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[womanofvalor]

I know the Word says He will not put more on us than we can bear.
But I feel I am almost up to my limit. My daughter died suddenly, with no explanation on March 2 . Then my mom, who I had been taking care of since daddy died 10 years ago, died on June 17. My grief over my daughter kind of overshadowed everything else. I felt guilty for not grieving more over my mom, but I had taken good care of her and had no regrets. my daughter would also help care for her, so I felt she had the best of care. I do miss her tremendously.
We got through Thanksgiving as well as can be expected with the lonely place at our table where Erin and her husband used to be. He ate with his parents and we didn't see him. He did come over to hunt for deer the week before.
Last week he called my husband over to his house and informed him that he is seeing someone and wanted to let us know before others in the community found out and we heard it from someone else.
But my husband, only today, told me that Jeff said this lady might be moving in with him after Christmas so we needed to get Erin's things out of their house.
I have wanted to go and get her things, but I have not been strong enough emotionally to go back in the house. The last time I was there was to pick out her clothes for the funeral. I am sooo torn right now. I am having a hard time dealing with him seeing someone else. He was on drugs when Erin was a senior and she helped him and even married him to be with him and help him get clean.
So, I feel she gave up her college and future career to help him stay alive. And now she is gone to Heaven.
it's not that I don't want Jeff to have a good life. It's just so soon--only 9 months and he may have been seeing this lady several months-I don't know.
I was dreading Christmas without Erin. She loved to decorate and loved the holidays so much. Now it is so dreary without her.
I only put up a tree so my 15 year old son could have some sort of "normal" Christmas decorations and feel we were still alive.
Please pray for us as we face cleaning out her things from their home. I don't even see how I can do it, but know I must now. I can't put it off any longer.
Thank you and God bless you!

 

[Amin]

Hi,
First, let me say how sorry i am about your loss.
It's a very hard thing to lose a
child. I lost a son a while ago to suicide.
It will be hard going back to the house. I wish there was something i could say that
would bring instant comfort,
But i can't. Not experiencing grief for your mom is pretty normal considering you're still grieving for your daughter.
I lost my mom this past June 16th.
I don't think we ever get used to it.
I guess i want you to know i
can support you with prayer, and I'm sure God will give you the strength to get the clothes.
Know i feel for you, and eventually, you'll be able to move from the pain you're in.
I've come to realise that we don't really get over them, we learn to live with it.
That's just my opinion.
I never want to get over those I've lost.
I want them at least in my memory.
God Bless You.
If you need to talk, feel free
to PM me.
Chuck.

 

[angelkiss]

Praying for you!!

 

[drifter5]

praying for you dear.

 

[Nilla]

You're in my prayers

 

[TexasGirl06]

I know the Word says He will not put more on us than we can bear.
But I feel I am almost up to my limit. My daughter died suddenly, with no explanation on March 2 . Then my mom, who I had been taking care of since daddy died 10 years ago, died on June 17. My grief over my daughter kind of overshadowed everything else. I felt guilty for not grieving more over my mom, but I had taken good care of her and had no regrets. my daughter would also help care for her, so I felt she had the best of care. I do miss her tremendously.
We got through Thanksgiving as well as can be expected with the lonely place at our table where Erin and her husband used to be. He ate with his parents and we didn't see him. He did come over to hunt for deer the week before.
Last week he called my husband over to his house and informed him that he is seeing someone and wanted to let us know before others in the community found out and we heard it from someone else.
But my husband, only today, told me that Jeff said this lady might be moving in with him after Christmas so we needed to get Erin's things out of their house.
I have wanted to go and get her things, but I have not been strong enough emotionally to go back in the house. The last time I was there was to pick out her clothes for the funeral. I am sooo torn right now. I am having a hard time dealing with him seeing someone else. He was on drugs when Erin was a senior and she helped him and even married him to be with him and help him get clean.
So, I feel she gave up her college and future career to help him stay alive. And now she is gone to Heaven.
it's not that I don't want Jeff to have a good life. It's just so soon--only 9 months and he may have been seeing this lady several months-I don't know.
I was dreading Christmas without Erin. She loved to decorate and loved the holidays so much. Now it is so dreary without her.
I only put up a tree so my 15 year old son could have some sort of "normal" Christmas decorations and feel we were still alive.
Please pray for us as we face cleaning out her things from their home. I don't even see how I can do it, but know I must now. I can't put it off any longer.
Thank you and God bless you!

Hello WomanofValor.....
I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter.
God's Peace surround you....
I know it is so hard.

Jesus is Lord...
and He loves you so much.
Just keep crawling into His arms.
They are so big and He wants to hold you tight.

I think...
that no matter when your Son in Law began dating....it would be very hard.
Yes. 9 months sounds very soon.

Is there someone who can go into the house with you.
Perhaps a friend?
Perhaps just someone you know from church that is not a very good friend.

The Holidays & birthdays, etc.... will be hard. That is a normal grieving experience. Just hold your Lord's hand and walk through it with Him.

Do be available for your son. He is so young.... and he needs you so much. Cry with him.

Know that people here on CF care about you.

Let us know how things are going.

Be Blessed, Friend.