Need some help...

[DDR_Pro]

Hi,
I'm having a bit of girl trouble... I've never been in a relationship before, but I'd like to be in one with this girl... But I have a question. So, me and this girl do stuff all the time, talk all the time, and stuff like that. Last Thursday(the 5th) she told me that she liked me. I confessed as well and asked her on a date. She said she needed a week to think about it because she cared about me too much to screw up and break my heart... Well all this happened on the 5th and it's now the 15th... What should I do? Should I ask her about it? Should I just move one?(haha, yeah right) Should I ask her out again? Or should I just keep waiting for her to say something? Any advice, suggestions, or anything of the sort would be greatly appreciated.

By the way, I'm 15, male, and a Presbyterian


Thanks in advance

 

[Pope Gonzo]

Pray about it and wait. At 15, you have plenty of time to grow up Focus on your relationship with God first, and remember that it's very easy in that age bracket for people to get hurt over relationships. If things develope, be her friend first, and her boyfriend second.

 

[tinkerbell]

Pray about it and wait. At 15, you have plenty of time to grow up Focus on your relationship with God first, and remember that it's very easy in that age bracket for people to get hurt over relationships. If things develope, be her friend first, and her boyfriend second.

Nicely said. It seems that relationships at that age generally cause a lot of heartache. I think it would be great if you continued to pray about things, and work on developing a wonderful friendship with her for a while. See where God leads. If you put it entirely in His hands, willing to follow His leading wherever that is, He will do amazing things!! I pray things work out well. Keep us posted.

 

[Iggster]

I agree with Pope Gonzo and tinkerbell. Just let God lead you. You'll be much happier for it.

Lay low and be her friend. There's no harm in that. Don't push it and keep asking. You might just scare her away. At best, you guys are together. At worst, you guys are still friends.

Always know that God has someone in mind for you. She will be perfect. Focus on Him. And the rest will take care of itself.

 

[desi]

You never should have given her a week to think about it. You have to be decisive. Say, 'if you have to think about it forget it!' and walk away. Then she'll go out with you.

 

[E-beth]

I think you oughta just call her and test the waters. It could be that her parents won't let her go out, or she is waiting for you to make the first move. Call her or email or IM her, however you usually communicate, and just say "Hey...how's it going? Haven't heard from ya in awhile and was just thinking about ya" or something like that.

 

[Pope Gonzo]

If her parents don't want her dating, I'd respect their wishes (Then again, I wouldn't have when I was in high school... so you probably shouldn't listen to me)

 

[Iggster]

You never should have given her a week to think about it. You have to be decisive. Say, 'if you have to think about it forget it!' and walk away. Then she'll go out with you.

Ain't that the truth............

 

[DDR_Pro]

You never should have given her a week to think about it. You have to be decisive. Say, 'if you have to think about it forget it!' and walk away. Then she'll go out with you.

Sorry, but I disagree, maybe she needed to pray on it. She's taking this very seriously. She doesn't want to get hurt and doesn't want to hurt me. I think people should be allowed some space.
Also, it's not that her parents wont let her, she's dated before. But yes, I have been praying about it and will continue to do so.
Thank you very much for all your help. And if have the time, say a little prayer for me

 

[desi]

Sorry, but I disagree, maybe she needed to pray on it. She's taking this very seriously. She doesn't want to get hurt and doesn't want to hurt me. I think people should be allowed some space.
Also, it's not that her parents wont let her, she's dated before. But yes, I have been praying about it and will continue to do so.
Thank you very much for all your help. And if have the time, say a little prayer for me

Of course, you know her better than I do.

 

[Iggster]

You can try the traditional way. Break out the club and hit her over the head with it..............j/k

 

[DDR_Pro]

LOL
I'm sure THAT'd win her over

 

[DDR_Pro]

Well, just to keep you people updated, we're now dating. Our first date was on Sunday and we've got another planned for Friday Thanks for all your support.

 

[EmSchmem]

can I give you some 'taking it slow" dating hints? you can tell me to shut up if you want but you sound like you respect this girl and would take some good advice.
When my husband and I started dating we started right away with a date night. It was our night that we knew we would be together. Most dating couples in our church do this becase we are SO incredibly busy that it would be easy to not have that time. Most couples dated once a week but we dated once every other week at first. For the first seven months actually. After that we went to once a week. We saw each other a lot at different bible studies or other church activites so it's not like we got huge amounts of time to miss each other. Also we didn't throw around the L word early either. We were together 10 months before that happened. we got engaged two months later. We also were rarely on dates where we were alone anywhere. No sitting in parked cars or empty houses. We limited phone contect though we emailed every day. We REALLY limited emotional contact. While a lot of Christian couples manage to stay sexually pure a lot of couples get to emotionally bonded too quick. I'm a big crier but i didn't cry in front of him (except for sappy movies) for months. It causes much heartache when that relationship ends. I am certainly not implying that your relationship won't be sucessful but that possibility is always there. Definately maintain you friendships with members of the same sex. As a matter of fact it would probably be a good time to strengthen them. Romantic relationships are hard work and can be difficult. You're going to need your guy buddies for a lot.
I was out of my parents house when we started dating so I don't know from experience, but I think it would be a good idea to keep your parents involved. Make sure one of them is picking you up or dropping you off for dates. Be willing to have them around while watching movies or even just sitting on the porch talking. I had a relationship in my teen years and we all but totally alienated both sets of parents. Neither set is really over it yet or trusts either of us (I ran into his father not to long ago and he still sdoesn't trust his son completely in this area). My mom always feels like I don't love her. It's been 6 years since we were together.
Just some tips, take them or leave them.

 

[looksgood]

You never should have given her a week to think about it. You have to be decisive. Say, 'if you have to think about it forget it!' and walk away. Then she'll go out with you.

LOL desi, I never know if I should take u seriously or think your joking around. Anyway, if it eases your mind maybe u should bring it up and ask her about what she thought after prayer. But I agree with ppl that 15 is a little young to really be mature enough to hold a real relationship together cause both of you are going to be going through a lot of things in life. As mature as some 15 year olds are there are still things that will take u by suprise and love is the bigest thing of all. There is so much to it that even the most mature 90 year old still hasn't figured it out yet.