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When I was a little girl, I used to ask my dad how old I had to be before he would let me go out on a date. His answer was always "39"!Kahjiit said:
Some days I wish I would have listened to him!
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im am 29...was saved march 16,2003...and i have never had a serious long term relationship with a woman. i am not depressed...i pray that God will bring me a Proverbs 31 when he knows I am ready.
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I'm 32, and I've never had a girlfriend. Never had any luck with women. I had my first date when I was 24. I sometimes get the blues on the matter; then, I block it out of my head and the blues are gone.
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UnhandledException said:
I won an uncle????? I already have an uncle. . .how about a husband?
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I have you all beat, I'm 32 and never been kissed! I dated a girl for two onths back in 1999. But we never reached the kissing stage (our church has the "90-day rule"). And I'm thinking of remaing single the rest of my life to do the stuff I want to do as well as to pursue a career in law enforcement.
However, a part of me refuses to say never
as well as to pursue a career in law enforcement. However, a part of me refuses to say never
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I'm sure I'll be beat, but these lips have been reserved to 35 and still counting... good way to not get too carried away!Praetor said:
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Wow! I found this thread searching my name on Google, amazing that it came up because an IMDB message I posted ages ago...
The amazing this is that I could have written the exact thing the original poster did as I am in the exact same situation. I am 25 and haven't had a girlfriend, I am just invisible to women. I'm nice to them, I make them laugh, but they just end up treating me like dirt and ditching me when I'm no longer useful or entertaining to them. They are SOOO shallow, all women care about is looks these days and for guys with looks, it's criminal what they can get away with!
I have tried hard to fight it but I am starting to truly hate women. I know that if that happens, they have truly won, but when you get treated so badly for wanting to be nice or friendly, basically have it thrown back in your face with a slap, it not only takes the wind out of your sails but it sinks your ship with a cannon ball...
And yes I've heard ALL the cliches about what I am doing wrong or not doing, and it's just so dismissive. Why blame the VICTIM? I've seen guys who never do ANYTHING right get plenty of girlfriends, because they are good looking or rich.
Anyway, this is probably a bit full on for a first post but I just felt I had to say it.
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The amazing this is that I could have written the exact thing the original poster did as I am in the exact same situation. I am 25 and haven't had a girlfriend, I am just invisible to women. I'm nice to them, I make them laugh, but they just end up treating me like dirt and ditching me when I'm no longer useful or entertaining to them. They are SOOO shallow, all women care about is looks these days and for guys with looks, it's criminal what they can get away with!
I have tried hard to fight it but I am starting to truly hate women. I know that if that happens, they have truly won, but when you get treated so badly for wanting to be nice or friendly, basically have it thrown back in your face with a slap, it not only takes the wind out of your sails but it sinks your ship with a cannon ball...
And yes I've heard ALL the cliches about what I am doing wrong or not doing, and it's just so dismissive. Why blame the VICTIM? I've seen guys who never do ANYTHING right get plenty of girlfriends, because they are good looking or rich.
Anyway, this is probably a bit full on for a first post but I just felt I had to say it.
Chris
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Hi Chino.Chino said:
I'm 25 and I also never had a girlfriend. I don't think I'm ugly because this 35 year old woman a couple of years ago propositioned me for sex! Any ways, I'm now at the point of my life I would like to start dating, but I don't know where to start. My church is quite small and I don't think there are many young women there. I work in a hospital which has about 1200 employees, but usually I see these ladies when I'm eating lunch with my co-workers and I cannot approach them without getting ultra harassed. I'm also the ISTJ personality type. I did make progress this year by asking two women out since August, but both turned me down (one had a BF and the other one was in a really bad mood!)
I'm pray about it nightly and trust God will show me where I need to go and where to meet that special someone. The frustrating part is that I'm pretty decent looking, have a new SUV, a nice job, am financially stable, have a funny personality and I don't drink, smoke or party at all. I'm so clean I could probably audition for "Leave it to Beaver".
I did post a profile on one of those dating sites. There are Christian women who surf the web. Yeah never know what might happen.
To top it off: there is woman I probably would have immediate success in getting to date if I just asked, but she is bit of a party girl and doubt that she is a Christian. I will pray about wisdom for that situation as well.
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Darkfalz, you seem to harbor so much anger for women. Do you ever wonder if perhaps you convey a "woman hating" attitude that repels women? You're only a victim if you allow yourself to become one. Nobody has "victimized" you. So some girls are superficial? Welcome to the world of a woman in which almost all men are superficial and want a woman who looks like Jessica Simpson. We primp, exercise, eat healthy, spend money on nice clothes just to keep up. But then I realized something...God has the best for me. I don't have to go out looking for it.
