need inner healing

[qesta]

CHRISTIAN SINGLE GIRLS WHO PLACE THERE HEARTS IN CHRISTIAN SINGLE GUYS

I HAVE BEEN BOUGHT UP AMONGST CHRISTIANS WHICH I HAVE BEEN HAPPY WITH BUT RECENTLY I PLACED MY HEART AND LIFE IN A CHRISTIAN MALE WHO PROMISED ME THE WORLD...BEEN TOGETHER FOR 4 MTHS BUT THEN HE REVEALED TO ME THAT HE HAS BEEN SLEEPING WITH OTHER GIRLS...GEEZ THAT TOOK MY BREATHE AWAY AND MY MIND & HEART COULD NOT TAKE THE PRESSURE....

BUT BEFORE MY X I DATED ANOTHER CHRISTIAN GUY WHO ENDED UP WITH ANOTHER GIRL WHO WASN'T CHRISTIAN AND NOW I DON'T EVEN SEE HIM IN CHURCH...

HOW DO YOU TRUST CHRISTIAN GUYS I TRY TO HEAL I HAVE LEFT IT UP TO THE MAN ABOVE....SOMETIMES ITS JUST TOO MUCH TO CARRY....

THE REAL QUESTION IS CAN A CHRISTIAN GIRL TRUST ANOTHER CHRISTIAN GUY??? I KNOW I SHOULDN'T GENERALIZE BUT THESE DAYS EVEN CHRISTIAN GUYS WE NEED TO BE AWARE OF...PLS SOMEONE GIVE ME AN INSIGHT ON THIS I JUST NEED TO UNDERSTAND THE MENTALITY OF SINGLE MALES WHO ARE MEANT TO BE CHRISTIANS BUT END UP GIVING IN TO THE WORLD.....

CONFUSED???

PLEASE GIVE ME SOME SUGGESTIONS TO JUMP THIS HURDLE...

THANKS

 

 

[Amatire]

maybe some guy will be willing to explain this to you.

as for me, I just went thru something similar. the guy I was friends with had been openly considering marrying me for a whole year, and 3 weeks ago he almost asked me. That evening he went to church, met a girl and God said "youre going to marry her" and within 3 days they were engaged. He didnt tell me for over a fortnight!

Well I was hurt, and anyone who tells you you shouldnt be is lying. But I was also relieved. Because the truth is, if you put it all in God's hands, he will give you the perfect guy for you, the one he has been shaping and making to fit your heart from the moment you both were born. Anyone else is just a waste of time. and leads to hurt and insecurity. I gave up dating about 5 years ago when I was about 16, because I realised that if the person I was dating wasnt the right person for me there wasnt any point in wasting my time with them. theyd only hurt me. And I wouldnt need to date, God will bring the right person straight to you. The story above is proof of that. This was why I was relieved. My friend was made for this girl, he wasnt made for me. we would have got into a real mess if we had got married!


Last but not least, if you feel like you cant survive without dating guys there is a problem.... a very common one, one the whole world suffers from. That is you aint got enuff God sista! You need to know He loves you, you need to spend your time discovering all the wonderful thoughts he thinks about you. Read song of solomon and think of Jesus' voice whispering over you "You are lovely and beautiful my sister, my bride" get used to calling God daddy and going to him regularly for cuddles. The ancient greeks used to say that the only people who needed romantic love were the ones who werent getting enough love from their parents. God is the ultimate parent.

The friends that I know who have got married, have all come to the point where they said, "Lord you are fantastic, you fill the whole of my life and I know that if I was single for the rest of my life it wouldnt matter because you are more than all I need" not too long later, they have met their husbands/wives. Because you need to get all you need from God before you are strong enuf to have a partner, your partner will be a frail and imperfect human being if you try and get all you need from him, he will dissappoint you, and hurt you and you will suck him dry of all the love he has to give and it still wont be enuf!

hope He heals you and restores your faith in men, they are a lovely species you know! 

hugs

xx Am xx

sorry this is a little long...!

 

[psycmajor]

Realize first that this "Christian" does not represent all Christian males.

Before I go out with anyone, I make sure to find out what they believe first, because if you tell them your expectations first, they may just tailor what they say to what they think you want to hear. Get what I'm saying? You really have to know someone before you invest so deeply into them as you seemed to have had.

 

[qesta]

Thank you for your words of wisdom....i greatly appreciate it....may god bless and take care of both of you.....

 

[ZiSunka]

Any guy can go to church and call himself a Christian, but that doesn't make him a Christian.

Next time, on the first date, ask him about his salvation experience, about what his baptism was like, about what the Lord has been doing in his life since his baptism, and about what his relationship with God means to him. Find out if he can affirm the Apostle's Creed, which contains the essential beliefs of our faith.

If he can't give you good answers to these questions, don't date him anymore, no matter how cute he is or how nice he seems.\

There are a lot of great Christian guys out there. Keep Christ in your dating.