- Apr 11, 2005
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First a guy [he's 85 or 86] who likes [I thought] to help me, came in after hunting for weeks and not visiting, and says "I'm not coming anymore." [and he does this every 6 mos]
He's actually mad at me for not wanting to ride in a vehicle with him as a passenger. I've told him repeatedly I have issues with it and then he starts again. So whatever. I'm done with this game. If you can't be a friend and just leave me alone to do as I need... forget it.
He says 'I've known you this many years and you haven't progressed...'
Ok, I have progressed from PTSD a lot and I'm far from where I once was, but his real issue not wanting to be a friend but I know he wants more and I have told him til I was blue it's not gonna happen.
He expects me to ride in his truck for dates and I don't frankly want to go.
So I spoke up. I really don't want him holding his help over my head. Because he does... like today. I could have fixed this or that, I could have picked up a fridge for you to sell... he lists all the stuff I could have IF....
IF IF IF
Then the helper I have who also has serious issues. Severely abused as a child by her mom, blew up because I wanted her to slim down the coats and she blew up. One customer who knows her said 'good luck...'
Mind you... I am a patient person, which I think ppl expect. SO I told her go home and take time off to relax. I cannot allow her temper tantrums to be used as a way of her exerting power... and yet I still have to be nice. MOST of the town and relatives do NOT want her around. BUT I feel patience and calm time may help.
Lastly, had a great convo with a lady and I said after a while I recognized her.. ahhh yes she is the JW. Fortunately we did not go there.
Not after my day.
So, perhaps it's time I see a few things... through the Almighty's help. And maybe I am gonna have to learn how to modify reactions to this as being personal. Not that I like engaging in hot headed issues... because I like quiet. But maybe taking things less personal shows how far I've come. I am crying less. So there's that.