Never had a girlfriend

[KeilCoppes]

An echo of wvmtnkid, courtesy of a palm pilot search:

Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman." - Prov 21:9
"Better to dwell in the wilderness, Than with a contentious and angry woman. " - Prov 21:19
"It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman. " - Prov 25:24

(repeated emphasis is of interest)​

"As a ring of gold in a swine's snout, So is a lovely woman who lacks discretion." -Prov 11:22

"A continual dripping on a very rainy day And a contentious woman are alike;
Whoever restrains her restrains the wind, And grasps oil with his right hand. " - Prov 27:15-16

"For three things the earth is perturbed,
Yes, for four it cannot bear up:
For a servant when he reigns,
A fool when he is filled with food,
_A hateful woman when she is married,_
And a maidservant who succeeds her mistress. " - Prov 30:21-23​

-kc


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"Better to be single and challenged than married and tormented (at least no one is attacking you).
- Preserve me from the scourge of hateful, angry, and contentious women!" - Proverbs paraphrase

 

[wvmtnkid]

Thanks Keil for looking those up!

Gee, looks like we ladies are a bear to live with!

 

[Breetai]

I have Proverbs 21:9 as my favorite verse...

 

[Salvatore Gonzales]

All I can say on this topic is:

1. Don't be in a rush --this isn't a race.
2. Be sure you end up with the right
person who shares your values.
3. God will provide.
When in doubt, pray on #3.

 

[Chino]

I don't think that girl was playing games with me, I think she was really busy. Maybe I should have triied harder but I know at least I tried. Anyways that was two year ago.

Breetai, I stayed away from party girls, never could click with them, my friends however didn't and some of them got hurt, so I learned by watching in those situations.

Good pointers here, it has definately raised my confidence a couple notches to know that I'm not alone in never having a girlfriend.

 

[mamaneenie]

I just turned 24 and it seems that everyone around me has someone special, and I look at my life and I've never had a girlfriend my entire life. I don't think I'm ugly but I think I look average. I have wondered if something was wrong with me. Girls have shown interests in me sometimes, or I think anyways but I can never know. I have tried before but girls don't see b/f material in me or something. Do I have a flawed character trait that I can't see but others can? I try to be very unassuming and friendly to everyone. I am a little shy and don't always have the smoothest lines or conversations with girls. At times I feel like a pathetic human because because I've never had a girl friend, maybe I'm incapable of holding a relationship with a female and ever being able to express love. Other parts of my life are fine but I"m just an idiot when it comes to love. Can some offer me any advice on being a better person and tips on how take things further from a casual friendship to a couple?

Don't feel bad that you haven't had a girlfriend before. I was my husband's first girlfriend. I felt so special that I was the first person he had even kissed properly. I wish I could've said the same thing.

I would say that you don't need to have smooth lines to impress a nice girl. Just be polite and friendly to her. If you are interested in a more serious relationship, after being friends for a while, just let her know. If she's not interested, I am hoping that she will be kind about it.

 

[onikirimaru777]

wow, im 15 and i havent had a gf. But i guess i cant compare to other people here. *shrug* oh well. Ive always based my chick issues on the thought that God will provide the girl for me and i just have to follow Him faithfully until that time. My time will come. But, until then, im single and HATING it

 

[KeilCoppes]

Thanks Keil for looking those up!

Gee, looks like we ladies are a bear to live with!

You're welcome - search engines are great when you're looking for a package. We should even the score for the ladies, though - I think the women got away easy, after looking at a sampling: :^)

"Discretion will preserve you;
Understanding will keep you,
To deliver you from the way of evil,
From the man who speaks perverse things...-Prov 2:11-13

"A gracious woman retains honor, ... ruthless men retain riches." -Prov 11:16

"The wicked man ... does deceptive work..." -Prov 11:18
"A quick-tempered man ... acts foolishly, And a man of wicked intentions is hated." -Prov 14:17
"An ungodly man ... digs up evil, And it is on his lips like a burning fire." -Prov 16:27
"A perverse man ... sows strife, And a whisperer separates the best of friends." -Prov 16:28
"A violent man ... entices his neighbor, And leads him in a way that is not good." -Prov 16:29
"... he who is cruel ... troubles his own flesh." -Prov 11:17
"He who is devoid of wisdom ... despises his neighbor..." -Prov 11:12
"The way of the lazy man ... is like a hedge of thorns..." -Prov 15:19
"A man who isolates himself ... seeks his own desire; He rages against all wise judgment." -Prov 18:1

