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CarrierOfChrist

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eh7 said:
For male: Would you mind if your gf or wife is more intelligent than you? (and vice versa) Why?

For female: Would you mind if your bf or husband is not as intelligent as you? (and vice versa) Why?

Well, my boyfriend is way smarter than I am. It doesn't bother me, but I worry sometimes that I may be too much of an airhead for him.
 
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You really need to define what you mean by intelligence... eg I could look at the multiple types of intelligences as defined by Howard Gardiner.

Accademically in high school, my boyfriend did better than me. But according to our grades at uni I do better than him. But thats not comparable at all, because he studies much harder stuff than me ie engineering vs teaching. sciences are hard.much harder than the stuff i do. but then it also tests a different type of intelligence, because alot of his stuff is mathematical and spacial awareness stuff, when mine is based more on how well i can formulate creative ideas.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that we are inteligent in different ways.

I need someone who is able to stimulate my thinking, which he can do, so thats all that matters. But there is really no way to say who is smarter, its just not comparable.
 
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^ Ditto...scientific study is going to be far more testing than other faculties of learning. I'm not going to simply judge her based on her "intelligence" though, because there's much more than that that makes her who she is. And I know she wouldn't simply judge me on "intelligence" as well. The whole concept of it has different forms and people can express themselves in different manners that may indicate different forms of intelligence. But in the end those are the gifts that God has given all of us, and to not have particular gifts doesn't mean a lack of intelligence - it's just symbolic of our uniqueness :)
 
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She says I'm a lot smarter than her, but I can't help but notice how amazingly bright my gf is, especially when it comes to theological things (which is best because we've talked about someday going into ministry together God willing). I'm a theology major in college (start this fall), and she is only just approaching 16 and we have discussions about theology on the same level. She's plenty smart, and I think that even if she was drastically smarter than me, I wouldn't mind, in fact I'd be proud.
 
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TerraSin said:
*shrugs*

We all have strong and weak points, so there is really no "smarter" than the other unless we're talking about I.Q.

But the above said it, it really doesn't matter.

CJ

What if we are talking about I.Q? Most of the time, intelligence is measured by I.Q, right?
 
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lozzie said:
You really need to define what you mean by intelligence... eg I could look at the multiple types of intelligences as defined by Howard Gardiner.

Accademically in high school, my boyfriend did better than me. But according to our grades at uni I do better than him. But thats not comparable at all, because he studies much harder stuff than me ie engineering vs teaching. sciences are hard.much harder than the stuff i do. but then it also tests a different type of intelligence, because alot of his stuff is mathematical and spacial awareness stuff, when mine is based more on how well i can formulate creative ideas.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that we are inteligent in different ways.

I need someone who is able to stimulate my thinking, which he can do, so thats all that matters. But there is really no way to say who is smarter, its just not comparable.

Ok, I get what you mean. Thanks.
 
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KristianJ said:
^ Ditto...scientific study is going to be far more testing than other faculties of learning. I'm not going to simply judge her based on her "intelligence" though, because there's much more than that that makes her who she is. And I know she wouldn't simply judge me on "intelligence" as well. The whole concept of it has different forms and people can express themselves in different manners that may indicate different forms of intelligence. But in the end those are the gifts that God has given all of us, and to not have particular gifts doesn't mean a lack of intelligence - it's just symbolic of our uniqueness :)

Thanks.
 
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eh7 said:
What if we are talking about I.Q? Most of the time, intelligence is measured by I.Q, right?

intellegence used to be measured predominantly by IQ, but anymore most people don't put much faith in the numbers. Often times IQ tests are culturally and economically biased. (which means white, western, middle class testees would do best in most cases)

If you look at the numbers, I think my bf IQ is ~10pts higher than mine, but Its really not indicitive. He is a physical scientist, I am a life scientist. He is stronger in math and physics than I am and I am better at Biological sciences. I am probobly stronger in theology to a point, but we were also raised in diffrent churches (prodistant and catholic) so there are diffrences there. I am more career driven, but still a student, he is still a student but also has a full time job. Who is smarter? Idon't think there is any way to measure that.

On the other hand, i couldn't date someone significantly less intellegent than I am because of the level of conversation I expect.
 
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eh7 said:
For male: Would you mind if your gf or wife is more intelligent than you? (and vice versa) Why?

For female: Would you mind if your bf or husband is not as intelligent as you? (and vice versa) Why?

Well, my current boyfriend is much smarter than me, he gets better grades and had a much higher ACT score. This really doesn't bother me at all. For a while it did, i didn't want him to think i was dumb, but now I know about the dumb things he does and that he loves me even if i'm not as smart as he is.

On the other hand, the boyfriend i had before him was...i don't want to say dumber, but something like that...than me. I couldn't stand it. I don't really know WHY it made me crazy and it's very possible that part of it was his attitude about it.
 
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Neither would really bother me. Between my gf and I we have things pretty well covered. lol

And I certainly wouldn't mind her being smarter than I, but I do not do too well with people who are completely on another planet. lol I'd much rather have a girl who is smarter than I... and I'm glad I do. :)
 
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eh7 said:
For male: Would you mind if your gf or wife is more intelligent than you? (and vice versa) Why?

For female: Would you mind if your bf or husband is not as intelligent as you? (and vice versa) Why?

Well my boyfriend is definately more intelligent than me and it annoys me sumtimes but i liek to find out new things too.
If my boyfriend was not more intelligent than me than i probs would like it, lol, i woudl actually be 'big head'.
Noo im good at other things and the other way round. :D
 
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