New Member Here with Asperger's

[dayhiker]

Lilo,
AS people tend to like computers because they always do have the same responce to us. They are predictable. They can be figured out. Thus they give us immediate feedback that we can understand.

Understanding people are more difficult and as much as some would like one rule to fit how people always react, people can react very differently to the same situation. This makes it had for AS people to understand and know what to do. It take so many years for an AS person to figure out NT people. I've been at it for years. Some of what I've learned makes me not want to be NT. They have issues that I don't have. Their emotions can so dominate them that they can't act differently. But I can think thru a situation and say to myself this is the reasonable thing for me to do and so I act that way. But ofcourse even tho its reasonable for me, doesn't mean its reasonable for usters around me.

hope that helps understand why AS people like computers. Many engineers are AS.

dayhiker

 

[AMK]

Hello, I am a Christian with Asperger's and I am new to this forum. Let me just say that it is a real relief to find this forum and talk with other Christians who are also living with Asperger's Syndrome. I look forward to talking with the other people in this forum.

My opinion is that Asperger's Syndrome is not a bad thing. It is part of my personality and with it come both strengths and weaknesses. I think God made me as a person with Asperger's Syndrome for a reason and wants me to use Asperger's for His glory.

While I acknowledge the strengths of Asperger's Syndrome, I also acknowledge that Asperger's has some disadvantages. I think that Satan tempts Christians with Asperger's in unique ways. The troubling thing about it is that I often go through struggles and temptations that no one in my church it seems can relate to because none of them have Asperger's and are going through the same thing. When I am tempted with regards to Asperger's, it can be a little difficult because there is very little literature or awareness about how to view Asperger's struggles from a Christian worldview.

I'm sure I am not the only one with this story, and I think that is one of many good reasons why this website can be useful.

Hi, I have ADHD/Asbergersyndrom. had it all my life. I was particularly captivated by your comment about others in church not being able to relate to you and your struggles and I simpathize with you on that thought About two years ago I went to a meeting where I found another person who could relate to me in just about every way based on both ADHD &AsB I mean you must have an idea yourself that the chances of that happening are very slim. Even with all the others that had similar symptoms I never ever beleaved that a single person could have what I have. So there is hope out there after all and I beleave for you too. God is with you

 

[ThePurpleFlower]

Hello, I am a Christian with Asperger's and I am new to this forum. Let me just say that it is a real relief to find this forum and talk with other Christians who are also living with Asperger's Syndrome. I look forward to talking with the other people in this forum.

My opinion is that Asperger's Syndrome is not a bad thing. It is part of my personality and with it come both strengths and weaknesses. I think God made me as a person with Asperger's Syndrome for a reason and wants me to use Asperger's for His glory.

While I acknowledge the strengths of Asperger's Syndrome, I also acknowledge that Asperger's has some disadvantages. I think that Satan tempts Christians with Asperger's in unique ways. The troubling thing about it is that I often go through struggles and temptations that no one in my church it seems can relate to because none of them have Asperger's and are going through the same thing. When I am tempted with regards to Asperger's, it can be a little difficult because there is very little literature or awareness about how to view Asperger's struggles from a Christian worldview.

I'm sure I am not the only one with this story, and I think that is one of many good reasons why this website can be useful.

This post really gets to me as well. I've often felt this strange, wistful sense of loneliness. Not as if I need people to be around, and in fact I can easily forget about others, even my own husband in the same room, if I'm working on something. But at times when people are expected to "share" and "go deep", such as in small groups and things, I'm always holding back, because I know that no one will actually understand, unless in the unlikely instance that they have AS. So, it's at those times that I felt a little out of left field, and usually, it puts me off saying anything. Or I'll speak about things in general terms. And I think that's good, to find common ground, but sometimes I'm such a liar, because I'm not following the instructions correctly. Oh well. Life's too complicated anyway.

 

[AMK]

I have learned over the years that life is more stressful If I try to live up to others expectations based mostly on what they see as normal. So I don,t. I accept me for who I am. But I fellowship from a distance and I don,t get involved as much in group activities as that means more people will expect more normal responses from me.

You mention finding common ground? That may exist in small portions and I know what you mean about feeling like a liar. You hold back in small groups because you know they will not understand! Yes I can concur with that too. Its not just about them though. Its also about me. Sometimes I don,t understand or I understand too much!

I agree that life is complicated. But for me thats only if I focus on what everyone else expects of me. If I focus on my own agenda and my personal relationship with christ (as apposed to anyone elses relationship or understanding) then life is just about managable