Never Had a B/F! Help!

[charligirl]

YOu've had some good advice. I read a christian book called the 'Yes anxiety' by M Blaine Smith, it's for people who have a problem committing - don't know if that's an issue for you (with the abandonment thing) but a great book none the less.

 

[Gasemall]

Fighting your fears is the first thing you would need to do before you can actually have confidence over yourself. Either that or just go out on a date with the next guy that asks you and let the adrenline take over (if its pumping). Or just refer to your instincts, don't think just do, never hesitate.

 

[DarkNLovely]

Thank ya'lls SOOOOOOOOO MUCH! I am sorry I haven't been responding as redily as I have some classes to take and I'm currently job hunting! Thank youse!!!!

 

[rateyes]

It is now Summer, and going to be a Senior. I got my first GF the last 2 weeks of my Junior year. I don't like to date unless i can see myself with that person for a long time. She went to a religious camp 4 weeks later(2 weeks into summer) and is now sort of not talking to me for who nos what reason. But during this period of her not talking to me i have found God/Jesus and have become a better person. And have realized i was an idiot, and I am now just waiting for her to fix what shes going through and hopefully say something to me. But I now know that i need to let God/Jesus lead me where i need to go and not what I want to do. But the only thing i feel deep down is to wait, I'm not sure if its me or God/Jesus telling me this, but i looked at what the Bible says love is, and I could honestly say I would/am follow(ing) every bit of what it says and think shes the one for me(but i am young and may be confused(17 years old)) . Look at my signature, i could say i would do all that for her.


You will find somebody sooner or later if you let God/Jesus lead you towards them. I have found God/Jesus once again in doing this. If you trust Him, He will lead you were you need to go.

 

[AceHero]

Dating can be a real hassle. While I don't discourage, I found that nine times out of ten, Mr. or Ms. Right finds you or you find them completely by chance. That's how I met my husband. I wasn't even seeking him out.

That's incredible. Too often we're focused on looking for potential dates, whereas if we just sit back and relax we'll find someone when we least expect it. I spend way too much time trying to figure out how I'm going to get a girlfriend in as little time as possible. But I need to just let it naturally take its course. Laissez-faire s.o. pursuance.

Stop placing your worth on whether you have a boyfriend or not. You'll meet someone, and until then, date yourself! Fully explore who you are. Enjoy being alone: grab a book and hit up a coffee shop, learn photography, get involved in politics. When you are 100% comfortable with yourself and happy with who you are, people can tell and will be drawn to you. Until that day, remember that your worth as a person is not based on whether someone wants you.

And the great thing about exploring yourself is you're going to put your guard down and someone is going to find you. Again, I just need to let things take their course. I'm way too caught up in being 22 and having never been on a date. Perhaps that's a good thing. God obviously has something planned for me. There's no need to rush into something that I'll later regret. Too often I've seen people who rushed into relationships that later seemed the wrong thing to do.