's new that you don't have, yet.

Same thing happens with married people, men and women both mind you (So don't blame just the men!). It's what those coupled folks call the seven year itch, or something like that. Doesn't make it right though to just leave the familiar for the excitement of the new (which is what makes an affair so tempting). It's lust of the moment, not an enduring love of ages.

Don't quite know where I'm going with this, but don't call yourself gross. You're not the one who's tempting him (unless you're flirting back, but you don't sound as though you're remotely close to doing so!). You must be beautiful, but I understand how you don't want to be recognized for your beauty in this way.

 

[JPPT1974]

Yeah and that is one of the billions and billions of reasons that I am still single. Is that I don't want to flirt with a man that is married, engaged, and/or has a girlfriend. Because that is like cheating on someone else's man. And think that the man should go back to his girlfriend or wife. Because flirting is one thing. But flirting and cheating on another person who is taken or married is something nobody should ever have to experience.

 

[Sinless_angels]

I feel that all those out there not happily married need to read the 5 love language book and then they will be happily married

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Geesh, that's almost as bad as some of the women I work with!

 

[KeilCoppes]

I feel that all those out there not happily married need to read the 5 love language book and then they will be happily married

It would be nice if that were a formula. Since I have my own copy of the book (used in my last relationship) it would be nice if I could roll it up and use it as a magic wand. Though helpful, I'm 'fraid there's just a bit more involved. :^)

In getting married: Step 1: Meet girl. / Step 2: Become friends / Step 3... ... ... ... Step 469...

 

[fluffy_rainbow]

it would be nice if I could roll it up and use it as a magic wand

Or whack people over the head to beat the silliness out of them. LOL Seriously, it just makes me feel gross to think that my office neighbor may be cracking totally crass and inappropriate jokes with his co-workers and making off-color sexual remarks when he is married. It makes me feel sorry for his wife.

 

[Tuffguy]

Yeah,,they are gross. He so should have followed the *wink* wink* with an butt slap. That would have sealed the deal.

I don't feel sorry for his wife. She knew what she was getting. Guys don't change.

Besides,, if girls didn't sleep w/married guys, married guys wouldn't be out trying to get laid.

 

[Nico]

just as a side note, b/c i want to vent--and not in a man-bashing way either, but what gets me is that when you ignore someone who is saying inappropriate things directly to you, you suddenly become a "harlot" and other lovely demeaning nouns. which is rather ironic b/c you're ignoring the unsavory comments precisely b/c you are not a harlot.....

 

[chickenfeet]

just as a side note, b/c i want to vent--and not in a man-bashing way either, but what gets me is that when you ignore someone who is saying inappropriate things directly to you, you suddenly become a "harlot" and other lovely demeaning nouns. which is rather ironic b/c you're ignoring the unsavory comments precisely b/c you are not a harlot.....

heh.. i get that alot. at first its shocking.. but after a bazillion times of hearing the same word, repeatedly.. it gets to a point where its kinda funny. i usually laugh, and that gets them to say even harsher untrue words.. which again.. only makes me laugh. if someones trying to get ur attention, or hurt you.. they might wanna try callin ya something, that actually rings true. it only stings if its true.. otherwise, its lame.