Need advice

[elisablaze]

Hi, new here but didn't know where else to go

First a little background about myself.
I grew up in the church. Went to church off and on in my adult life (am now 33) Haven't been to church in probably 7 years.
I think about going to church but it's hard to go by yourself. I did try to go to a church several years ago and not one person spoke to me. I am shy and felt very uncomfortable.

Anyways to the problem at hand.
I had a sort of date Friday night and found out he is very active in the church. I really like this guy and would like to go out again.
My problem is if I decide to attempt to go to his church....well i don't want to him to think i am going just to chase him. I don't know if this makes sense or not but would appreciate any words of wisdom.
He hasn't asked me to visit his church yet and i don't know that he would. He may not even like me after last night.


~ confused

 

[CeCe]

I think that if you are feeling the urge to get into a church (and do I know that feeling right now) by all means, just GO! If he is as involved and active as it sounds, he would probably welcome you there. Just do what I'm going to do next week.....get in church girl!!!

And WELCOME to CF!!!!!

 

[ukok]

elisablaze,

i think that it would be great if you would go and introduce yourself in the new members forum and give everyone a chance to welcome you to CF, but in case you don't make it there...WELCOME!

 

[allieisme]

I agree with CeCe.. If your feeling the urge to go to church, it's God talking to you. You could always try your friends church (of corse the one you had a date with) you might not like it, then you could try others around your home. I dont think though, that he would even think that you are just going to his church to chase. You should give it a try.
I'm also sorry to hear that not one person in the house of the Lord spoke to you, during your last visit at a church, that is very sad.
I'm still technically a member at a church I attended regularly about 1 1/2 years ago, and certain situations occured and I actually stopped going to church for about 6 mo or so.. I went back to church but to a different one this time, (I'm still at the different church) My daughter kept asking if she could go to "her" church, she didnt want to go to her friends church anymore. So me and my husband decided well it would only be fair, if we gave our old church a chance.
Well we did, and let me just tell you, it was devastating to me.. You would think of all people in a church the pastors' would realize after going to their church for quite a while then no longer, and finally see your face, they would might recognize you and try and talk to you to find out what happened as to why you are no longer attending.
I knew quite a few people there, since I also worked in the nursery as a staff member.
Only one person came up to me before service, and I could tell people wanted to ask, or talk but no one did.. After service the worship pastor came up to me and my husband and gave a hug and a hand shake and said. "om'gosh I havent seen you guys around in a while" and I started to say "Yeah, I know....."
and he turned and walked away, right pretty much in mid sentence of what I was saying.
So needless to say, we havent been back to our "old" church, and we are happy at the one we are at now.
Makes you sad to think people of power (maybe not a good choice of words) aren't more friendly than that..

 

[wvmtnkid]

I agree that if you feel the desire to be in church, it is God pulling you there!

I think when you are looking for a church, you need to visit around and find a church that believes and teaches what you believe. Does the church that this guy attends fall within that category? My advice would be not to try and let your feelings for this guy get confused in following where God would lead you. Talking from experience here. You don't want to fall in love with someone whose beliefs are very contrary to your own.