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So I found out today via the neighbor behind us that the neighbor beside us has been gossiping about us for the last week to about 5 other neighbors. "What about?" You may ask. Well, I'll tell you. But a little back history first:
Last year a woman and her hubby moved into the house next door to us, they're in their 80s, both very vibrant people, Christian, hubby was a pastor for a long time and they're those types that are there at church when the doors open every Wed & Sun and always going to some kind of function. They always have big crowds over for family dinners and holidays.
My mom one day asked them a question about their plumbing and asked for a recommendation, from that moment on the woman would text us, as us if we needed anything, she would constantly volunteer to bring us some dinner, she helped us with some spring cleaning on our porch, she multiple times even mowed our yard and when thanksgiving rolled around she was very very sweet and brought us over two platefuls of food for the each of us and also two platefuls of desserts.
Late last year though she of her own free will apparently hired a man to work on our roof. We hadn't asked her to do this, this is just something she did. On the day apparently that it was going to happen she had tried to contact us a few times but my phone is always on the fritz and I never received her calls. She didn't call my mom, nor did she come over or get in contact with me over facebook. But her granddaughter finally got in touch with me and told me what was going on, I apologized profusely about not receiving her calls and said we would love to get a new roof and maybe we could reschedule. We didn't hear back from our neighbor for quite awhile. One day my mom asked if everything was okay, and she said things were fine. So few days later, my mom had been really sick and there were a few personal items I needed and asked her if she could stop by the store and get said items. She said "I can't do anything for you and your Mother until I have a talk with the two of you". We never have had that talk, but we also haven't been available to do so, so it's just kind of been a wedge between us.
So skip ahead to now, our yard yes is in need of mowing but it's actually not THAT bad (It's been worse, especially in 2015 right after Dad passed) but apparently this neighbor has went to 5 other neighbors and talked about how bad our yard is, our roof, and that we're bad neighbors and if we don't keep up with our property we might as well move out.
I find this very odd behavior for a neighbor, a Christian one at that who takes pride in helping others. It makes me think shes doing it all for the glory of herself and not for God.
She has also told other neighbors to get items out of their yard, she even told our neighbor behind us to "put a gate in your fence so I can open it and come by sometime".........She also told this neighbor her grandchildren -will- play in her yard because hers is bigger. (????)
Anyway. That is my rant. That this neighbor is gossiping about us.

Like if my yard is your only problem, you have a good life lady.
I'm sorry to hear this is still going on Jennie, I'm sure that must be very aggravating. It seems to me she needs to be confronted in a peaceful, yet direct way. At the same time though, I would be concerned about escalation, and would recommend to be careful how you respond.

Would it be possible to set up a meeting with her (and a group of other neighbors) to talk about what's going on? Are you a member of a neighborhood association or a neighborhood social networking site like Nextdoor.com?
 
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Would it be possible to set up a meeting with her (and a group of other neighbors) to talk about what's going on? Are you a member of a neighborhood association or a neighborhood social networking site like Nextdoor.com?

Well the funny thing is, I don't think any of the neighbors around here actually care. :sorry: I mean on the left side of us is a vacant house...across the street is a woman and man who have someone taking care of their yard but they mainly keep to themselves, besides us is nosey lady and behind us is the lady who called me to let me know what was going on and who knows our situation. The other neighbors either don't even know who we are, or can't see our yard. lol

And no we aren't a member of any of those things. All of our neighbors are adults who keep to themselves and mind their own business, who wave as they pass by but that's the extent of it. She's literally the only one who "cares".
 
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I'm sorry to hear about your situation, @SweetCarolina. :( It's pretty rude of your neighbor to do all that. I'm sorry I don't have any good advice but I'll be praying for you. :hug:
 
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I'm sorry to hear about your situation, @SweetCarolina. :( It's pretty rude of your neighbor to do all that. I'm sorry I don't have any good advice but I'll be praying for you. :hug:

:hug: Thank you, I appreciate that. :) Prayers work wonders so I'll take all I can get!
 
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Hah hah. "Rigatoni"? Where did that come from?


... Oh, right ... Italian ....

^_^

Lol Yes, well his name is Anthony/Tony so I had to come up for a nickname for him, and he loves pasta which made me think of Rigatoni. :satisfied: And poof! An epic nickname was born.

I'm Penne, btw. (Jennie...Penne...)
 
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Why must end tables and my pinky toe be such mortal enemies.

:destroy:
People laugh, but stubbed toes can be brutal.

I once got-rays because of an unusually painful toe stubbing incident. I was in my bedroom and barefoot at the time. I had forgotten where I left the desk chair and *whack* ... just like that... instant pain. It seemed to get worse over time. When I explained to the people at the clinic how it happened, they told me that I should say it was sports injury. lol

:ouch:

No broken bones, but there was plenty of bruising and swelling.
 
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I don't like where I live but there is pretty much no hope of moving anytime soon. If only I could have been more "normal" I could have moved out of here on my own by now. :(
 
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I don't like where I live but there is pretty much no hope of moving anytime soon. If only I could have been more "normal" I could have moved out of here on my own by now. :(
Normal is overrated. We like you as you are!
 
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For the love of the old man, enough with the race and gender crap!
Enough Enough ENOUGH!


Honestly wondering if it's time for society to embrace being racist/sexist somewhat. At least as far as petty microaggressions go. I mean even in the world of SJWism it's ok to be racist and sexist towards white men. It's really just an act of equality at this point.
 
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The media tries to find any slight to label mostly white men as either racist or sexist or both, perhaps its time for people to go.. alright I'm a little "sexist" "racist" oh well.. can't be as moral and high and mighty as SJWs who often say things like "kill all straight white men".
 
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That'll only pour gasoline on the fire. Both sides, the SJW's and the Anti-SJW's feed off of each other and it seems like it will only get worse from here.

Jesus wasn't kidding when he predicted that many will be offended and hate one another. All I see nowadays is pure hatred towards each other for perceived offenses. People would rather focus on sexual pleasure and identity politics over truly pressing issues.

I agree they feed off each other in a sick social sadomasochistic dynamic, but I also blame much of this hysteria on people being deathly afraid of being labeled a sexist or racist even many anti-SJWs. Not that racism and sexism cannot be horrible, but it's not always the end of the world if someone expresses a little sexist or racist sentiment.

If people started owning the title "racist" and "sexist" I think it would take a lot of power away from SJWs. Especially if celebrities started doing this. They should just *shrug* and go.. "oh well.." :|

I do find the hysteria over racism and sexism a little funny. In society it's still alright to mock loads of people for the way they were born. Like if they are not as intelligent as the average person or if they're short or if they're European or if they're a man in most cases even most autistics are not given much sympathy from SJWs. I don't see why we need to give SJW approved outrages such deference.

Most SJWs probably do not really care about women and minorities they just want to be self righteous and get their masochistic fill.
 
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As a short white male I most certainly do not get much sympathy from SJWs.. yet I'm supposed to walk on egg shells regarding their issues?

What about toxic masculinity? I'm actually open to the idea that much of masculinity isn't very nice and could be considered toxic.. but we live in reality where the strong and violent often are rewarded, it's not a surprise that the male sex would evolve a psychology for these traits. What are you going to do about it? The universe is never going to turn into a safe space. Even among female leaders I don't see why the ones who don't express traditionally toxic masculine traits don't rise to the top. There is a reason why women like Margret Thatcher are not feminist icons.

Toxic masculinity is never going away, and as long as it's rewarded it's going to be highly valued even if people pretend they don't value it.
 
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