As far as the theme of this post, don't feel left out Chino. You're not in such a bad place. It's perfectly fine to be 24 and never had a girlfriend. Ask some of your guy friends who have girlfriends if they are as happy now as they were single. Are they spending lots of money? Do they feel the stress of having to juggle a girlfriend, family, school and/or work, finances? Are they strained by engaging in sexual activities out of wedlock or are they severely tempted by it? Has their relationship hindered their relationship with Christ? These are all things that people in relationships have to deal with when they enter into a relationship just for the sake of having someone to fill a void or for entertainment purposes.
Let Christ complete you, above everything else. Until you allow Christ to fill that void, you won't find a woman who will.
As far as the theme of this post, don't feel left out Chino. You're not in such a bad place. It's perfectly fine to be 24 and never had a girlfriend. Ask some of your guy friends who have girlfriends if they are as happy now as they were single. Are they spending lots of money? Do they feel the stress of having to juggle a girlfriend, family, school and/or work, finances? Are they strained by engaging in sexual activities out of wedlock or are they severely tempted by it? Has their relationship hindered their relationship with Christ? These are all things that people in relationships have to deal with when they enter into a relationship just for the sake of having someone to fill a void or for entertainment purposes.
Let Christ complete you, above everything else. Until you allow Christ to fill that void, you won't find a woman who will.
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SuperTech said:Hi Chino.
I'm 25 and I also never had a girlfriend. I don't think I'm ugly because this 35 year old woman a couple of years ago propositioned me for sex! Any ways, I'm now at the point of my life I would like to start dating, but I don't know where to start. My church is quite small and I don't think there are many young women there. I work in a hospital which has about 1200 employees, but usually I see these ladies when I'm eating lunch with my co-workers and I cannot approach them without getting ultra harassed. I'm also the ISTJ personality type. I did make progress this year by asking two women out since August, but both turned me down (one had a BF and the other one was in a really bad mood!)
I'm pray about it nightly and trust God will show me where I need to go and where to meet that special someone. The frustrating part is that I'm pretty decent looking, have a new SUV, a nice job, am financially stable, have a funny personality and I don't drink, smoke or party at all. I'm so clean I could probably audition for "Leave it to Beaver".
I did post a profile on one of those dating sites. There are Christian women who surf the web. Yeah never know what might happen.
To top it off: there is woman I probably would have immediate success in getting to date if I just asked, but she is bit of a party girl and doubt that she is a Christian. I will pray about wisdom for that situation as well.
ISTJ huh?
INxJ (INTJ dominant) over here. The party type drives me insane!
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I don't wonder that. I am pretty sure it's the fact they are repelled by me and not shy of expressing it that I have this attitude. Don't kick a dog every day and then start saying you kick it because it hates you. It hates you because you started kicking it.fluffy_rainbow said:
If it was just some I wouldn't have a problem. It's all. It's become cultural.
Complete rubbish. I see, for example, far more men dating fat women than I see women dating fat men.
Sure men care about looks, but men are far more easily pleased than women are.
Exactly. I would prefer women didn't (all) do that stuff. That's what makes them think at the end of the day they deserve a perfect looking rich hunk.
Anyway, I won't be coming back to this board after the abuse I have copped in another thread. If this is how American "Christians" behave these days frankly I'd rather not be around you.
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Chino, I am the same way. Well kind of. I have had one girlfriend that last 3 months. But it has been nearly 3 years since she broke up with me and I haven't had a girlfriend since. I have been on a few dates and all. But none of those dates have even turned into a "friend," something I have never had in the opposite sex.
I have asked 3 girls out in the past few months and they have all turned me down. I am pretty shy and have a hard time striking up a conversation with a girl. But in the case of the 3 girls I asked out I somehow managed to talk to them for a while. I just don't understand it. People say I am nice, and good looking but not one girl sees this in me.
To be honest, I am tired of hearing from girls that they are looking for the bad boy. Seriously, where are the girls that don't like to be treated like dirt? And what is with the games? I am not going to change my whole belief system to start treating girls like dirt just to get one. It is pathetic if you ask me that girls LIKE this.
EDIT: I will add that girls (at least the girls I meet, which have been all) are SHALLOW and self centered. If you don't want to go out for dinner, don't tell me you think it is too soon or are leaving the country and quitting your job. Just tell me that you don't like me.
I have asked 3 girls out in the past few months and they have all turned me down. I am pretty shy and have a hard time striking up a conversation with a girl. But in the case of the 3 girls I asked out I somehow managed to talk to them for a while. I just don't understand it. People say I am nice, and good looking but not one girl sees this in me.
To be honest, I am tired of hearing from girls that they are looking for the bad boy. Seriously, where are the girls that don't like to be treated like dirt? And what is with the games? I am not going to change my whole belief system to start treating girls like dirt just to get one. It is pathetic if you ask me that girls LIKE this.
EDIT: I will add that girls (at least the girls I meet, which have been all) are SHALLOW and self centered. If you don't want to go out for dinner, don't tell me you think it is too soon or are leaving the country and quitting your job. Just tell me that you don't like me.
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