The standard I am asking for isn't all that high just some evidence not an entire proof
Well, I am giving you the evidence. You are free to evaluate it as you see fit.
Was it your statement or someone else? I will have to go back and check when i have time but the statement was something like we need to make the world a better place.
Well, it wasn´t mine, but now I know what statement you are having in mind.
Since it doesn´t even try to be descriptive of facts I fail to see what sort of facts you are expecting.
As for the statement itself:
What do you think - if we´d made a survey asking the questions:
1. Would you like the world to be a better place? and
2. Are you willing to help make the world a better place?
What do you think the results would be, roughly?
This just to clarify why I think there needn´t be any authority to tell us to make the world a better place - it´s what the vast majority of us wants.
As for persons who answer these questions "no", I suspect that not even a God saying that we should do it will change their attitude.
Then I suggest you go back and re-read.
I would not assume that all interests are in conflict anymore than I would assume that no interests are in conflict.
That´s great. So we can let go the entire "selfish vs. selfless" thing, and start looking where it is irrelevant for any given purpose (i.e. all cases where our interests are not in conflict).
Perhaps my idea of mutually dependent differs from yours?
Yes, obviously.
Mutual in my mind implies some sort of equanimity not simply I get spiritual satisfaction by doing things for you and you get things done for you .
Well, in my understanding two persons are mutually dependent on each other even though they might depend on each other in different ways.
Children in kindergarten have known it for years. Infants know what they want and need without having access to formal language. To be so confused about such a basic thing as to take years to or never figure it out is beyond my ability to contemplate.
Yes, toddlers have a very limited and simple chart of needs.
But we are adults, and with growing age our needs get more complex.
(For example, you posit a need for morality - something a toddler feels no need for).
I disagree, if it does not take into consideration the wants and needs of others, even if it does not conflict with others, it is still selfish.
An action that causes everyone´s needs to be met doesn´t even require us to think in categories such as "selfless/selfish".
I don't see why one needs to be driven by something in order to that something about it is accept a fact.
I don´t see that, either. I guess that´s why it wasn´t what I said.
That is not surprising as it was poorly worded. What i meant to say was that a need is something that cannot be done without. If you need it it must always be there. Just because many questions contain a certain element does not mean that all questions must contain that element.
Admittedly, I am completely lost here. I have no idea what this has to do with anything. If it contains an important point relevant to our discussion, please elaborate.
The sentence below seems to me to be an either or. Can you explain why it is not?
No, I can´t. That´s why I didn´t say it wasn´t. All I said was: It isn´t the "either - or" that you paraphrased it as:
It´s "either sociopath or empathy gifted", and you turned it into "either sociopath or saint".
I do not expect proof of beliefs. I do expect proof of assertions that one presents as facts.
Well, the statement in question wasn´t a statement of fact, in the first place.
So you can assert your superiority. So they can be put in their place.
Are you just taking cheap shots at me now, or are you projecting your desires upon me?
Why then do you wish to keep them from doing things that would be in their interest and satisfy a need of theirs?
I don´t know - I neither said nor meant to say that this is what I wish.
If it satisfies a need of theirs it´s entirely fine with me. I addressed the very opposite: that part that they experience and picture as
not being in their own interest (but a sacrifice brought to me; and/or being in the interest of a higher authority).
A need which does you no harm or may even benefit you in a tangible way?
Well, it is my experience that things done in this attitude
don´t benefit me in a tangible way. That´s the very point. People who are willing to consider not only their but also my interests and needs (which, fortunately, is pretty much everyone I interact with in real life) might be interested in learning about my needs and interests, in the first place. That´s the reason I often tell them, and that´s probably the reason they usually don´t take offense from being provided with that bit of information.
Have you come to the conclusion that after years of considering your wants and needs it is a need or a want of yours to deprive others of the opportunity to satisfy one of their needs?
No, the very opposite is the case, and that´s what I said.
I said nothing anywhere even close to what you are ascribing to me:
1. I didn´t say that others fulfilling their needs is a problem for me (in fact I said the very opposite: It is a problem for me when they do something "for me" that they feel is contrary to their interests),
2. I made no statement whatsoever about how I´d practically go about dealing with this problem; in particular I didn´t say anything about me rubbing it in as a token of their inferiority, and I didn´t say anything about making attempts to "deprave" them of anything,
3. nobody but you mentioned the idea of "superiority/inferiority" of persons, anyway.
These were entirely
your ideas, and I am wondering why you are so determined to picture them as mine. Unfortunately, right from the top of my head, I can´t manage to come up with particularly charitable assumptions concerning your motives for doing that.