Newly divorced

[Goatee]

Well had the Decree Absolute approx 4 weeks ago! Gutted.

31 years together. All my fault. Adultery included. One child.

I see no future at all. Finding it very hard indeed. Soon to be living on my own. 2018 is going to be the make or break year for me.

 

[Bluerose31]

Well had the Decree Absolute approx 4 weeks ago! Gutted.

31 years together. All my fault. Adultery included. One child.

I see no future at all. Finding it very hard indeed. Soon to be living on my own. 2018 is going to be the make or break year for me.

I will be praying that Jesus comforts and protects you.

 

[Goatee]

Thank you

 

[Lotuspetal_uk]

Well had the Decree Absolute approx 4 weeks ago! Gutted.

31 years together. All my fault. Adultery included. One child.

I see no future at all. Finding it very hard indeed. Soon to be living on my own. 2018 is going to be the make or break year for me.

Goatee, so sorry to hear that.

Although you know it was your fault, get right with the Lord first and ask for forgiveness/repent and then believe that you are forgiven in Christ. Condemnation will come in waves from yourself over the next few months, arguably more than from anyone else. By acceptance of Christ's forgiveness and repenting, you will begin to allow the Lord to help you get through the next few months and to change you. Next, when the moment is right for you both, ask for your wife's forgiveness - she will still be hurt and angry but it is the right thing to do and it will help her to heal.

Praying for you and your ex-wife

 

[Goatee]

It was sliding downhill for approx 10 yrs before the adultery. Too complicated to explain again on here.

Suffice to say i have been turning to God quite a bit.

 

[Lotuspetal_uk]

Got you, and no need to explain. Continue to keep focused on Him. Just know that God is a forgiving God...

For those of us who have gone through divorce, we have quite a few "what if I..." moments and it is unhealthy when you are in the low seasons to go through those questions.

 

[dayhiker]

Divorce can be a wake up call.
There is a lot of grief, uncertainty, loneliness, finding out who your real freinds are, financial problems and perhaps a any other of a number of things we usually consider negative.
But it also cab be a new start, energy to figure things out that bother us, new friends, doing things we always wanted to do but had put off etc.
I knew my communication was really bad, so I went to places and talked to a lot of people to practice talking about things I should have said years ago.

 

[SamanthaMathis]

So sorry to hear that. It will be difficult, and the time you have now can be used to reflect. But it is something that will be hard to stop thinking about for about a year. You can still have a future, divorce should not be the end, I hope you feel comfortable with people hear and reach out whenever you are having difficulties or are looking for how to overcome grief.

 

[SheldonCooper]

Well had the Decree Absolute approx 4 weeks ago! Gutted.

31 years together. All my fault. Adultery included. One child.

I see no future at all. Finding it very hard indeed. Soon to be living on my own. 2018 is going to be the make or break year for me.

You'll be fine.

 

[nick garai]

Sometime divorces happen. I went through one. In time with the L-rd's help you will find peace again.

 

[Bradley jones]

So sorry to hear that. It will be difficult, and the time you have now can be used to reflect. But it is something that will be hard to stop thinking about for about a year. You can still have a future, divorce should not be the end, I hope you feel comfortable with people hear and reach out whenever you are having difficulties or are looking for how to overcome grief.

It’s good to see people who actually care

 

[polish_bear_65]

Being depressed is quite normal. The problem is: you gotta get out of this state. Or it'll eat you from the inside.