"Before destruction the heart of a man is haughty, And before honor is humility." - Prov 18:12


... and remember that the default gender of 'fool' is man... There's plenty to go around...​

-kc

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"Q. 4. What is God?
"A. God is a spirit, infinite, eternal, and unchangeable, in his being, wisdom, power, holiness, justice, goodness and truth." -WSC

 

[Breetai]

Breetai, I stayed away from party girls, never could click with them, my friends however didn't and some of them got hurt, so I learned by watching in those situations.

I'm happy for you. I'm hoping that some people will learn from my mistakes too!

onikirimaru777, I hate being single too! Why don't you do me a favour and learn from me. Don't go for party girls and don't get involved with girls until you are ready to get married. I'll be very much worth it. You'll see!

 

[fishstix]

wow, im 15 and i havent had a gf. But i guess i cant compare to other people here. *shrug* oh well. Ive always based my chick issues on the thought that God will provide the girl for me and i just have to follow Him faithfully until that time. My time will come. But, until then, im single and HATING it

15? Why would you want to have had a girlfriend? Most junior high relationships are pretty shallow anyway
Enjoy your youth

 

[KeilCoppes]

I'm happy for you. I'm hoping that some people will learn from my mistakes too!

onikirimaru777, I hate being single too! Why don't you do me a favour and learn from me. Don't go for party girls and don't get involved with girls until you are ready to get married. It'll be very much worth it. You'll see!

A wise phrase from my dad:: "Don't fall in love until you can do something about it!"

+ my two cents after not paying attention:: "...or you'll just end up frustrating yourself to death!"

-kc

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"If you fall in love with love, no one will ever live up to your dream.
"What a sad injustice to do to a real person who might have been loved for real..."
-kc​

 

[Donny_B]

Treat them like dirt, seems to be a great way to attract the opposite sex.

I was reading the message boards for the 1994 movie Forrest Gump recently and one of the threads was quite interesting and may shed some light on the theory of why some women like to be treated this way..is any of this true?

From http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0109830
{quote}Let's look at Jenny for a minute here. She has a man, albeit a not so bright man, who is a millionaire, famous, has a huge house, and is a war hero. He is also madly in love with her, would die to protect her, and could and would give her just about anything her heart desired. What does she do? She goes and lives with these abusive drug addicts who do nothing for her except give her AIDS and treat her like dirt. How stupid can someone be? Why do women do this? I have had a girlfriend like Jenny. I treated her like a queen, never hurt her, never put her down, was always there for her. Then, she walked out on me for a guy that beats her up. Anyone have any idea why women do that? {end quote}

{response 1}Same thing happened to me. I dunno, thats life.

{response 2}Stupid is as stupid does.

{response 3}Forms of instant gratification, such as money, drugs and sex, will always mean more to women than love. It's just the way they are.

{response 4}Yep, and that's the center of the story of Forrest - love stinks. At least he got his medal of honor back.

{response 5}Hey, Darkfalz, don't be so sure. I used to think the same thing about men! Some women may have given you that impression, but I know a number of us value Love more than any of that other stuff. So don't give up on us just yet

{response 6}Well, I asked a friend of mine about this some time ago. What Orlando said is that a person who is abused starts to expect it from everyone. If someone is treating them right, they always have it in the back of their minds "When is he going to start hitting me?" So instead of always wondering, they leave for someone who will hit them. They cannot grasp the fact that the person they are with will never hurt them, so instead of always wondering when it will happen, they leave for someone who will hit them. I guess that instead of always wondering when they will get hit, they feel better with someone who will hit them, instead of always wondering when it will happen. And I think Jenny really did love Forrest, just like I really think that Christina really loved me. They just didn't have enough sense to realize what they really had.

