- Jan 25, 2014
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I'm sorry to hear this is still going on Jennie, I'm sure that must be very aggravating. It seems to me she needs to be confronted in a peaceful, yet direct way. At the same time though, I would be concerned about escalation, and would recommend to be careful how you respond.So I found out today via the neighbor behind us that the neighbor beside us has been gossiping about us for the last week to about 5 other neighbors. "What about?" You may ask. Well, I'll tell you. But a little back history first:
Last year a woman and her hubby moved into the house next door to us, they're in their 80s, both very vibrant people, Christian, hubby was a pastor for a long time and they're those types that are there at church when the doors open every Wed & Sun and always going to some kind of function. They always have big crowds over for family dinners and holidays.
My mom one day asked them a question about their plumbing and asked for a recommendation, from that moment on the woman would text us, as us if we needed anything, she would constantly volunteer to bring us some dinner, she helped us with some spring cleaning on our porch, she multiple times even mowed our yard and when thanksgiving rolled around she was very very sweet and brought us over two platefuls of food for the each of us and also two platefuls of desserts.
Late last year though she of her own free will apparently hired a man to work on our roof. We hadn't asked her to do this, this is just something she did. On the day apparently that it was going to happen she had tried to contact us a few times but my phone is always on the fritz and I never received her calls. She didn't call my mom, nor did she come over or get in contact with me over facebook. But her granddaughter finally got in touch with me and told me what was going on, I apologized profusely about not receiving her calls and said we would love to get a new roof and maybe we could reschedule. We didn't hear back from our neighbor for quite awhile. One day my mom asked if everything was okay, and she said things were fine. So few days later, my mom had been really sick and there were a few personal items I needed and asked her if she could stop by the store and get said items. She said "I can't do anything for you and your Mother until I have a talk with the two of you". We never have had that talk, but we also haven't been available to do so, so it's just kind of been a wedge between us.
So skip ahead to now, our yard yes is in need of mowing but it's actually not THAT bad (It's been worse, especially in 2015 right after Dad passed) but apparently this neighbor has went to 5 other neighbors and talked about how bad our yard is, our roof, and that we're bad neighbors and if we don't keep up with our property we might as well move out.
I find this very odd behavior for a neighbor, a Christian one at that who takes pride in helping others. It makes me think shes doing it all for the glory of herself and not for God.
She has also told other neighbors to get items out of their yard, she even told our neighbor behind us to "put a gate in your fence so I can open it and come by sometime".........She also told this neighbor her grandchildren -will- play in her yard because hers is bigger. (????)
Anyway. That is my rant. That this neighbor is gossiping about us.
Like if my yard is your only problem, you have a good life lady.
Would it be possible to set up a meeting with her (and a group of other neighbors) to talk about what's going on? Are you a member of a neighborhood association or a neighborhood social networking site like Nextdoor.com?
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