My name is Aria and I'm new to the forum.
I recently lost a close member of my family and now my sister is alone in Hawaii.
I could use help with consoling her because I am unable to be there with her. I love her very much.
I haven't seen her in yrs. but we do comunicate via telephone.
My grief is great and my heart hurts. Jerry was a long time family friend.
i can't eat,sleep,and am weepy all the time.
I pray almost every waking hour for the grief to pass. Any help on grief will be a great help
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Grief is a healthy and necessary process. It is not healthy to avoid grief or to deny a loss for a long period of the time. Avoidance of grief may lead to serious physical or emotional problems later in life.
Most grieving people do not need psychological or psychiatric treatment. Typically, medications, such as antidepressants, are required only when grief has progressed into major depression.
When professional help is sought for grief, interpersonal therapy is among the most commonly used forms of psychotherapy. This therapy focuses on grief, assessment of the relationship with the deceased, identifying and reviewing symptoms, and encouraging satisfying relationships and activities.
Group therapy can also be helpful. It allows grieving people to meet and discuss their feelings with others who are grieving. Support groups, both in-person and on the Internet, can help grieving people, especially those who wish to receive more specialized support, such as parents who have lost a child.
The most important aspect for grieving people is learning to cope with their loss. People who are grieving may need to keep certain coping tips in mind, including:
Avoid isolation except during prayer. Do not separate your time with God. He is the healer of your soul. It is important for grieving people to trust in God's support.
Take care of physical health. People who are grieving still need to see a physician when feeling unwell. Most physical complications of grief can be eased by eating properly, exercising and getting plenty of rest.
- Postpone major decisions when possible. Grief may interfere with judgment. Major decisions may need to be postponed. Direct attention to other needs that surround your home and family.
Individuals can take certain steps to help others cope with grief, including:
- Listen. People who are grieving need to share their thoughts and feelings with others.
Do not offer false comfort. Comments such as “He’s in a better place now” or “At least she’s not suffering anymore” often do not help and may make the grieving person feel even worse.
- Offer practical help. Grieving individuals may benefit from assistance with household chores or errands.
We pray this is of great assistance to you Aria. Remember, prayer answers a million questions.
hugs and prayer