{response 7}Jenny was a psychologically troubled individual.
Before you start labeling someone as stupid (in such broad terms, no less), maybe you should get some smarts yourself, and find out what the motivations are for one's behavior. Jenny's portrayal and the way the role was written was in fact, right on the money.
If you remember, Jenny was sexually abused as a child. If you know anything about psychology, or victims of child sexual abuse, you'll know that they have feelings of very low self-worth; so, Jenny never felt she was worthy of Forrest's love. Thus, she sought out low lifes who would treat her like ****. She jumped in anybody and everybody's car, she posed for skin flicks, etc. She had no love for herself, didn't care about her well-being, and couldn't understand, or appreciate the fact that Forrest did. Which, is the beauty of the ending. She was able to come full circle, bury her pain, and let herself give love, and be loved. One of the best moments in this great film is when Forrest, Jenny, and a young Haley Joel Osment as "Little Forrest" are walking together hand and hand. {end of responses}

 

[wvmtnkid]

Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman." - Prov 21:9
"Better to dwell in the wilderness, Than with a contentious and angry woman. " - Prov 21:19
"It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman. " - Prov 25:24

(repeated emphasis is of interest)​

"As a ring of gold in a swine's snout, So is a lovely woman who lacks discretion." -Prov 11:22

"A continual dripping on a very rainy day And a contentious woman are alike;
Whoever restrains her restrains the wind, And grasps oil with his right hand. " - Prov 27:15-16

"For three things the earth is perturbed,
Yes, for four it cannot bear up:
For a servant when he reigns,
A fool when he is filled with food,
_A hateful woman when she is married,_
And a maidservant who succeeds her mistress. " - Prov 30:21-23

"Discretion will preserve you;
Understanding will keep you,
To deliver you from the way of evil,
From the man who speaks perverse things...-Prov 2:11-13

"A gracious woman retains honor, ... ruthless men retain riches." -Prov 11:16

"The wicked man ... does deceptive work..." -Prov 11:18
"A quick-tempered man ... acts foolishly, And a man of wicked intentions is hated." -Prov 14:17
"An ungodly man ... digs up evil, And it is on his lips like a burning fire." -Prov 16:27
"A perverse man ... sows strife, And a whisperer separates the best of friends." -Prov 16:28
"A violent man ... entices his neighbor, And leads him in a way that is not good." -Prov 16:29
"... he who is cruel ... troubles his own flesh." -Prov 11:17
"He who is devoid of wisdom ... despises his neighbor..." -Prov 11:12
"The way of the lazy man ... is like a hedge of thorns..." -Prov 15:19
"A man who isolates himself ... seeks his own desire; He rages against all wise judgment." -Prov 18:1

"Before destruction the heart of a man is haughty, And before honor is humility." - Prov 18:12


... and remember that the default gender of 'fool' is man... There's plenty to go around...

Geesh, it's a wonder men and women can live together at all! Maybe we are better off just staying single!

 

[KeilCoppes]

Geesh, it's a wonder men and women can live together at all! Maybe we are better off just staying single!

Yes... Well, I guess those grapes were sour anyway! :^) Seriously, it does make you circumspect.

You have to snip at least one more, though...

"Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies." -Prov 31:10
"Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth." -Prov 5:18​

It is a blessing to find her. Even if you have to sift all the sand in the ocean, if you find the diamond you seek the effort is well worth it. :^) The engineer can still dream with the poet!
-kc

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"In the land of the blind, the one-eyed man is king." -Anon
One who prizes the little wisdom he has and lives it is better off than someone who has no use for anything except his own impulses.
It's better to be poor but free and seeing rather than enslaved to my own foolishness and lost in my own blindness.
-kc​

 

[DJ B.K.]

Check out Sirach 25 in a Catholic bible for more women hating verses. We have a "club" called S25 dedicated to it.

 

[Salvatore Gonzales]

wow, im 15 and i havent had a gf. But i guess i cant compare to other people here. *shrug* oh well. Ive always based my chick issues on the thought that God will provide the girl for me and i just have to follow Him faithfully until that time. My time will come. But, until then, im single and HATING it

Do well in school, read your Bible, and
let God do the guiding to the right girl.
When you're NOT worrying about it,
she will be there.

 

[Kahjiit]

umm i want to know, when am i old enough to have a girlfriend please till me maby 16 17 ?i dont know im hoping you would.

 

[Newsboy1900]

well that really depends i was say if it was between those 2 17

 

[Breetai]

umm i want to know, when am i old enough to have a girlfriend

25, no younger!

 

[Kahjiit]

[bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse], thats to old ide fricken say at least 17 [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] man.